Angry I’ve been shamed on local FB group?

[FrenchFancie]

I’ve just moved to a new area - we’ve been here about two weeks and I’ve just joined the Facebook group for the estate. I had a quick scroll through and found a post from the day we moved in, showing my car (with registration!) and complaining I’d parked badly because there was a small gap between my wheels and the curb - apparently ‘everyone here parks on the kerb and who is this tw@t that doesn’t know it?’ The post admitted that I wasn’t causing an obstruction, but did highlight my bad parking.

the only reply was from someone saying ‘think it’s the new neighbours at X house’.

I’d parked slightly badly because, on my way to the house I’d been hit by another car (from the side, she pulled out of a junction into the main road and straight into me - so not my fault). I’d had to wait to exchange details etc etc and was late for the moving van so just pulled my car up sharpish.

i loved it about 4/5 hours later after the van was gone. It’s a quiet estate with a no through road, so it’s only local traffic.

I’m really cross this man chose to try and shame me in this way. AIBU to be angry and feel like we’ve got off on a really bad start to the new house? Why didn’t he just come and knock and ask me to move it, or just be patient and wait til our moving van had gone?

also - how should I reply? I’ve drafted a really curt response but don’t think this will mend fences, so sitting on it for now!

I was shamed on our local Facebook page. Someone had posted a detailed description of myself and my dog claiming I’d allowed my dog to foul on their grass. I’m rather petite so they outed me as a teenage girl and that the parents needed to have more responsibility of their dog and their child. Loads of people commented saying they’d seen this person around and doubt she lives in the area and was probably passing through as it looked too nice for her.

I was really upset about the post. I felt like everytime I walked my dog people would stare at me because they believed I allowed my dog to foul and not clean up after him.

Truth is, the mess was already there and my dog sniffed it. I pulled her away and would never leave a mess for someone else to clean. I eventually posted on the group and put everyone in their place. I thanked the original poster for shaming me and my dog but also judging me based on my height. I then told her to look at her ring doorbell footage to see the truth but not to post the real person as it was hurtful and judgmental.
The woman apologised privately to me, she messaged me and said she would delete the post but I told her I wasn’t interested in an apology just hope she feels better than to shame anyone next time.

What the f has is got to do with him how you park? I think you are lucky to know in advance that some of your neighbours are twats so you can avoid getting awkward pseudo-friendships with them.

Ignore the post. Avoid the neighbour. Park how you goddam like.

Aren’t the police cracking down on parking like a twat with wheels on the kerb? They are round here, it was announced on the local police Facebook page. So karma could be about to bite him in the arse if he continues to park like a twat.
Our local Facebook page outdid itself a couple of years ago, reports of a ‘Dodgy looking Bloke’ with clipboard and pen knocking on doors asking for water. Warnings went out to vulnerable old people not to answer the door, ring the police etc. The man was spotted in the village and he was earned off. He came back the following day with a police escort, he was actually from the Water Board conducting water quality tests at random houses.

Local FB pages are shit.
They're all full of people looking for petty arguments.

I would disengage from it and pay no attention.

Leave the Facebook page and give it no more thought.

It's a squabble on FB. Leave it on FB.

I hate bad parking but I hate the people who take photos. They’ve no idea what’s happened in that person’s day. They might have just suffered huge loss/tragedy and are trying their best and the last thing they need is to be shamed.

Just ask the page Admin to delete the picture.

Ignore. He’s a nob and everyone will know that and will have forgotten it if they ever noticed

Surprised by these answers. I honestly couldn’t even get worked up about this. He didn’t know who you were. Someone had to tell him. So it clearly wasn’t personal.

Before or after the shit you’ve had with the ice cream man??

He probably did know who she was. He just wanted the satisfaction of publicly embarrassing her.

Silence is the correct answer but I'd really struggle.

Note that parking on the kerb is only illegal in London
Outside of London it is legal, but you must not cause an obstruction

The exception to both of these are when signs show the kerb/pavement is to be parked on.

It would be reasonable to park on a kerb when the road is narrow to avoid causing an obstruction of the road

For the original post the neighbour is being the dick - a car hasn’t followed the local
unwritten rule of parking partially on the kerb allowing space on the pavement and road - despite acknowledging that there was no obstruction

They are correct that you ought to park closely to the kerb to minimise obstruction of the road
It would also be normal to park in the same manner as other vehicles to keep the line as consistent as possible

But the world won’t end because a new arrival to the area made a parking error !

Report the photo get your car picture removed

There’s always one or two like this in neighbourhood groups. But on the whole those groups can be useful - even just for things like a heads up when the water/electricity is off.

It doesn’t sound like he’s got much traction, and from the buggy comment I’d guess that he’s dug his heels in on an old argument.

Don’t bother replying. But don’t let one plonker drive you out of a potentially useful neighbourhood resource either.

Local FB groups are full of self righteous busybodies who probably loved every minute of the pandemic because they were given license to be the Lorrie dictators they’ve dreamed about their whole lives

I was removed from our local FB page for promoting a walk and talk group during the restrictions - that many on the group showed interest in so I volunteered to start the group. I was told I was spamming by the resident control freak who rules the page like his own personal serfdom

Ignore OP - let the self righteous muppet continue to show what an idiot he is

*little dictators

I'm banned from my local Facebook group. The admins are like little hitlers, if you disagree you are gone. Remove yourself for your own sanity

It'll only be threads full of parking, dog shit, missing cats etc..

Why didn’t he just come and knock and ask me to move it

He's probably a Mumsnetter...

Sorry but he's not shaming you because no one cares about spammers like him on neighbourhood groups. You're shaming yourself by getting into an online fight – people will secretly roll their eyes at the pair of you. Anyway, your comment will push the old post up to the top of their newsfeed.

Message the admin for removal if the license plate bothers you

you can park n the pavement unles its signed otherwise but how would you know anyway if you just moved in

I hate small town pettiness lol 😆 I live in a village and just ignore it they'll soon find some one else to pick up. Leave the group and old your head up high I've been in this village for 16 years and will always be an incomer lol 😆 🤗

Yep. Lived here almost 20 years. My now 18 year old son came home from the neonatal ward to this house and I’m still not one of them.

Report the post to admin and say you don’t want your number plate for all to see. And now you know who to avoid. Don’t bother addressing it publically, he sounds a twat.

No it's not illegal though some places like London fine.