to hope my husband will 'help' our baby girl mark my first mothers' day?

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I am really looking forward to this Mothers' day as last year when we were pregnant I day dreamed for hours about wht it would be like etc etc....

DH is fantastic husband/father etc but is a man [gasps at lack of political correctness] and I'm sure he wont think too much about it.

Don;t want to ask for a gift as such but would love some kind of momento....

Am I being a cow?

No your not.

Why don't you give him a gentle reminder, this is what i do with DH.

I just say to him 'Do you want me to get a card for your mum for mothers day on xxx date.

No you are not being a cow. I personally spell things out for my dh, it is the only way.

Tell him what you're getting your Mum for mother's day and ask him what he wants to get for MIL - that should do the trick.

Last year when it was my first mother's day, I was woken up by DP to request my help changing DD's nappy as she'd had one of her 'emergency poos' which required all hands on deck and everything cleaned within four feet of the changing area...he had totally forgotten....

Then they both went food shopping and he obviously saw the signs in the shop windows while they were out and came back with a lovely card and mug .

So not a cow. In similar position. Have to drop lots of subtle (and some not so subtle hints). Usually works.

I have made my expectations crystal clear. It's my birthday on MD this year too.

YANBU. This is the time that you build up a beautiful family tradition for years to come- can't be done without a bit of nudging

And it's probably a bit early to expect dc to bring you breakfast in bed all of his/her bat.

I am giving dd (11) very strong hints about the sort of attention I think would be appropriate for this year's Mothering Sunday. Last year she and ds (then 6) went round the COOP on their own and got together food for a basic 3 course meal (I did provide the money though), which they then prepared. This year I am hinting that maybe something a bit more home-cooked than ovenready fish and chips might be within their scope... Dd seems to think that this is totally OTT and tells me most of her friends aren't even trusted to boil the kettle. Pathetic!

But she's not actually as gormless as she tries to make out- if I stop nagging now, I may actually get what I want.

Def not unreasonable. I have said that it is DH's job to help DS to mark mothers' day, as DS is only 4.5 months, and hasn't learnt to shop yet....
I have also reminded DH that mothers' day comes before fathers' day.....

I said to DH the other day "If the DCs are not sure what to get me for mothers day then I would really like a voucher for a facial". Until that point I don't think he knew that it was coming soon. That way we are all happy! Would also need to remind him to get his mum something so it has to be mentioned at some point.

I remember that on my first mothers day I was really worried that DH would forget. I didn't mention it so was v relieved when DC1 was carried into the room with a card in his hand. Think I might have cried if DH had forgotten!

Drop hugh hints! My man is lovely but just a man. Told him before we got married don't forget valentines as I never got valentine cards as a kid and felt left out. He Never Never forgets. I forgot our anniversary. So none of us are prefect. have you noticed I've already had a few glasses.

Not unreasonable but don't pussyfoot around with subtle hints just tell him that mothers (and fathers) day means alot to you so he's expected to put in the effort.

If he's anything like my DH he'll appreciate the heads up!

My DP has said he's buying me a mother day prezzie from the bump... and he thought it up all by himself.. so maybe he's already getting you something and you're assuming he won't.

Just say all excitedly 'I can't wait to get my first mum's day prezzie of dd.. you best get your thinking cap on, she'll be relying on her daddy'.

Then it's said. And he can't get out of it.

I'm so sorry, I';ve assumed your baby is a girl.... I don't even know why!!! I take back the DD and make it DC.

My first Mother's Day was crap. It was five years ago and it has spoiled the whole day for me forever more. I hope you don't suffer a similar fate.

I'm in the same boat, spent half of Mother's Day last year under GA while they yanked DD out of me...so I will be v peeved if DH doesn't manage a card and token gift!

I said to DP today "I think DS really wants to get me some flowers for mother's day but he will need some help getting to the shop, choosing them, and paying for them". I will leave it at that and hope it works. Last year, I didn't get anything apparently because I dropped too many hints....

My dd is 6 weeks old and DH is generally clueless. My hopes aren't high...

I don't wish to hijack this thread but is it acceptable to buy my own card and write nice things in it?

No, if you do that, you will have to do it every year. However, it is perfectly acceptable to go buy yourself a really expensive day at a really expensive spa 1/2 way round the world if he forgets to to pamper you on Mother's Day.

i always shove a card for his mother under his nose a week before, then watch as slight panic overcomes him.

Ooh he must help her remember it especially as it's the first one. Can't you just in a jokey way let him know it's important.

I clearly remember the first MD when I'd had dd (9 yrs ago now ). Dh had put some flowers in her room from her to me and the note said 'To Mummy, Thank you for having me'

am i the only mother on here who hates getting flowers?

i dont hate flowers, only when they cost 50 quid a bunch on mothers day, father have the money.