“I don’t have to talk about you all the time”

[mcdonaldshappymeal]

My boyfriend of a year goes on nights out with friends and often says things to me like “my friends were asking about you, I was talking about you” etc.

He went for a games night with friends the other night. I asked “did you speak about me” and he said “nah not really”. I thought oh right, he usually would. He said “no one else speaks about their girlfriends constantly, I don’t always have to talk about you all the time”.

Is it me or is this really harsh?

Not harsh at all.

I never talk about DH to my friends 😂

Not remotely harsh. I don't know why you needed to ask the question.

Not harsh at all.

There is nothing more boring than somone who constantly drones in about their partner or children.

Why do you even ask or care?

It’s you, he’s right.

Sometimes partners will naturally come up in conversation, but I’d never assume that I’m otherwise a scintillating topic when DH is with his friends! It was a little odd to ask, as if you expected to be, he was just honest in replying.

I think it was really weird that you asked the question tbh.

Why did you ask? So strange

So he usually talks about you and the one time he doesn't, you're offended that he tells you he didn't... someone needs their ego stroking :)

Odd thing to ask tbh so not surprised but the response. As above some other partners come up but are unlikely to be a normal topic of conversation

Why would you care? You’re his girlfriend; not theirs.

Bless your little heart.

It's a really odd question to ask. Of all the things you could have asked about his night, you made it about you?

It may well be true that you sometimes come up in conversation, but to specifically ask if you did is weird.

YABU. I wouldn't talk about my DH if I was out with my mates. Maybe a quick how's DH, fine, but that's about the extent of it.

You come across as very needy and desperate for asking that question. Do you have many friends? It seems like you're too fixated on your partner's social interactions. Maybe it's time to focus on your own.

That's a really needy question to ask, even if he's brought it up before. No he wasn't harsh, that's how I'd respond if someone asked me that, even if I did speak about you.

YABU

I find it really odd you asked. He is allowed a life away from being your partner

Er no, not harsh at all.

I don’t generally talk about my partner to my friends, when I’m with them I’m with them.

No it's not.

If I were your boyfriend I would find your question annoying.

Have you ever listened to blokes chat in a pub- I've never heard partners ever mentioned unless it was really specific- like partner was in hospital or something- it's usually about jobs, football, gigs , DIY etc

Aww bless. Why would you even ask him that?

😂😂 reminds me of when I used to go to the shop for my nan and she would say 'did anyone ask about me?'

I can't imagine my husband on and ending out with his mates, why I would even come up in convo, unless it was talking about holidays or something. Even then it wouldn't be specific to me.

Why on earth do you think his mates would be interested in you getting a new hair do or whatever.

Never do the "say hello to everyone from me."

Nobody passes on the "say hello's".

Why would you ask the question in the first place?

People rarely talk about their partners unless they are a brand new partner or there’s a problem in the relationship.

What is there to say? “How’s X?” “She’s fine.” End of conversation. Not a showstopper.

Is it me or is this really harsh?

Is absolutely you, why on earth beyond 'How's happy?' 'Good' would he need to spend night with friends talking about you?

It’s not harsh, merely out of character for him to say it so strongly when usually he tells you that he does exactly this. Are you worried his feelings for you have changed? If not, I just wouldn’t worry at all. He’s right - it’s boring to go on a night out with someone who bangs on about their absent partner so maybe one of his mates has told him to shut up!