Would you ever say a baby looks 'I'll' or 'washed out' in certain colours?

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Would you say a baby looks unwell or washed out in certain colours? Depending on the babies hair colour ect?

MIL has a habit of telling me my baby looks unwell if in certain colours. I'm suffering really badly with PPA so it's really playing into that, I've tried to tell her to stop and that she doesn't but it goes over her head.

It's not something I've ever noticed, no. And I've had an ill baby.

You've asked her to stop and it appears to have gone over her head but I'm wondering if she disregards other things you say? Does she say or do anything else that makes you doubt yourself?

My babies do suit certain colours more than others, but that’s monumentally rude and unnecessary from your MIL.

I used to get told off when I was newly qualified for putting a gorgeous baby, who had Down syndrome and heart problems, in blue denim dresses as they made her look blue. She looked adorable in them

Some babies do look washed out in certain colours, I would say it about ds ans have said it about sisters dc. Only if I was close enough to parent though.

I've commiserated with my sister as her second child didn't suit the colours her first did and yet was stuck with the hand me downs, but I'd never offer it as an opinion!

Yes, apparently my lovely, loving aunt rushed over to me twice as a newborn and exclaimed, “what’s wrong with the baby, have you rung the doctor?” Both times my mum assured her I was fine. Realised after second time, it was cos I was wearing white. I’m in my 30s now and still get same reaction if I wear white, people asking if I’m ill.

My niece is similar with orange/peach. I think it’s our peely-wally Celtic skin.

It's a baby.

I'm sure some colours will technically suit a baby more than others, but they are a baby and worrying whether a colour washes them out is madness

I think everyone can look a bit ill in certain colours- that mustard yellow is hideous on most people unless you have a dark skin tone! Babies are often very very fair aswell. Even if it’s a bad hue what’s the point of saying anything - it’s a baby not a job interview or wedding photo fgs! X

All human beings suit some colours better than others. But it’s a monumentally weird and rude thing to say about a baby.

My eldest looked terrible in pale lemon / yellow / pale green as a baby. No one ever commented on it but that was probably because I was instantly aware of it myself the first time I dressed him in those (beautiful, painstakingly hand-knitted) items of clothing and never used them again.

DD1.

Apparently, putting your 3 day old redheaded infant in a pretty lemon baby gro for her 'professional' portrait isn't the best idea when she was having phototherapy for neonatal jaundice.

I wish somebody had said something to me beforehand - she looked like a slightly confused banana.

My baby boy looks very sallow in the neutral browns and beiges that are popular at the moment. When I put him in blue, he looks like a different child.

Your MIL should wind her neck in though.

I was just coming on to say I put my newborn baby DD in a pale lemon dress and she looked dreadful as had jaundice. I had to change her before photo to a pale pink one.

Babies are just people and therefore definitely have colours that either suit their colouring or make them look washed out. I never dressed my son in oranges, greens or browns. He always suited blues and reds. If she knows it’s upsetting you though, she shouldn’t keep telling you.

Fine for a parent to think it, but very weird for anyone else to say it.

We also had a good laugh about orange/yellow babygros on my jaundiced baby, but all light-hearted and I certainly wouldn't have changed his clothes over it.

Everyone's skin tone looks better or worse in different colour depending on if they have a warm, cool, neutral or olive undertone.

I look like death in rust/ terracotta colours or muted colours. Some people I know look pale and wan if they wear black instead of grey or navy.

But I have never, never looked at a baby and thought 'She would look so much better in teal. That white babygro is NOT her colour' 😂

Babies grow very quickly and throw up a lot. Surely baby clothes should be about being washable, affordable so you can replace them in a few months, and warm or cool enough depending on the season and activity?

YANBU. Unless your MIL is ready to buy your baby a wardrobe of designer things in flattering hues, it is an odd and quite unnecessary thing to say.

Oh no!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Sorry but this made laugh hysterically.

My mother told me my 8 months old 'didn't suit red'

For gods sake 🙃

This. You need to see less of this person, she’s either rude or nasty .

It is a weird thing to keep saying, your MIL sounds like an arsehole

When I was born my mum's colleagues bought a dress for me. It was a beautiful dress, it cost £15.

40 odd years ago that was a lot of money for a dress, and she said I looked awful in it. The colour made me look ill, and she couldn't put me in it.

I'm very old fashioned and I don't like seeing babies in black, brown or dark colours. Is it something like this OP?

Some colours do make babies look ill, but she shouldn't keep saying it.

I was given a pair of grey and white tartan dresses by my aunt for my twins when they were babies- I put them in them and sent a photo to the aunt. She replied that she would send something pink next time as the grey along with their big dark eyes made them look like haunted victorian dolls. I did think it rude at the time but looking at the photo now she wasn't wrong

No!

I wouldn't say this to someone-but my very pale, red haired dd certainly looked better in some colours than others. She looked amazing in black. My MIL really didn't like that!