“I don’t have to talk about you all the time”

[mcdonaldshappymeal]

My boyfriend of a year goes on nights out with friends and often says things to me like “my friends were asking about you, I was talking about you” etc.

He went for a games night with friends the other night. I asked “did you speak about me” and he said “nah not really”. I thought oh right, he usually would. He said “no one else speaks about their girlfriends constantly, I don’t always have to talk about you all the time”.

Is it me or is this really harsh?

Self-absorbed much?

I agree with others, such an odd question to ask.
I don’t think he was being harsh at all

Maybe when a relationship is new, they might ask how it's going/what's she like etc but after a time, they don't need to ask. You've bed together a while now, unless you break up or he says otherwise, they'll just assume you're good and not need to delve any deeper. Some male groups ask, some don't. I wouldn't be offended.

*been

Eeee hate to say it but I feel sorry for bf here. He's not been harsh at all. It's overly sensitive of you.

I do find it strange that you asked him that; it's a bit conceited, no?

And why do you care what they spoke about anyway. When I get in from socialising, I'm usually tired and don't fancy relaying conversations with people, it's intrusive and boring.

Next time, just ask if he had a good time and leave it there. YABU.

I think you were slightly fishing for compliments there, and he sounds a bit defensive with his comment (as though he felt criticised for not talking about you.. Hopefully you just replied “of course you dont!”and the conversation moved on.

I can't imagine asking my DH if he was talking about me on a night out?!

That's weird

It's a mild signal that you were being annoying, read it and adjust or don't adjust if you don't think you should have to, which is also fine.

You question sounds very needy