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Is a self catering holiday still a holiday?

166 replies

bagpuss90 · 06/06/2023 13:40

Very light hearted thread. I’m just curious as to opinions on this. So I was chatting to a friend last nite and I mentioned I was off on holiday next week to a self catering cottage . She said she would rather not go on holiday than go self catering because it’s not a holiday . Personally I think that’s nuts . I love the flexibility it gives. We will eat out a good bit . I’m not at work , I’m in a beautiful place away with my family . How is that not a holiday ?

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SamW98 · 06/06/2023 13:46

I only ever go self catering. It doesn’t mean being a slave in the kitchen, I personally prefer eating out in different places each night rather than being restricted to what the hotel offers.

Each to their own but she’s being ridiculous

BeanCounterBabe · 06/06/2023 13:46

We always self cater as my DD has ASD and couldn’t cope with dining out 3 x a day. We buy easy breakfasts and lunches and often eat out in the evening. We love food shopping on holiday. All part of the experience for us.

Having all four is us squashed together in an AI hotel wouldn’t be a holiday for me. Until we can afford an AI apartment with separate bedrooms or when the DC move out I will stick with the space and flexibility of self catering.

We’re all different though. My DH and DC all pitch in with food prep and washing up so I don’t feel hard done by.

Azealeasinbloom · 06/06/2023 13:48

I prefer self catering whether in the UK or abroad. Not a camping/ caravan person though.
After about 3 days I crave simple food and get stressed out eating hotel/ restaurant offerings 3 times a day, at times of the hotels choosing.
I like the freedom of not having to be up for housekeeping etc, and there’s generally more space than a hotel.
Even more so if the weather is a bit iffy. But you have to choose your cottage/ gites well , to make sure it’s comfy, etc and handy for pubs/ restaurants/ food stores.

ChessieFL · 06/06/2023 13:50

Well if she’s thinking about cooking/preparing 3 proper meals a day then she’s right, that’s not a holiday. But if it’s like most people do and eat out most days so it’s only breakfasts/snack meals in the accommodation then that’s a great holiday!

Postbox87 · 06/06/2023 13:50

Sounds like a perfect holiday to me :)

IamRoyFuckingKent · 06/06/2023 13:50

It is a holiday if

the house is as nice or nicer than my own house
The area is interesting
I have groceries delivered before I get there for basics like coffee and bread
we eat out every night and I don't cook and I've booked it all in advance
I lie in and the blinds are dark enough

BarbaraofSeville · 06/06/2023 13:50

I agree with you OP. But you'll get a load of people coming along to talk about all the completely unnecessary cooking and cleaning that they 'have' to do.

Wicksytricksy · 06/06/2023 13:51

Pre kids I'd have agreed but now with two young children and a limited budget, a Airbnb or cottage with two bedrooms is a much better holiday option for us. We have breakfast there and then eat out most of the time unless we were going to an attraction when I'd take a packed lunch or if the kids are shattered, then we'd get a takeaway or shove some pizzas in an oven. It's much more convenient for as a family.

I find staying all in one hotel room far more difficult for a holiday than self catering.

Spidey66 · 06/06/2023 13:51

I love self catering too. Its so flexible.....eat when and what you want.

MariaVT65 · 06/06/2023 13:52

What bollocks! I once went self catering with my best friend in Greece as we were skint students and lived on pasta. Had absolutely fantastic time though! You can still treat yourself to dinner out as well!

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 06/06/2023 13:52

Nope sorry not in my world- if I have to cook and clean it’s not a holiday, it’s a stressful way of looking after children, as it’s usually a smaller unfamiliar space. I would rather not holiday, and spend money on a week of meals out at home.

redskylight · 06/06/2023 13:54

We always self cater as it gives you more flexibility.

We don't do any more cooking than putting a pizza in the oven or roasting a chicken to have with salad, though.

I'd hate to have to eat out for 3 meals a day, everyday. I'd find always having to go out for meals less restful.

