To think BIL takes the piss?

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My dad usually pays for four long weekends away every year. He spends thousands of pounds. He wouldn’t accept us paying towards it.

What annoys me is my brother in law plasters photos of the weekend and conveniently only includes photos of my sister (his wife) and their children in them. None have any of us even in the background or when we’re at the restaurant together etc. he even hid that one of these weekends was for my dads birthday, he made no mention of it or had my dad in any of the photos.

If you’re one of his colleagues or friends you would assume it’s him that’s treated his family to a trip away.

If I was away with in-laws I wouldn’t post photos of them social media, who paid wouldn’t come into it.
You’re being ridiculous. Does he have to mention he didn’t pay every time he talks to someone about the weekend to make you feel better?

Does your father have the same issues with it?

When I see posts from friends I spend exactly zero time thinking how much it was or who pays for it!

I actually think it's really respectful of him not to plaster family members photos about and just to stick to him, DC and his wife - presumably all people he knows are totally happy being included and with their photos being shared.

Beautiful Sunny day

lovely generous father

Lots of family holidays

and yet you seethe with anger and resentment

I see from your other thread that you are single and I would take a punt you don’t have any friends. So you are spending this Sunday ruminating on all the things that piss you off

that is no way to live. I truly pity you

Do sane people actually do big public displays of passive aggression like this?

If you are that bothered tell your dad

You sound very bitter, unless your dad has already said he is bothered about it I can imagine he couldn't care less

Are you posting pictures on social media and tagging your sister and her family in?

Maybe your bil doesn't like you so doesn't include you in his photos?

Comment on his posts, "hope you and the family enjoyed dad's birthday weekend break, what a treat we had aren't we lucky!!."

Although I don't think it's worth making a fuss of, I do see your point, he's basically giving the impression he goes on all this trips with just his family, social media eh...

Is your Dad even likely to see these pictures and captions on FB? If not then just unfollow your BIL (if you can do that - I don't have FB myself!) and save yourself getting wound up. If your Dad is seeing this then if it would make you feel better tag your Dad in the comments and say something like, "Great weekend wasn't it, thank you Dadname for your generosity once again!' and stick a group photo in there as well. I couldn't be arsed though 😆.

Very peculiar people like @pussycatinfluffyslippers do

Some people would actually think it's really considerate that he doesn't include them in the photos he posts.

Are you there when he's having the conversations? Do you hear him saying 'yes, I paid for this myself!'

Great minds think alike!

I post the occasional family holiday picture, but I don't feel the need to state the minutiae of who actually paid - why would anyone need to know this?

Is he actually stating that he has paid for the weekend away?

I think you are drawing some really strange conclusions.

Charming!

Do you feel that your BIL (and SIL pressumably) are obliged to post some sort of disclaimer informing the general public that they didn't pay for the holiday itself?
People post what they want (or don't want) to post. Isn't that what you do?

Fuck me. Can we swap lives if this is all you have to stress about.

£5k for their share of a weekend away?
Where are you ?
Honestly if your dad is paying up to £20k per time (assuming their share is £5 - so £20k a time for each weekend?) x 4 for weekends away - is that really worth it?

He's not doing anything wrong.

So you relate to the OP?

I don't have this problem thankfully, no fb or any messaging sites, it's not for me.
I just don't understand why people use it then others moan about the fact their photos weren't liked 80 or 90 times within 10 minutes of being posted.
Mn has been a real education for me on the subject.

My eldest DD and my Son In Law's family pay for weekends away and give free usage of their holiday cottage and caravan. They'd be mortified to be tagged on FB. It's given because they are kind, generous people. They know how much my skint DD with her two children appreciate it. If your parents are bothered then they just tag him along with a picture, but I'd put money on them not being bothered. We all chip in for my DD to take her eldest abroad for her birthday, none of us want thanks.

No, but I think you sound like a bit of a cow, quite honestly.

People are weird. I see why are you irked. Your dad paid and your bill is posing as treating his family to fancy days out. When he is in fact benefiting from your dd generosity and pretending he is paying for it himself.

What's aggressive?

OP would be thanking HER DAD who paid for it all.

BIL didn't make any contribution, bar a sperm or 2... who gives a 💩 about him? 🤷‍♀️

Harsh but fair

Yabu posting photos of people on sm is shaken grounds I have a mixture of friends and family that are either hey take a photo of me quick or omg please don’t take any photos of me I really hate them! So yeah.