To think BIL takes the piss?

[sahayaway]

My dad usually pays for four long weekends away every year. He spends thousands of pounds. He wouldn’t accept us paying towards it.

What annoys me is my brother in law plasters photos of the weekend and conveniently only includes photos of my sister (his wife) and their children in them. None have any of us even in the background or when we’re at the restaurant together etc. he even hid that one of these weekends was for my dads birthday, he made no mention of it or had my dad in any of the photos.

If you’re one of his colleagues or friends you would assume it’s him that’s treated his family to a trip away.

Adults in the real world don't thank each the on social media! (well some do but they are attention seeking)

Did BIL and wife say thanks in person? Much more appropriate than flagging my fabulous FIL/DF on insta.

Seriously?

Really?

You'd be happy to boast - which SM is - about a weekend away which has been paid for by someone else without acknowledging them?

So politeness has fucked off has it?

OK.

I won't bother saying Thank You ever again.

Are you always this angry with your BIL?

Your BIL posted photos of a lovely weekend away and didn't include extended family. Good, because he should ask for permission before posting photos of the rest of you.

You think he's trying to imply his amazing income paid for this, do you, OP? (and who cares if he did, that would be a pathetic thing to do and make him a laughable figure)
Or is it just the lack of public praise for your father? (is your dad even on social media? would he give a shit?)

As long as he thanked your father in person for the treat, I don't see why he needs to do so on social media. Unless he's actually saying "wow, that cost me a lot but was worth it", he isn't pretending anything.

If it bothers you that much, why don't you comment on it saying something like "such a lovely weekend, dad is so good to us isn't he".

Is your dad upset about it?

I don't post pictures of anyone without their consent, maybe your BIL feels it only appropriate to share pictures of his wife and kids. Sounds like your BIL rubs your up the wrong way in general?
He may give the pictures no real thought and doesn't care if people think he paid... Either way this isn't a slight towards you or your dad

I assume you have an issue with your BIL other than this. Because this is really a non-issue.

I would just post "it was wasn't it?! Lovely of Dad to treat us ☺️"

I get it. Cutting everyone else out of memories of a family trip is presenting an exclusionary picture. I think posters are jumping to the conclusion you wanted photos of you up/extended family whereas you are prob meaning if your dad's good enough to treat everyone, and social media is recording it, there's a weird dynamic to skewer it for just his own 'group'. I'm sure a scenic view and a comment saying weekend with x family for bday would have meant you'd have no issues OP. Think you're getting a hard time here.

Find some group photos or take some next time and tag them all. And do the comments under each so he can't pretend you don't exist/gaslight the memories of the weekend...rude bugger

@pussycatinfluffyslippers saying thank you is polite, as this poster suggests. Mentioning on social media is a way of showing everyone you are saying thank you, which is not quite the same thing.

Is he appreciative to your father? Does he say thank you? I don't think posting on social media what he does is an issue unless there's a bigger picture of ungratefulness and treating your dad like crap whilst accepting the holidays.

I rarely share pictures of others on mine. A few people don't like them bring shared and want to keep kids off the internet

Confused why people are advising to comment on the pictures saying “isn’t it nice of dad to treat us” why should OP do that? What her BIL posts on his social media i far from her business, it’s not up to her what he posts.

this sounds deeper then a few pictures on social media and tbh sounds spiteful! Why should he glorify that your dad has paid for a family trip? This is completely not an issue!

as another poster said he’s probably said thankyou to your dad in person which means alot more then a social media post! Let it go ffs, why would you want to make a big deal out of this? Clearly he’s paid for your sister too, your sister has obviously thanked her father probably from them both! I wouldn’t want to cause a massive issue potentially upsetting my sister/BIL over how he’s posting photos on social media 🤔

Did you also benefit from £5k worth of holiday?

Why do you care about what his friends think? Does it matter?

It sounds to me as though he's respecting your dad's privacy. I have never put an identifiable photo of someone else on my social media, ever.

@jackstini and @Whatonearth07957 Cheers for that - I was feeling a bit outnumbered by the massive ingratitude of some posters...

It's all gone a bit King Lear

No one puts up holiday pictures and then states who paid for it. People don’t post: Lovely two weeks in Mallorca, paid for by father in law. Total came to £4354

Nothing pisses me off more than people posting pictures of my family on their social media pages. Perhaps he’s being courteous. You are getting worked up over nothing. You sound a bit petty like your miffed that people may think your BIL is better off than he actually is. What do you want him to post ‘FIL is loaded and pays for my holidays that I couldn’t possible afford on my own.’

Keep your beak out.

Can't find any other posts by the op but suspect there's more to it...

Did you read what I posted?
Saying thanks in person is polite
Posting thanks on social media is odd at best and quite rude as the person may not want public thanks.

Why?
Honestly I dont understand why?

You thank the person directly
You dont signal it to the world and possibly humiliate them?

She’s not actually thanking her dad in the comments of her BIL’s instagram though, is she? It’s very likely the dad would never actually see it.