Grumpyfroghats · 06/06/2023 13:55

I much prefer self catering. A few reasons:

Having space - separate sleeping space for us and the kids and somewhere to sit in the evenings

Being able to assemble light meals - e.g. salad - otherwise eating out is often unhealthy food/big portions

Being able to make drinks - tea/coffee, but also have the booze that we like

Eating out when we want to rather than because we have to

Having a washing machine so we don't have to pack everything we need for a week and if the kids get their clothes really mucky, we can wash straight away

redskylight · 06/06/2023 13:56

I don't consider having 2 adults and 2 children in a hotel family room to be much of a holiday. I mean, that's less nice than my own house!

MoreMeltingThanMoments · 06/06/2023 13:56

Well ...

It takes ages to find anywhere because you’ve left it so late and then your husband bravely says… ‘As it’s only for 4 days in the UK, there won’t be much stuff to take will there?’

WHAT??

Doesn’t he realise that everyone always packs for 4 days, regardless of how long they’re away for? You also have to ‘pack up the house,’ find someone kind enough to feed the cat as well as fish number 2s out of the litter tray AND you won’t sleep a single wink unless you take your own pillow.

So there you are, finally whizzing up the motorway at 11 miles per hour. A combination of road works and an accident ‘somewhere in Cheshire’ and, instead of arriving in time for a whole evening at ‘the holiday place’, you’re making beds at 10pm with children behaving like baboons and you can’t find a socket to charge up your phone. Then you spot one – well not one exactly but one and a half. The other half is obscured behind the radiator…surely there must be another one?

Er…nope.

Luckily you’re wise to this sort of trick and have brought an extension ‘dooda.’ What you hadn’t catered for however, was this socket being wedged between the wall and the far side of the bed, so drying your hair is simply impossible. No worries, there’s no point drying it anyway because the weather’s so awful. Your hair blows sideways right across your eyes every time you set foot out of the front door. In fact the wind and rain have done such weird things to it that you now look like a water buffalo.

This hasn’t gone unnoticed by either your husband or the kids.

You’re secretly ploughing your way through the fizzy bubblegum bottles you’ve stashed behind the kettle when ‘Tesco’ arrives. A rather cheery youth asks you how long you’re staying for because he’s never seen such a large order in all his life. You suddenly realise he’s right and what the hell are you going to do with it all?? The wine can’t possibly be a problem but all these onions? Did you really order 6 bags of 8 onions…?

You look around and realise there isn’t actually anywhere to put any food. You shove it anywhere you can…under the table, behind the sofa, in the wellies…and start cooking.

Family of five. Spag Bol. You pull out the two largest pans in the cupboard. The bigger of the two is just right to cook spaghetti for TWO people and the smaller of the two would be perfect for heating up a tin of ambrosia creamed rice (if you had one and wanted to eat it).

Emergency text to ‘David’ who owns the cottage about a) the pan thing and b) the dead-as-a-dodo DVD player.

Next thing you know, a very lovely man in a high viz jacket is pushing his way through the buffeting gales to your front door, with a couple of enormo old fashioned pressure cookers and a SCART lead. You don’t like to mention the wifi is down too and vow instead to spend quality time talking to your beloved and your children.

By Day Two you find yourself hanging out of the front bedroom window ‘just to see if it’s working’. It’s not quite enough to check Facebook or Twitter but it’s enough to receive an email from Tesco to say they’re coming again tomorrow at great expense, with an order containing just 3 items that you completely forgot to cancel three days ago. You have 6 hours until the cut off time for amendments but you can’t connect long enough to cancel the order. At least you won’t have to put up with that ‘this is the largest order I’ve ever seen remark’ again. Instead you get a cheery ‘oh don’t worry, this isn’t the smallest one I’ve had, do you need help carrying it inside?’

You go to a theme park and just as you’re unloading the youngest from the car, you notice a distinct smell burning rubber and two large screws sticking out of one of your tyres. Your husband goes off to sort it out leaving you and the three kids (one in the middle of potty training and without enough spare clothes as it turns out) to the joys of the theme park. He returns several hours later with a boot full of wheel. No replacements available before the trip home he says. So now you have nowhere to put your luggage, you’re not allowed to drive home faster than 50mph on the spare and you husband states it will be impossible to put your beloved pillow anywhere other than directly underneath this wheel on the way home.

When you get back to the cottage you realise you completely forgot to order beans and chilli for the chilli, and your youngest has drawn all over their sofa. Thankfully he’s only drawn on the removable arm covers (your view of these has now completely changed). You put them in the wash and minutes later, the kids are prancing about with the other arm covers on their heads, looking like Darth Vader.

