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To think she was being a bit ridiculous?

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Diagonalley96 · 01/06/2023 14:59

I have two sisters who both live at home with my parents. Both are in their 20’s and saving up to buy their own homes.
sister 1- low income job, partner lives with her at my mums.
sister 2- secondary school teacher. Partner works/lives away but is off for the next 3 weeks and staying back here with my sister at my mums.

today Sister 2’s partner had a day out planned with his friends. Hasn’t seen them since before Christmas. They planned to meet in the city centre at 12.

We have a family group chat on messenger. Sister messages this at about ten to 9 this morning, panicking as she has locked her partner in the house. She starts asks sister 1 if she or her partner can come home and let him out the house. Sister 1 says she can’t leave work (care home). She says her partner can’t leave work either (supermarket) but that he will be home by 2pm.

it’s worth noting that this was planned as a whole day piss up and that the train to the city centre is very regular and takes 15/20 mins.

Sister 2 then asks my parents to come home but they can’t manage this either (nurse and bus driver). Sister then goes off in a rant, essentially stating that her job is more “important” and that someone else should be making an effort to come home and sort this out.

she then asks me to get a bus (with 2 kids under 2) to my mums workplace and get her key. Then take it back to her partner. I said no as I’m not spending an hour on my day on busses just to avoid her partner being a bit late to a day in the pub. She told me that I was being incredibly selfish.

sister 1 is now not talking to any of us. I feel like she was asking a lot of everyone though. Yes he works away and I imagine this day out meant a lot to him but surely missing a few hours wouldn’t be the end of the world?

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Wannabegreenfingers · 01/06/2023 15:02

Your sister is bonkers

Wheredideveryonego · 01/06/2023 15:05

I mean, surely there must be some way he can leave the House?

Back door, over the fence and through the neighbors?

Out of a nice big window?

Using the spare keys in the junk drawer that everyone forgot about?

Might be missing the point there!

Clarinet1 · 01/06/2023 15:09

I agree, it’s not as if he were going to work or an interview or a court appearance or…….

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Diagonalley96 · 01/06/2023 15:09

Wheredideveryonego · 01/06/2023 15:05

I mean, surely there must be some way he can leave the House?

Back door, over the fence and through the neighbors?

Out of a nice big window?

Using the spare keys in the junk drawer that everyone forgot about?

Might be missing the point there!

There isn’t a back door on the house so they are stuck to front door and the spare keys are in the neighbours house, who is in hospital at the moment unfortunately. Any window he came out of would then be left open all day.

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Diagonalley96 · 01/06/2023 15:10

Clarinet1 · 01/06/2023 15:09

I agree, it’s not as if he were going to work or an interview or a court appearance or…….

That’s how I feel about it all. If it was something really significant then obviously one of us would have helped make it work but I feel like she is happy to disrupt everyone’s day for the sake of him having an extra few hours out.

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TheFlis12345 · 01/06/2023 15:11

She is mad to think him wanting to go and get pissed sooner trumps people actually working!

coffeecupsandwaxmelts · 01/06/2023 15:11

Surely just climb out the window and push it shut behind you?

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 01/06/2023 15:12

coffeecupsandwaxmelts · 01/06/2023 15:11

Surely just climb out the window and push it shut behind you?

Exactly what I was thinking.

Mountain out of a molehill.

ShirleyPhallus · 01/06/2023 15:12

The whole thing is ridiculous but this should honestly be a wake up call that you need to have some way of getting out of the house. Imagine there was a fire!

YouDoYouBoo22 · 01/06/2023 15:14

Well there’s something you don’t see everyday.

To think she was being a bit ridiculous?
RichardMarxisinnocent · 01/06/2023 15:14

ShirleyPhallus · 01/06/2023 15:12

The whole thing is ridiculous but this should honestly be a wake up call that you need to have some way of getting out of the house. Imagine there was a fire!

Agreed, it's ridiculous that someone can be locked in and unable get out.

Aquamarine1029 · 01/06/2023 15:15

Your sister is an absolute arsehole. I bet she has form for being an entitled little princess.

AngryGreasedSantaCatcus · 01/06/2023 15:15

What are the odds that she did it on purpose and now she falling over herself to make it someone else's fault... aka you and your family.

Because if it really was THAT important she'd come home.

IWonderWhereThatDishDidGo · 01/06/2023 15:20

Sister 2 is completely bonkers. Yanbu

Beaniesmumsie · 01/06/2023 15:22

Hang on what’s sister 2 doing that’s so important she can’t let her partner out of the house? Or did I miss that bit

Unicorn2022 · 01/06/2023 15:22

Nah she locked him in on purpose to stop him going out and getting pissed. Also isn't it half term at the moment, or are you not in UK. Where was sister 2 that she couldn't come back?

IWonderWhereThatDishDidGo · 01/06/2023 15:25

I think it's not half term in some places. Next week in NI I think

ItsNotRocketSalad · 01/06/2023 15:25

Beaniesmumsie · 01/06/2023 15:22

Hang on what’s sister 2 doing that’s so important she can’t let her partner out of the house? Or did I miss that bit

She's at work as a secondary school teacher.

BodegaSushi · 01/06/2023 15:29

AngryGreasedSantaCatcus · 01/06/2023 15:15

What are the odds that she did it on purpose and now she falling over herself to make it someone else's fault... aka you and your family.

Because if it really was THAT important she'd come home.

This was my first thought.

I lived 5 years in a flat which ridiculously could only be locked and unlocked with a key. The property management company wasn't interested when we brought it up. Still managed to never be locked in or lock anyone else in. And would have gone out the window if it ever happened, luckily we were on the ground floor.

UpTheAnte · 01/06/2023 15:32

Diagonalley96 · 01/06/2023 15:09

There isn’t a back door on the house so they are stuck to front door and the spare keys are in the neighbours house, who is in hospital at the moment unfortunately. Any window he came out of would then be left open all day.

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Not all day. Someone is home at 2 so a couple of hours with it being pushed closed 🤷🏻‍♀️

EL8888 · 01/06/2023 15:33

Aquamarine1029 · 01/06/2023 15:15

Your sister is an absolute arsehole. I bet she has form for being an entitled little princess.

I bet you’re right.

A day at the pub is hardly vital 🙄

Lochjeda · 01/06/2023 15:33

Is she too far to of shot back at break or lunchtime? She's clearly not got a job that's more important than a bloody nurse or someone in a care home for a start and bus drivers can't just reroute the bus.

Heronwatcher · 01/06/2023 15:34

I’d definitely have climbed out of the back window and just pushed it shut. Someone’s going to be back by around 2. Or couldn’t sister pop back in her lunch break and lock it.

Or yes he starts his piss up a bit later 🙄

And as an aside your parents must be saints having all these people living with them- maybe it was a subtle hint that at least one pairing should be prepared to get an Airbnb or similar from time to time. Or at least one of them could install a key safe and get some spare keys cut…

SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 01/06/2023 15:34

ItsNotRocketSalad · 01/06/2023 15:25

She's at work as a secondary school teacher.

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Isn't it half term?
Is up here anyways

forrestgreen · 01/06/2023 15:36

She could have offered you a free Uber there and back, not buses!