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Is this a bit weird? - I think someone is using my address

217 replies

RushieRoo · 10/06/2023 14:40

A couple of months ago we received a letter addressed to someone not known us. Didn’t think much of it and assumed it must’ve been for a previous occupant.

Then DH took in a parcel delivery. He thought it was for me but once he had it inside he realised although the parcel had our address on it was for someone else - the same person we previously received mail for.

Later someone knocked on the door and said we had his parcel. As I handed it over I recognised him as someone I have seen a couple of times standing near my house in a dressing gown and slippers.

Then yesterday we saw the same guy stood outside our house. A car pulled up and gave the guy a takeaway. Do you think he ordered takeaway to our address then intercepted it? Why is he using our address?

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Speedweed · 11/06/2023 20:23

This happened to a friend of mine - it wasn't a scam, but it was someone trying to get round their crappy credit record which was at their own address.

They used to rent my friend's property, so they had an (old) lease agreement, which was what we think they were using to open new credit accounts at my friend's address, even though the place had been purchased by my friend.

The woman used to call for her post and give a long story about why it was still coming to the address, but she had told the companies about forwarding, blah blah.

My friend accepted it the first time, was sceptical in month two, and then had had enough, so opened the post - mainly credit card statements - phoned up each company and said that the person had moved away, so they needed to stop sending letters, and she didn't have a forwarding address. As it's a data protection issue, the companies updated their records and my friend didn't receive any more post.

When the woman called for her post, my friend just said she hadn't received anything, and so the woman's forwarding instruction must have been actioned (obvs, given that was her story, the woman couldn't then backtrack and say that she hadn't given a forwarding instruction), so that was the end of it.

But yes, definitely open the post, tell the companies who are sending it. Intercepting the post is illegal, but intercepting here means getting the post before it reaches its destination address (this is why a postman won't hand you your post if they pass you walking down the street), no one is going to prosecute a homeowner for opening post sent to that address.

Haugh · 11/06/2023 20:58

Please will you tell us the outcome. It’s made interesting reading.

riceuten · 11/06/2023 21:06

Yes, had this, there are various scams like this. Usually they end up with you footing the bill for someone else’s order

T1Dmama · 11/06/2023 22:05

I would also be inclined to ‘accidentally’ open the letters and then call the company they come from and make it very clear he isn’t known at that address.
mid take in the parcels and not answer the door to him when he comes to collect… again I’d open them, call the company and explain the situation and say you think he’s using your address illegally.
If you see him waiting outside your address again, I’d go out there and tell the delivery driver that you want the parcel delivered to you (as the address occupier) as you believe this man is committing an offence…
Does the delivery can say DOD or anything on it? I’d call the company and lodge a complaint that the delivery drivers are handing over parcels addressed to your address to some guy that waits at the end of your drive! They will have an email
asdress or telephone number that they’re using to send the 2 hour delivery time to and might be willing to forward to the fraud team or something.
No way would I be handing any other parcels over to him.
Also get a camera doorbell so you have image of him and proof the delivery driver is handing the parcel over and not bringing right up to your door!

HarrietJet · 11/06/2023 22:07

riceuten · 11/06/2023 21:06

Yes, had this, there are various scams like this. Usually they end up with you footing the bill for someone else’s order

How could it?

caringcarer · 11/06/2023 22:22

Maxaluna · 10/06/2023 14:53

The parcel collection thing is a known scam. Hopefully you'll be okay, but the scammer orders something to be delivered to the victim's address. The victim accepts the delivery, then the scammer calls round for it. The victim can find their being charged for a mobile phone contract, and have no proof that they handed the goods over to a stranger.

Oh be careful OP. Don't accept any more parcels unless it has your name on. Just tell the post person, 'not known at this address' they will return to the sender.

Isinglass20 · 11/06/2023 22:49

Rushieroo
You don’t actually know his name. It probably isn’t his real name on the deliveries which is why he’s catching the postie trying to look like the house owner in his dressing gown.
Is he also collecting your genuine mail?

riceuten · 12/06/2023 00:20

HarrietJet · 11/06/2023 22:07

How could it?

Ordering stuff you hand over, not paying for it, and then the bailiffs turn up looking to repossess it. Usually a high end mobile phone. Bailiffs are not usually bothered if you’re not the person listed.

Angrywife · 12/06/2023 00:37

ReliantRobyn · 11/06/2023 20:02

You're a chubby funster though

Whatever you're referencing there is lost on me 🤷

CelestiaNoctis · 12/06/2023 01:46

Stop taking in packages. Read the name on the front every time and if its not yours or your husbands then say sorry this is incorrect as this person doesn't live here. I would also file a report to the police about it and him lurking outside your home, just so it's all logged.