‘Can we have ice-cream for pudding?’ asks the 6 year old hopefully. No you can’t – mainly because the ice compartment of the fridge/freezer is no bigger than an envelope, so even if I’d remembered to add some to the Tescos order we’d have had to finish it all at 9:36am when it was delivered.
Finally it’s bath time for the kids and with a glass of wine in one hand you realise you’ve got in a total muddle with the ‘linen pack’ and you’re drying the youngest with a bath mat…

Despite all this though, the kids have an absolute blast, you manage one lie-in, ‘a couple’ of bottles of wine and see an alpaca…

So I’m not sure 😃

Ormally · 06/06/2023 13:56

I've come to prefer self catering now, after experiences in hotels from the budget conscious to the quite posh have all meant noise from next door or below that is enough to wake you at night. Maybe I'm a lot more sensitive to noise than I was, but that's the thing that stands out. Couple of experiences with repeated noise like coughing or possibly worse, which really were not too pleasant to be anticipating.

For a business trip in the Autumn, I have gone for a £50 self contained place, over a fantastic offer in a 4*, because it's a Friday night in a big city and I will be needing sleep and more energy than normal for both days.

I like the odd overnighter with a big breakfast or similar, but not too many days of it in a row.

Anoisagusaris · 06/06/2023 13:59

Self catering doesn’t mean you have to cater for yourself. It means you have more space than a hotel room, can to different restaurants every day, have the facilities to store and serve delicious local food and wine. But some people are happy to eat all inclusive every day.

AlyssumandHelianthus · 06/06/2023 14:00

It can be a holiday or it can be surviving in unfamiliar territory as the family slave. Depends how you do it!

Grumpyfroghats · 06/06/2023 14:00

redskylight · 06/06/2023 13:56

I don't consider having 2 adults and 2 children in a hotel family room to be much of a holiday. I mean, that's less nice than my own house!

I totally agree. Hate sharing a room with the kids.

Stressfordays · 06/06/2023 14:01

I like both. Love an easy going all inclusive where I don't have to worry about spending money and the kids asking for 12 ice creams a day. I also love a self catering and eating out at different places or cooking a nice meal and playing games.

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 06/06/2023 14:01

The only self catering holiday I've been on have been CP style breaks, so really the only food made in the lodge are buffet style foods - the rest of the meals would be eating out - and that doesn't bother me.

Wouldn't want to go away for a week and make proper meals. I'd find it harder than doing it at home, it just wouldn't be relaxing.

TheChosenTwo · 06/06/2023 14:01

It’s the only way I like going on holiday as a family!! Eat a lazy/late breakfast in the villa/house or whatever we’re in and then out for lunch and dinner.
dh and I went on holiday without the dc and booked an all inclusive place, lovely but not something I’d want to repeat. Just prefer the flexibility of suiting ourselves when there are more of us, much easier and more relaxed.
Each to their own though, some people we know take all the food to cook 3 meals a day from home to the holiday place and spend the whole time cooking and cleaning. Defeats the purpose for me, all the packing up of the food and then cooking all day!
another family I know do similar but also include most of their home cooking/kitchen equipment!

TooOldForThisNonsense · 06/06/2023 14:01

I like SC but it has to be at least comparable to the standard I would have at home ie good sized bed, dishwasher etc.

Zipps · 06/06/2023 14:04

Yes of course it's a holiday, it's not everyone's choice but it's still a holiday.
I preferred not to do self catering with dc but it's just me and DH mainly now so don't mind especially if we're in our campervan with our dogs. We have M&S ready meals, go out for fish and chips or restaurants at night.
We go to center parcs every year with dc and gdc and have easy breakfast or book the pancake house, eat out at lunchtime then bbq or pizza or takeaway in the evening.

Opaque11 · 06/06/2023 14:07

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 06/06/2023 13:52

Nope sorry not in my world- if I have to cook and clean it’s not a holiday, it’s a stressful way of looking after children, as it’s usually a smaller unfamiliar space. I would rather not holiday, and spend money on a week of meals out at home.

Same here. What flexible are you talking about? It's just work and a faff to cook and also do a shop. I'm also very fussy about using other people's kitchens and stuff.