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Original poster

To think this is a massive issue- wrong text sent to boss

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Lis1992 · 02/06/2023 14:48

Help!! I woke up this morning to realise that my boss had been sent the wrong message. My friend sent a text reply for me as I wasn’t feeling well, and sent it to my boss accidentally. The message said I was embarrassed as I’d got sick on the side of the road and that I’ve no tolerance for wine etc. I was drunk and emotional and told my friend to basically just type what happened on the text and tell my other friend I was feeling awful. So she did. How do I handle this? Boss has ignored it so far but I’ll need to explain obviously. This is a massive f* up isn’t it? Ahhhhh. I honestly feel so upset and I don’t know if it’s just the hangover fear blowing this out of proportion or if it as big as I think it is!

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SoVTired · 02/06/2023 14:52

Just ignore it and don’t bring it up, unless they do. In which case explain what happened.

flipent · 02/06/2023 14:53

Did you call in sick to work and then send your boss this text?

If you didn't go to work because you were hungover and they are now aware of the real reason, that could be considered gross misconduct (for lying).

If you went to work, but had been ill on your own time - none of their business.

rickandmorts · 02/06/2023 14:53

It's not a huge fuck up. Presumably you weren't meant to be working when out drinking or hungover? I'd just text 'oh god sorry, wrong person!' delete the texts so you can't see them and stress and put it out of your mind.

MakeItRain · 02/06/2023 14:53

So your friend messaged your boss by accident saying "Lis feels awful as she got completely drunk and threw up in the street"? How did she have your boss's number?
I think if you're not the one who sent the text I might be inclined to completely ignore it and pretend you have no idea it was sent!

Original poster
Lis1992 · 02/06/2023 14:56

@flipent oh no nothing like that. I wouldn’t do that. I’m not scheduled to be in work today.

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Original poster
Lis1992 · 02/06/2023 14:57

@MakeItRain she did it on my phone I asked her to.

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flipent · 02/06/2023 14:57

Lis1992 · 02/06/2023 14:56

@flipent oh no nothing like that. I wouldn’t do that. I’m not scheduled to be in work today.

Total non issue then.
Agree with PP, opps, sorry not meant for you and move on.

SuperbSummer2023 · 02/06/2023 14:57

More questions than answers I'm afraid!

but if you didn't call in sick saying you had the flu or whatever, then it's not a good look, but it's not the end of the eirkd.

just imagine your boss is a real person too who has probably drank more than she should & thrown up at least once in her life.

Tree543 · 02/06/2023 14:57

Were you meant to be in work today but called in sick? If you had a day off today then its a bit embarrassing but not an issue. If you called in sick but were hungover yes you might be in trouble.

Original poster
Lis1992 · 02/06/2023 14:58

I’m so nervous because they have ignored it so im worrying even more

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cryinglaughing · 02/06/2023 14:58

Your friend to text your boss that you were ill 😱
Was that a mistake?
Had you already rung in sick?

So many questions 😅

tymberland · 02/06/2023 14:58

Lis1992 · 02/06/2023 14:58

I’m so nervous because they have ignored it so im worrying even more

I would think they've ignored it because they realised that you didn't mean to send it them

cryinglaughing · 02/06/2023 15:00

Oh, having read further posts, you aren't even meant to be in work.

So next question, why on earth did he need to know if it isn't a work day?

I am confused.

2kids2catsnolife · 02/06/2023 15:01

People have lives, it's nothing to do with work if you're off today anyway. Your boss probably hasn't replied as they don't want to embarrass you in case you hadn't noticed it had gone to them. If one of my team did this I'd prob reply saying guess this wasn't for me but sounds like a good night, and leave it at that!

2kids2catsnolife · 02/06/2023 15:02

I'm short, no it's not a massive deal at all.

SlipSlidinAway · 02/06/2023 15:06

If your boss is very busy and if the message was as difficult to understand as your op they'll probably just ignore it.

MakeItRain · 02/06/2023 15:07

Lis1992 · 02/06/2023 14:57

@MakeItRain she did it on my phone I asked her to.

Oh I see! Well that's a bit embarrassing! What's your boss like? Are they the type to take that in their stride? I'm sure most people have had too many drinks at some time or another. Maybe message "I'm so sorry/embarrased, that was meant for someone else. Please ignore it."

BreviloquentBastard · 02/06/2023 15:08

I personally would just laugh and ignore this text if one of my employees sent it, unless you've phoned in "sick" with your hangover. So you got drunk and chundered on the roadside, I'm sure your boss has been there at some point too.

SleepingStandingUp · 02/06/2023 15:08

Lis1992 · 02/06/2023 14:58

I’m so nervous because they have ignored it so im worrying even more

Sounds like they know it wasn't meant for them and are politely ignoring it.

If your hang over hasn't affected your attendance at work, and you haven't done anything to bring your company into disrepute, I wouldn't worry.

"gosh sorry, wrong person!" will suffice on text.

Fleebags · 02/06/2023 15:08

I don’t even get what you actually did? Could you write it a bit clearer please?

Fleebags · 02/06/2023 15:11

Oh so you asked your friend to send a text to a friend, and she sent it to your boss instead by mistake..

Hannahsbananas · 02/06/2023 15:13

I don’t quite understand, why did you ask your friend to spread the word about how bad you were feeling using your phone?
Was she masquerading as you, or what?? Confused

SandLResources · 02/06/2023 15:16

It's easy enough to follow.

She asked her friend to send a message to someone else (maybe someone asking how she was feeling after a heavy night). She dictated a message to her friend to say that she got sick etc.

Friend that sent that message to the boss instead of the intended recipient.

JellyBelly50 · 02/06/2023 15:17

I would message boss and say “Sorry about that message, that was meant for someone else!” Then get on with your day and stop worrying about it
easier said than done but you won’t be worrying about this in a weeks time; I promise

LordSugarTits · 02/06/2023 15:18

So you asked your friend to text another friend saying, Lis feels awful, she's pissed and threw up on the pavement but instead the friend sent it to your boss?

I'd be suspicious that it wasn't an accident, but that aside, just ignore it. If your boss mentions it just say some bloke nicked your phone in the pub thinking he was funny if you can't simply say, oh yeah, sorry, that was for someone else 🤷🏽‍♀️

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