CelestiaNoctis · 12/06/2023 01:54

Also I'd call the post office and make it implicitly clear that the post man only puts letters through your postbox and never ever hands it to anyone outside, no matter what they're wearing or saying.

KR2023 · 12/06/2023 05:50

Why do people keep saying "don't take in packages"? I surely can't be the only person who has them dumped outside or in the shed if I'm out. What do you do with them then?? Lug them to the post office with no return address on, bet they'll be thrilled

Obviously op will refuse parcels handed to her with another person's name on

crochetcrazy1978 · 12/06/2023 09:55

I had exactly the same a few years ago and it weirded me out. Random parcels started arriving then he’d turn up to collect them. I found the guy on Facebook (searched the name on the parcels) and messaged him asking him to stop using our address and that any future parcels I’d be refusing at the door. I then checked the name as they were being delivered and told the delivery guy to return them if it was for him. He then messaged back saying sorry it was a mistake and it never happened again. I did actually report to 101 and they were completely disinterested

Newname2323 · 12/06/2023 10:08

Is there any nearby flats/houses they Delivery drivers have difficulty finding? He could be saving the hassle of directing the drivers by using ur address and walking to it?

myladydarbanville · 12/06/2023 10:36

Newname2323 · 12/06/2023 10:08

Is there any nearby flats/houses they Delivery drivers have difficulty finding? He could be saving the hassle of directing the drivers by using ur address and walking to it?

In his dressing gown, with some sort of broom, that he then begins sweeping with outside the OP's house? It's hard to imagine an innocent explanation.

AllotmentTime · 12/06/2023 10:40

You can threaten to notify the information commissioners office. They are knowingly sending personal information to an address that they know is the wrong one.

I got so pissed off with Barclays sending me some guy’s company accounts that I rang the ICO and they confirmed that this was a valid approach!! A bit nuclear admittedly, but if they are sending information to the one address, out of the millions of UK addresses, that they know is NOT the right one, then that’s not good data protection.

AllotmentTime · 12/06/2023 10:44

AllotmentTime · 12/06/2023 10:40

You can threaten to notify the information commissioners office. They are knowingly sending personal information to an address that they know is the wrong one.

I got so pissed off with Barclays sending me some guy’s company accounts that I rang the ICO and they confirmed that this was a valid approach!! A bit nuclear admittedly, but if they are sending information to the one address, out of the millions of UK addresses, that they know is NOT the right one, then that’s not good data protection.

Ugh sorry this was in reply to @ChiefWiggumsBoy wayy upthread.

Toomuchfun · 12/06/2023 12:15

Candymay · 10/06/2023 14:53

This is adorably naive

This is utterly condescending

cupofdecaf · 12/06/2023 13:34

Could easily be a scam. Also could be a mistake, I once picked the wrong street on a drop down menu. I went round after looking at my online order and realising the mistake and explained.

IDontWantToBeAPie · 12/06/2023 13:36

We've had similar ish with receiving lots of post for someone who doesn't live here. They'd registered a company (Companies House) using our home address!

DP contacted CH to have it removed so I'd double check on there that he isn't doing something dodgy with registering at your address.

TallulahBetty · 12/06/2023 13:38

Why are people saying to check credit files? Credit files are on people, not addresses.

HeroOfMyTale · 12/06/2023 13:45

Why are people saying to check credit files? Credit files are on people, not addresses.

@TallulahBetty you are wasting your breath. There is a lot of very bad advice, naivety and people ignoring good advice on this thread.

postwarbulge · 12/06/2023 14:33

If he is wearing a dressing gown and slipper in the daytime, might he be from a nursing home or some institution?

myladydarbanville · 12/06/2023 14:37

postwarbulge · 12/06/2023 14:33

If he is wearing a dressing gown and slipper in the daytime, might he be from a nursing home or some institution?

A broom factory perhaps. Someone canny enough to wait out front for the mailman to deliver his mail and to pretend to be the homeowner sweeping outside the OP's house, and to be there on time, is not from an institution.

RushieRoo · 12/06/2023 16:26

I would presume not dementia or from a care home or some other institution - he’s a young bloke

So far there’s only been one letter (which we put back in the post box marked as not at this address) and one parcel from a health food store. And the takeaway incident. I’ve seen him in his dressing gown maybe 3-4 times and one of those times he was sweeping the pavement.

I’ll certainly be more vigilant about accepting or giving out parcels from now on!

I couldn’t find him on FB but someone has suggested to me he’s living above the cafe next door.

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