Does anyone else find it hard to have to follow rules in life

[Yayitsgoggleboxtonight]

Not rules exactly, not really sure how to explain it.
For example, I’ve always hated working a Mon-Fri 9-5 job, working for a boss. I did it for a long time-teaching, and looking back, I’ve no idea how I did it. My dream was to work for myself and make my own hours, that’s what I’m doing. I feel freer, deliberately don’t work Mondays, as I found them so hard etc.
I don’t like answering to someone else, hence why I’m now my own boss, I really struggled with office politics and pointless meetings and so on.
I’m finding I’m becoming worse with it the older I get. Dd is at Pre school now (they start formal school at 6-7 where I am) she goes part time and the other week she missed a day because we went away. I just really resented the asking her where she’d been and the judgement from the teacher..she plays all day 🤷🏻‍♀️
I realise lots of us probably feel the same, but with regards to school etc, I’m getting a bit worried about my attitude to it all and the fact that I’m increasingly not liking the system
Anyone else like this?

My previous post already explained why I suggested counselling - to help you identify why you feel the way you do and help you move forward in a positive way by developing self awareness so that you can make changes.

I'm not going to mention the exact details of the posts about your DH and DD that I referred to earlier but if you look back on your own posts you'll know the ones I mean.

I recognise all the posts @Dixiechickonhols has mentioned plus there's the ones I mentioned. As you post so often then of course any regular mumsnet reader is going to recognise that you're the woman who posts about 'x,y,z' on a regular basis, I'm surprised you didn't realise that.

I hope you can find a solution to the problems you're facing, counselling can be such a good help as you have a safe person you can chat to and help you find those positive solutions.

You sound like me OP!

It's hardly surprising that there are people who don't fit the mold that modern society expects us to fit. Throughout history there have always been people who don't thrive on mundane routine and sought adventure and pastures new. Moving on as they pleased. Living by such fixed rules makes some people utterly miserable whether they have a choice about it or not!

I'm like my dad. I wish I wasn't. It's hard work not wanting to be tied down and a set to anyone. He just buggered off and travelled and seemingly has no responsibilities.

My version of that looks more like being self employed, working from home, dealing with as few people's demands as possible. We've moved house as a family a few times around the country and our DC are home educated. Eldest is more of a happy conformist, on her way to sixth form after finishing her GCSEs whereas middle one appears to be more like me and her grandad poor thing! Even as a toddler she just wanted to be a master of her own destiny and answer to no one! ..

Sadly it's not straight forward to be like this in such a structured, rigid modern world 😕

I’m so sorry to hear how you were treated giving birth 😞
I think the pandemic revealed to so many people how we are under so much control by the government and systems such as healthcare and education. And how they definitely do not have our best interests at heart.
I think this in itself has been really unsettling for many and is why so many people are now doing things in different ways and living by their own rules.
And yet many of those people are now being labeled as ‘tin foil hat wearers’ when really all they’re doing is questioning the status quo.

You’re massively overstepping here and derailing a great thread. Please stop?

You’re massively overstepping here and derailing a great thread. Please stop?

Hear hear.

@Yayitsgoggleboxtonight Please don't leave the thread. Many of us are enjoying talking about this subject and feel exactly the same as you.

There's no hyperbole in this post. At all. Nope.

Apologies everyone , it wasn't my intention to derail what is a good thread. My first post was posted with the best of intentions to help OP and I only posted a second time to answer the OP, I was in two minds whether to post the second time and I sincerely wish now that I hadn't, apologies again.

I think any issues anyone had with me posting could have been inboxed to me. It’s ok I definitely don’t feel comfortable posting again.

I’m not aware I needed any help with anything…quite clearly I do.

@Yayitsgoggleboxtonight You really don't need help. You sound a questioning person who realises there's more to life than the 9 to 5. Nothing wrong with that at all and definitely something that happens to many of us in mid life.

In the interests of moving the thread back on track.

I can't bear appointments of any kind, they harsh my mellow. My idea of a good week is an empty diary.

Yes 100%, love the freedom that retirement brings, no stress re somebody controlling my life...

Always useful to spot a gaslighter.

Ha I thought that. How to tell someone their feelings aren’t valid without telling them their feelings aren’t valid. Nice.