To think this is an ignorant comment

[sahayaway]

We were talking about typical mundane office talk and I sajd “oh I don’t really like to cook”, mainly because I’m not good at it.

Colleague said “yeah it’s no fun cooking for one”. This is a woman in her 30s that’s been with her now husband since 16, so I highly doubt she’s ever lived alone.

I’m probably sensitive but I just find it a bit ignorant to comment things that like assuming the reason is because I’m single.

The words chip and shoulder come to mind

She’s not wrong it is a bit rubbish cooking for one but depends how it was said, you can be tactful and say but you have leftovers for the next day or just not mention anything if you know it’s a sensitive subject but I don’t really think it was ignorant.

Goodness! Finding offence where there's none.

She was only trying to relate. Perhaps presumptuous of her to think it's your reason but It IS no fun cooking for one. Could have said yeah but even if not so, I still wouldnt/couldn't.

People can't have conversations these days without the other person being offended.

Yes you're being sensitive my mom often says this, she's alone I think if someone said it to her she's probably agree and just say ahhh yes I always say this!

Your colleague wouldn't have meant anything malicious by that comment she's probably just heard it said before

Tbh I think you’re being over sensitive. I love cooking and cook meals from scratch for my family nearly every day…unless I’m home alone and then I don’t because…it’s no fun cooking for one!

I don't live alone, but sometimes cook for one, and it's rubbish.

I sometimes cook extra for my widowed neighbour because... it's rubbish cooking for one.

Ignorant no. Insensitive maybe.

YABU, comment wasn't ignorant. She's not wrong, cooking for 1 can be a PITA.

It’s the sort of off-the-cuff comment that rings perfectly true to her - and was the first thing that popped into her head in response to your comment. Said and then entirely forgotten.

And it’s also the sort of comment that would sting hard when said to the wrong person - they’d be left stewing over it, analysing and dissecting it and feeling personally wounded.

It is no fun cooking just for one (at least, I don’t think so, and o know how to cook and cook all the time). That’s purely me talking about me, and is zero reflection on anyone else at all.

How nice. Should single people just starve then?

Oh come on OP, you’re being silly now. That’s very much not what the PP said.

You argue like my son. He's 11.

DS: can I have a biscuit?
Me: not right now, dinner is nearly ready.
DS: fine, you want me to never eat again.

Your colleague was displaying typical human behaviour ie attempting to keep a conversation going with shared experiences and thoughtful comment. Your atypical response to her and on here suggests that you are taking offence where none was meant.

How nice. Should single people just starve then?

What a bizarre response.
You seem prickly.

Thats not what she said
do you not like this person? Otherwise this is just normal conversation.

I think she’s only basing off of her own personal experience. You could have said that that isn’t the reason and said why.

I actually enjoy cooking for myself. I can make my food however I desire without having to compromise. I like my food on the spicier side, light and not drenched in meat and sauce while my DH can’t handle my spice level, prefers heartier dishes with meat and sauce. I often get inspired during cooking to add extra herbs, seasonings, or ingredients so I’m not always cooking a dish a way I did before. I do share sometimes what I make with the children if they want some or add a bit extra of something I know they like. My youngest loves my vegetable stir-fry despite there being a good heap of chilli oil in it. His favourite bits are the broccoli.

@sahayaway

I get you, yes sometimes cooking for one is a PITA, yes sometimes you can't be arsed and have sandwiches but when you can be arsed, cooking for one is an absolute joy, because you can tailor recipes to your own tastes, cook what you like, no cant be spicy cos x don't like it, cant have this cos y don't like it, cooking for yourself is fucking great, and you don't waste ingredients cos you learn to cook smaller amounts.

Sounds like she hit a raw nerve and you're not happy being alone/single. Not really. Not deep down.

Aren’t you a special kind of sunshine ☀️

Maybe she didn’t realize someone had pissed in your spinster chow cornflakes.

😂 your OP was oversensitive. Now you're just hilarious.

Cooking for one is shit. I find it sad eating alone. My ex moved out in February and I eat an awful lot of toast now. I am a good cook (not as good as him, he’s a Michelin starred chef - and he doesn’t cook properly for himself either).

I don’t think it was unkind or ignorant of your colleague to say that, as it’s a pretty common thing for people to moan about.

I think it shows excellent self care to cook lovely meals for yourself every day. It’s something to aim at, anyway, and I’m falling way short!

I don’t know what people are talking about. I’m not single and I’d love to just cook for one and have what ever without a massive faff.

Fair enough, I can see that cooking for a family every day could get bloody tiresome. So if cooking for one is shit, and cooking for a family is bloody tiresome, I guess this explains the popularity of Deliveroo and why we are all turning into dumplings.

You are being sensitive

I'd bloody love to cook for one and have what I fancy.
That would be way more fun than the food I cook because DH and the kids prefer it.
So I think it was a tiny bit insulting but also she's wrong

I’m surprised at the number of people who don’t like cooking just for themselves. Do you not appreciate the chance to have a glass of something, stick music/a podcast on and cook dinner EXACTLY how you like it - spicier, creamier, more garlicky, whatever. Then all the food is just for you and if there are leftovers it’s like a kind person made you food earlier - and that kind person was you. It was the favourite part of my day when I lived alone.