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Neighbour and big lorry

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Senzi · 02/06/2023 09:38

Neighbour A lives a few doors down from neighbour B. A runs a business from home and has a weekly delivery where a large lorry enters the street to deliver stock.

B doesn’t like the lorry as she likes her kids to play out in nice weather and worries a lorry is imposing some danger towards her children. B reports A to the local council. Council investigate and finds nothing unreasonable or untoward.

A has since found alternative premises to receive deliveries but has outed B on the neighbourhood WhatsApp group. A has said B is nothing but spiteful and deceitful as could have quite easily had a chat with A and come to an agreement about any concerns or issues rather than reporting A anonymously to the council. B maintains they have done nothing wrong as she just wants her children to feel safe outside their own home.

who is being unreasonable A or B?

OP posts:
Sissynova · 02/06/2023 09:42

B maintains they have done nothing wrong as she just wants her children to feel safe outside their own home.

B can't control the traffic that uses a public road and its ridiculous to think they can! A lorry could drive down once a week for any reason, so I think B definitely comes across a bit curtain twitching to report this to the council for some sort of investigation.

Hankunamatata · 02/06/2023 09:42

Neither tbh. I wouldn't like a huge hgv regularly coming down my street and perhaps B felt she couldn't approach A. A is now just as bad 'outing' on what's app then they could have gone and had a chat with B and cleared the air

Readyplayerthr33 · 02/06/2023 09:44

B was a being a dick. An occasional delivery is not a danger to her children. The road is there to be used for that, not just for her precious kids. Maybe she should teach them to pay attention and not fuck about in the road when they can see and hear a lorry coming.

TidyDancer · 02/06/2023 09:44

So this is a once a week delivery and that's it? Unless there's other stuff going on or the lorry is parking on her drive then B is being a knob.

Tinkerbyebye · 02/06/2023 09:46

Neither they just have different opinions, although A is a twat outing on WA but having the gall to say B should have spoken to her, when it appears she didn’t go and speak to B before posting a

Tygertiger · 02/06/2023 09:47

Both.

B should have approached A directly first to see if this could be resolved before involving the council. Eg could deliveries be the same day/time each week so that B could plan for children to be inside at that point. It’s not the council’s role to be the first line of defence here, they should only be consulted when attempts to resolve the situation amicably have failed (especially in times of budget cuts).

A should have aired their grievances with B directly rather than over a group WhatsApp chat.

Both parties come across as a bit petulant really and like they just need to talk to each other.

Samhrj · 02/06/2023 09:50

But cars coming down the road are just as dangerous?

LakieLady · 02/06/2023 09:50

B is BU about the lorries. Lorries are inevitable when neighbours are having stuff delivered.

A is BU to slag B off on WhatsApp.

TooOldForThisNonsense · 02/06/2023 09:51

B is a busybody. If she’s that worried keep her kids in or let them play in the garden that 1 day a week. Presumably other lorries must come into the streets?

TooOldForThisNonsense · 02/06/2023 09:53

I don’t think A has done anything wrong either tbh, I’d have a pop if some busybody dobbed me in to the council for doing nothing wrong. I hope all the other neighbours ignore her and her kids now.

Sissynova · 02/06/2023 09:53

The more I think about it the more entitled B seems! The neighbour could be getting a supermarket delivery once a week, does B think she has the right to ask them to drive to the shop instead because she doesn't want a lorry driving while her children play in the road?
Are amazon deliveries allowed??

mackerella · 02/06/2023 09:56

Which one are you, OP: A or B? (My money's on B...)

Newspeaker · 02/06/2023 09:56

B - for a start she can't control traffic on a public highway and her children shouldn't be in a situation where a lorry on a road could harm them. Also she could have spoken to her neighbour before getting the council involved. She was prepared to jeopardise is business without speaking to him first.

Thinkwhat · 02/06/2023 09:58

Many domestic properties have covenants on them preventing you from running a business from them. The neighbour might be breaking the covenant, or need to apply for a change of use depending on the nature of the business. I think neighbour B is probably correct, but maybe reported it to the wrong department.

Neither have handled the situation well-weekly lorry deliveries to a residential street are to be fair a bit of a nuisance, and the other should’ve had a quiet word first

PinkFootstool · 02/06/2023 09:59

B is an idiot.

Are we talking an artic reversing around a blind bend into a cul de sac or a 3.5t truck stopping at the side of the road in two way traffic?

RightWhereYouLeftMe · 02/06/2023 10:01

A shouldn't have brought it up on WhatsApp. But B is ridiculous to think that they can control the traffic on a public road - even without the lorry, it's still a road that her children need to be sensible on while playing.

EggInANest · 02/06/2023 10:02

Both.

B had no business reporting A and should indeed have had conversations
A had no business outing B
(but probably felt aggrieved if taking on premises to avoid malicious complaints invoked extra expense)

jannier · 02/06/2023 10:03

mackerella · 02/06/2023 09:56

Which one are you, OP: A or B? (My money's on B...)

That's what I want to know

MadamWhiteleigh · 02/06/2023 10:03

Both.

B is being unreasonable complaining about a lorry once a week.

A is being unreasonable making a scene on a public forum.

Readyplayerthr33 · 02/06/2023 10:03

Thinkwhat · 02/06/2023 09:58

Many domestic properties have covenants on them preventing you from running a business from them. The neighbour might be breaking the covenant, or need to apply for a change of use depending on the nature of the business. I think neighbour B is probably correct, but maybe reported it to the wrong department.

Neither have handled the situation well-weekly lorry deliveries to a residential street are to be fair a bit of a nuisance, and the other should’ve had a quiet word first

It was investigated. B is not correct.

It is actually not common for domestic properties to have those covenants. It is more common to have no rules around it. Even when there are covenants, they are easily challenged.

A is doing nothing wrong. B is a dickhead.

Elevel · 02/06/2023 10:05

B is ridiculous. A lorry once a week is not a reason to fear your kids' safety, seems they've been a bit of a busybody and A got sick of it.

JuneOsborne · 02/06/2023 10:06

Both as bad as each other!

Elevel · 02/06/2023 10:06

Elevel · 02/06/2023 10:05

B is ridiculous. A lorry once a week is not a reason to fear your kids' safety, seems they've been a bit of a busybody and A got sick of it.

Just re-read and yes B going straight to the council is underhand and a waste of their time. B is very, very unreasonable!

Pahpahpotato · 02/06/2023 10:06

B is a twat, you can’t control who uses a road. I wouldn’t slag someone off on a WhatsApp group but I’d be annoyed if I was A!

FrownedUpon · 02/06/2023 10:08

B sounds like an entitled busybody. You can’t control what vehicles travel down a road.