How would you respond?

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Freckles978 · 03/06/2023 18:53

My MIL keeps asking me if I will be returning to work after I have my second baby (currently pregnant). I will have two under two, so she knows I will be busy, but she is worried about whether I will be returning to work.

For context, she doesn't help us at all with childcare, but helps my partner's sister twice a week. MIL also had two under two and left work to look after both of them.

I told my partner that his mum is being hipocritical, and that next time she asks I will be responding with something.

What do you suggest I respond with?

I don't want to sound rude to her, but I'm sick of her being annoying.

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GoodChat · 03/06/2023 19:32

Freckles978 · 03/06/2023 19:31

My issue is that she left work after having her second, and she asks this question in a way as though she is worried if I left my job.

I don't mind her helping SIL, but when we do see her, she does not help, and also kicks up a fuss if we do ask for help.

Maybe she is genuinely worried for you. Maybe she left her job then got trapped in a miserable situation.

ArgosKettle · 03/06/2023 19:34

I’m getting that the real problem isn’t the question, it’s about the lack of help you receive by your MIL…

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Freckles978 · 03/06/2023 19:35

Yes, she doesn't help us at all, and I don't like being asked a question from someone who does not and will not contribute, therefore she is just being nosy.

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TeaKitten · 03/06/2023 19:42

Freckles978 · 03/06/2023 19:31

My issue is that she left work after having her second, and she asks this question in a way as though she is worried if I left my job.

I don't mind her helping SIL, but when we do see her, she does not help, and also kicks up a fuss if we do ask for help.

So she doesn’t actually make any comments on it then? Just another poster who doesn’t like her MIL…

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