Do your m/f teenage children share a bedroom on holiday?

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Yanbu - yes they do
Yabu - no they don't
It's not really a aibu, I just put that in to enable a vote.
My kids share a room on holiday, I just wonder a little if this is still OK? I think it is.

Yanbu

I read this as "mother fucking children" 😂

Yes, this!

Considering we used to go on touring caravan holidays, Mum, Dad my Brother and I all shared a little box so yes I say it’s fine. We stopped going when we were about 16.

Maybe ask them if they still want to share or if they would rather have separate rooms

Yes. Last holiday DS17 shared with DD16 for 2 weeks. No problems at all. They had the option of sharing with a much younger sibling or with one of us but they chose to share instead.

I always used to share with my younger brother on hols as a teen. Never gave it a seconds thought.

Only on camping holidays and even then they have the option to decent onto the livingroom which is also fully sown in.

it’s technically a three bed Bu tThe bunk beds make that hard so tend to be used as a two.

Do you actually have a teenage son and a teenage daughter or are you answering hypothetically? I don't think you're necessarily wrong in this viewpoint but I find it quite hard to imagine many parents making a decision on the basis that otherwise their son might abuse their sister as it seems so unthinkable.

No, only if its a "whole family in one room" situation. If there is a parent of each sex they can share a room with a parent.

Yes they share - We try to find a villa with three bedrooms if possible but if we can't or we are restricted to a hotel we get them a twin room to share. DD14 and DS17. They get on well and respect each others privacy so it's fine at the moment. Planning a trip for next year and we are still looking at them sharing but after that I think DS will be doing his own thing holiday wise.

Yes. In fact last holiday we all shared (me, my then 17 year old daughter and 19 year old son).

That's different that's a family sharing

They think - and I agree - that the scuba diving/skiing/hiking (all holidays where they've shared) far outweighed any minor inconvenience of sharing a room.

I have girl, boy, boy, with 3 year gaps. Dd and ds2 frequently choose to share and let ds1 have the single. They like to chat, ds1 likes downtime. They can get changed in the bathroom.
(they are 21, 18 and 15 now btw)

Mine are still young but I imagine they will share when older, as I did with my various siblings when I was a kid.

If it was an issue and too expensive/splitting them into separate rooms meant no holiday otherwise, I imagine husband and I would share with a child each.

Yeah I'd do that, parent share with child.

Yes of course

The bathroom? We don’t book holidays where spending time in the room is an issue. We use it to shower and sleep. The only pita really is the girls fighting over the mirror getting ready in the evenings. Comments like yours are making me feel nice about how well our family get along that sleeping in the same room on occasion is fun rather than something to endure

Depends if the children get along, but I agree. I remember going on a city break with my family when I was around 18 and my brother 16. We shared a twin room and watched rubbish on TV, shared a takeaway pizza and stayed up talking. We bonded so much on that holiday.

Me and my Mum in one room and my brother and my Dad in the other would have been so much weirder and hardly enjoyable.

I haven't got mixed sex children, but all my girls have been to festivals etc were they've stayed in mixed friends rooms and tents. Nothing sexual, just a do it on the cheap/get pissed together and be safe. You should always listen to any objections, though.

Mine are 10 and 12 and share and I can't ever see there being an issue as they get older. My brother is 39, I'm 44 and I still wouldn't think twice about sharing with him if necessary.

Yup! They will be doing so at 19/21 too this year too.

What's your concern?

My children are 10 and 6 and still do.
I would specifically ask how they felt about it though as my brother started to sexually abuse me when we were on holiday and I had to share a bed with him.
I'm not saying your children would, but in saying give them the freedom to say they don't want to share.