Do your m/f teenage children share a bedroom on holiday?

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Yanbu - yes they do
Yabu - no they don't
It's not really a aibu, I just put that in to enable a vote.
My kids share a room on holiday, I just wonder a little if this is still OK? I think it is.

Only have one DC , but I have a brother. We shared rooms until we were late teens on holiday, not at home. We had plenty of space for ourselves a holiday is a different thing. I remember being 16 and 14 and sneaking out in Spain after our parents were asleep! We did nothing of any note, bought some Fanta limon, some toot from a souvenir shop and ate chips looking at the sea. There was a really bad Europop holiday anthem that year and we still sing it to each other occasionally. We would either get changed in the bathroom or I'd say to him I'm going to get dressed and he'd sit in the main room or out on the balcony and vice versa. It's just needs some respect and basic communication.
Additional needs aside , when it might be necessary, you'll be hard pushed to find many 3 bed suites in hotels so it means you're stuck renting villas which are often in quieter locations, not always preferable with teens. Lots of two bed suites available

No concern but for same reason I didn’t male them share a bedroom at home. They are entitled to privacy & their own space

I don't have teenagers or two children but me and my brother (2 year age gap) always shared a room until we stopped going on holiday with my parents when I was 18. Never thought anything of it.

That’s a really nice memory.

I wouldn’t be forcing two children who don’t get along to share a room, but if they do get along isn’t the sharing and extra bonding and staying up til the early hours chatting kind of part of the holiday?

Mine teens refuse to share so I have to book accordingly. It's fine though as it actually helps narrow down my search options

Last time I shared with my siblings (one make, one female) was when we were 25/22/14…

OP, the real question is, what do your kids think?

YANBU. DS is 13 and DD is 10. They don't like sharing a room because they squabble and annoy eachother, but that only lasts a couple of days. We're out all the time and after that they're too knackered to do anything other than sleep.

That said, last year we could only get two king-size rooms at our hotel and that wasn't ideal as DD is a wriggler. I built a pillow-wall down the middle of the DCs' enormous bed and that had to do.

Mine don't get on that well but there have been times when budget only stretches to 2 bedrooms. We try to get somewhere with a sofa bed if only 2 beds. Last holiday we could have likely afforded 3 beds but there were none available at the complex. DS slept on a sofa bed, they were meant to swap part way so it was fair they each got a few days in a proper bed but DS said he was OK to sleep there for the whole holiday. (The scenario would not have been the same if DD had started on the sofa!🤣)

Yes, mine 13 and 15 would share without issue. If necessary all three 13, 15, 16 would share. They would just get changed in the bathroom.

I shared with my brother on holiday through teenage hood. In America where they have a lot of rooms with two double beds we all shared (mum dad brother and me). Unfortunately UK hotels it's much harder to find family rooms. And for a family of 5 basically impossible so we always have to go self catering. Or camping so we all share in that case.

Yes, mine share (now 18/16). Twin beds, get changed in bathroom or whilst other one is in the bathroom. Occasionally they are lucky and we get a cottage with an extra bedroom if it's similar price / only one available but otherwise I've always said they can only have their own room if they are willing to pay the extra. It works fine.

I had the number of children I can afford. It's not rocket science.

two of my three are sharing next week- in Greece! Aged 19 and 26! They’re in twin beds but all three of mine will share a bed no problem if they go and stay with each other.

Mine ages 18 and 20 share as they don’t want to be with a mum who goes to bed early and a dad who snores. They get ready in the bathroom and respect each other’s privacy. Not remotely an issue.

And I am delighted they choose to share rather than share a room with parents. They never unpack properly, leave stuff strewn over the hotel room floor, and get outraged if anyone gets up before 9am. No thanks!

Mine still share happily at 18 and 21. Never a problem.

The most annoying thing is that we book a twin for them and a double for us. The twin is usually more expensive. The twin room is invariably bigger and nicer than our double room. It’s outrageous.

Mine share on holiday, most of the time the snorer ends up on the sofa as they get fed up of being woken up and told to turn over.

I had the number of children I can afford. It's not rocket science.

So did I, and we afford the life we have by cutting our cloth to suit the budget, the same as the vast majority of families.

What an odd thing to say.

I agree with this.

I think it is much odder to split up as a couple and share with your teen, when your teens can share with each other

Mine have all shared their University rooms when they have gone and stayed with each other too.

This is the first time I have ever come across this even being considered a question. It really is very normal for young people to share rooms when staying anywhere outside their homes.

Mine are 19 and 21 and will share a twin if we are away for one or two nights and mum & dad are paying!

We do all sorts (DS13 & DD12) premier inns and also where we stayed in Paris last year were family rooms, so all of us in together.

Just returned from a spontaneous weekend away - two bedroom apartment. DD slept in the lounge the first night as DS was snoring! Second night she slept in with me and DH slept in the twin room with DS. If it's a hotel and we need two rooms then it's me & DD in one room and then DH and DS in the other.

Recently had a weekend away with DB & family plus parents. 4 children - 3 girls, one boy. DS in twin room with DN.

They just get on with it and change in bathroom or just say "don't come in"! Tend to only sleep in bedrooms. I'd happily share with my DB now if necessary,

Only reason we spilt up if two hotel rooms is because we're not comfortable with them being " without an adult"!

Ours are now in their 20s - they love it - so much to chat about!

As someone who was sexually pestered and abused by her brother since before I even knew what sex was, while my entire family wrote of my fear of him as me “being sensitive”, I’d say no. Teenage girls need privacy. A great deal of abuse happens opportunistically and because parents are blind to it.