To think this is an ignorant comment

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We were talking about typical mundane office talk and I sajd “oh I don’t really like to cook”, mainly because I’m not good at it.

Colleague said “yeah it’s no fun cooking for one”. This is a woman in her 30s that’s been with her now husband since 16, so I highly doubt she’s ever lived alone.

I’m probably sensitive but I just find it a bit ignorant to comment things that like assuming the reason is because I’m single.

You’re really raking this too serious, take a chill pill

I mean.. Cooking for one is shit. And logistically more difficult.

"This is a woman in her 30s that’s been with her now husband since 16, so I highly doubt she’s ever lived alone."
She would not have to live alone to cook for one. I've often cooked myself a meal when my husband was away on business and vice-versa. I like cooking and it always tastes better than a microwave meal.

That's not what she said though is it, you've just made that up. She said it's no fun cooking for one, not that it's not worth cooking for one.

Everyone's a dickhead if you invent things they've said in your head.

To be fair, if we all want to get offended or believe people are rude and/or ignorant, I think assuming someone who has been in a relationship for a long time could never have cooked for one could also be considered rude.

It’s definitely ignorant, going by the actual definition. Showing a lack of knowledge about something

This. Get the chip off your shoulder OP.

Without question. All of them, should just wither and Starve 🙄

Not just Ireland. The informal use of ignorant means rude or impolite.

Though many people are ignorant of this (😃).

OP, why do you dislike cooking? Is it because you find cooking for one a bit of a bore or you just don't like it?

(Because if it's the former you agree with her and if it's the latter, "noI just don't like it" would have been the standard answer. As it stands it seems you feel it was a jibe at your single status - whixh it wasn't- especially as you seem to think she never has just cooked for herself.)

The advantage of cooking for one is that you can have exactly what you want. The disadvantage is portion management, and having umpteen spare portions to use up after. If I was having a curry, it's not worth having poppadums/ chutneys/ naan breads with it, beacuse of the logistics of storing them when opened.

She was trying to be pleasant and sympsthetic, not insulting.

Not that cooking around a household's various preferences is particularly joyous either.

Why don’t you actually read the post I quoted before accusing me of making things up?

@BreviloquentBastard it was thespy who said it wasn’t worth cooking for one.

I think adults who can't cook are ignorant 🤷‍♀️.

Her comment could be seen as thoughtless or insensitive or mean. Not ignorant.

You quoted my post? I'm not going to go back and read the entire thread every time someone makes a snotty reply to one of my comments. If you wanted to add more context you were welcome to. I was talking about and quoting only the OP's post.

Sounds like she was just saying it can be a faff cooking for yourself 🤷‍♀️

Was she supposed to pretend you must cook for two, being single?

I don't get how 'ignorant' has come to have this weird colloquial other meaning, which is so far removed from its actual definition.
It's as if someone randomly starting to use 'cautious' instead of 'funny' and people emulating this arbitrary usage over time, embedding it in common parlance. Why not just use words that mean what we want to express?
The OP's colleague isn't ignorant, she's insensitive or rude or presumptive or intrusive.

I've heard that a number of times from people talking about themselves.

I hear it a lot in Bristol, manly from locals, and I have always supposed it meant 'ignorant of how to behave properly'. People used to be (maybe still are in some places) condemned for 'not knowing their manners'.

Single people can eat whatever the hell they want. However when I lived alone I rarely bothered cooking as it did seem like a faff for just me. You seem quite sensitive about this issue.

Although cooking for my family is also a faff, due to different tastes and needs (one child is autistic). That’s why my DH has that job!

Agree with this. "Ignorant of proper manners".

Charlotten and Kris, I suppose that makes sense.

The comment was a little thoughtless and insensitive. However you are taking it too much to heart. Unless there’s a wider context of bad behaviour from this woman I’d take it as a thoughtless comment that didn’t intend harm and leave it at that.

Im pretty sure we all say things awkwardly/insensitive without thinking at times.

OP was over sensitive

Your update

How nice. Should single people just starve then?

is spectacular 😂