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We own a cursed spoon…

178 replies

BeGoneSpoon · 07/06/2023 06:34

DH thinks I’m insane, obviously. But 12 years ago we moved into our first flat and there was one item, ONE ITEM, remaining in it when we moved in: a child’s metal spoon with a picture of a staring teddy bear on it and the name ‘Michael’. At first we found it quite charming, calling it The Michael Spoon, and we brought it with us each time we moved house after that.

It took us a stupidly long time to realise that that had been when we started to experience tragedy after tragedy. We’ve had several deaths in the family, some really horrible, and such a lot of bad luck that people freely comment on it.

I don’t think I really believe in cursed things but this spoon now gives me the creeps to such an extent that I’m desperate for it to be gone. The trouble is, if we just chuck it in the sea or something, might the curse stay with us as the last people who had it, and then we couldn’t find it to change that? I’ve Googled curse removal but there are too many different options and apparently it can make the curse worse! Any suggestions? Please help!

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mumda · 07/06/2023 07:53

Bollindger · 07/06/2023 07:32

Place the spoon in an envelope, and mail it back to the house you got it from, so it can go home. After all someone left it in a drawer, and you claim you then became the person with the bad luck. So it seems the spoon can be abandoned.

And sit and wait for the Mumsnet thread About 'someone sent me a spoon'

LifeIsPainHighness · 07/06/2023 07:55

tbh the staring teddy bear would have me longing the thing over my fence - how creepy!

CrunchyCarrot · 07/06/2023 07:56

It took us a stupidly long time to realise that that had been when we started to experience tragedy after tragedy.

If it took such a long time then doesn't that indicate your run of bad luck has nothing to do with the spoon? What made you look back and try to find a source for what was happening, instead of accepting that 'shit happens'? How many years ago did you discover that spoon?

Also, have you tried looking at what good things have happened during that time? It's likely you are focusing only on the bad things now.

Random789 · 07/06/2023 07:57

I think Tesco do six-in-one dishwasher tablet with an exorcism function for the final rinse. Maybe try that?

Hoppinggreen · 07/06/2023 07:58

I am 99.9% certain it’s not a cursed spoon BUT on the off chance it is (and to make you feel better) you should find a way to destroy it and dispose of it away from your house. Then burn some sage or similar

Sigmama · 07/06/2023 08:01

Maudgonne, I am comparing the associating of something special to something that is essentially just matter

Snoopystick · 07/06/2023 08:07

Random789 · 07/06/2023 07:57

I think Tesco do six-in-one dishwasher tablet with an exorcism function for the final rinse. Maybe try that?

🤣

ShimmeringShirts · 07/06/2023 08:10

YABU obviously,

but on the chance you’re not, give the spoon to someone else. You clearly need to take ownership of the spoon to be curse free so give it to someone you really dislike.

Panjandrum123 · 07/06/2023 08:21

I’m with those who say it’s not the spoon, but I do see how you want to pin the series of tragedies on something and it fits the bill. It’s rotten but it’s sometimes the way life goes. Had a colleague who had a good life and then over a relatively short period she had so much bad stuff to deal with. It’s so, so tough but she came through it. Don’t give energy to “what if”.

Do a cleansing ritual if that helps, have the spoon blessed, then get rid of it in the metal recycling.

Thechameleonsshadow · 07/06/2023 08:30

OP, I've had a really awful few years of loved ones dying, it's been a horrible time but I don't feel it's down to a curse (although have felt quite cursed with all the awfulness). I do get the feeling of 'why me?' and not being able to come up with a rational explanation (although it's illness, old age and some bad luck).

If it makes you feel better maybe take it somewhere that you associate with happy memories and bury it there. It may have a cleansing affect for you.

Good luck, it's horrible feeling like this.

samestyle · 07/06/2023 08:35

Post it back through the letterbox of where it came from 🤷‍♀️

nobodywantstobeme · 07/06/2023 08:43

People have lucky charms that symbolise luck to them, so why can't an object represent bad luck to someone?

Willmafrockfit · 07/06/2023 08:58

leave it in a church?
or take to a charity shop?

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BeGoneSpoon · 07/06/2023 09:14

For those suggesting we send it back to the original flat, take it to a shop etc - I don’t want to land anyone else with this ‘curse’!

And for those asking about religion - I’m not religious and don’t really feel comfortable with the church… My mother in law was very into natural arts and I so wish I could ask her! Sadly she’s one of the ones who’s passed on.

Anyone who’s shared their own losses here - I’m so sorry. It’s really hard to go through those times in life.

And for those who think it’s ridiculous, honestly, so do I… But… What if it isn’t?

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SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 07/06/2023 09:20

Give it to someone you dislike.

BellatrixLestrangesHeatedCurlers · 07/06/2023 09:30

Birdy Friend 2: The Michael Spoon!! Seriously though, you can get it blessed (we had our house blessed as stuff kept happening).

londonrach · 07/06/2023 09:30

I would have thought you daft but I was given an Indian elephant which I loved by a family member after they been on holiday.... husband lost his job next day, grandparents both died and we ended up moving from one rented place to another ...I found it in a box and randomly put it in a box and buried it in the rented house garden. In the next few days we left that house and how been settled in our own house and have a child and I can't tell you how different things are. I kept expecting bad things to happen but it's over 8 years now. No idea if linked but dh through the same, he found the box to put the elephant in I often wonder if anyone dig it up ...I might have said a few things when I buried it. Tbh if you believe it's the spoon you might be linking bad things to it. I've no idea if it the elephant but I'm glad it gone ....if you rent somewhere in Banbury area and find an hand sized elephant with mirrors on it buried in the garden ....you been warned ..

TokyoSushi · 07/06/2023 09:37

I agree that it's beyond unlikely to be the spoon, but the fast flowing water sounds to be a good idea.

Gettingbysomehow · 07/06/2023 09:39

Random789 · 07/06/2023 07:57

I think Tesco do six-in-one dishwasher tablet with an exorcism function for the final rinse. Maybe try that?

I'm pretty sure that would count as fast flowing water 😂

Cranfor · 07/06/2023 09:43

Don’t fly tip the spoon into the sea of river. Can’t you just dispose of it at the local top where it will be recycled.

I don’t understand why you think it’s the spoon and not the house itself?

HoldingTheDoor · 07/06/2023 09:50

And for those who think it’s ridiculous, honestly, so do I… But… What if it isn’t?

There is absolutely no possibility that you have a cursed spoon. Curses are not real. We had an utterly shit run of bad luck in my family too including three deaths of family/close family friends in 2 weeks. I'm pretty sure it had nothing to do with the contents of my cutlery drawer or any other inanimate object. The spoon is not the problem, your obsession with it is. Get rid of it without polluting the environment though because it seems that you're going to fixate on it non stop until you do.

HoldingTheDoor · 07/06/2023 09:51

I agree that it's beyond unlikely to be the spoon, but the fast flowing water sounds to be a good idea.

It's not when it involves littering and polluting the environment.

HoldingTheDoor · 07/06/2023 09:52

People have lucky charms that symbolise luck to them, so why can't an object represent bad luck to someone?

Good luck or bad luck, it's all utterly nonsensical.

BertieBotts · 07/06/2023 09:54

Did your MIL go to a local spiritualist church, medium circle, or have any friends into the same stuff that you could ask for assistance?