To think she was being a bit ridiculous?

[Diagonalley96]

I have two sisters who both live at home with my parents. Both are in their 20’s and saving up to buy their own homes.
sister 1- low income job, partner lives with her at my mums.
sister 2- secondary school teacher. Partner works/lives away but is off for the next 3 weeks and staying back here with my sister at my mums.

today Sister 2’s partner had a day out planned with his friends. Hasn’t seen them since before Christmas. They planned to meet in the city centre at 12.

We have a family group chat on messenger. Sister messages this at about ten to 9 this morning, panicking as she has locked her partner in the house. She starts asks sister 1 if she or her partner can come home and let him out the house. Sister 1 says she can’t leave work (care home). She says her partner can’t leave work either (supermarket) but that he will be home by 2pm.

it’s worth noting that this was planned as a whole day piss up and that the train to the city centre is very regular and takes 15/20 mins.

Sister 2 then asks my parents to come home but they can’t manage this either (nurse and bus driver). Sister then goes off in a rant, essentially stating that her job is more “important” and that someone else should be making an effort to come home and sort this out.

she then asks me to get a bus (with 2 kids under 2) to my mums workplace and get her key. Then take it back to her partner. I said no as I’m not spending an hour on my day on busses just to avoid her partner being a bit late to a day in the pub. She told me that I was being incredibly selfish.

sister 1 is now not talking to any of us. I feel like she was asking a lot of everyone though. Yes he works away and I imagine this day out meant a lot to him but surely missing a few hours wouldn’t be the end of the world?

Don't worry, normal service has been resumed. We are back to 2% thinking the opposite way to everyone else.

I tend to think of these as being like finding 2 frozen gooseberries at the bottom of the freezer. You don't know why they are there, they just are.

This sums it up.

generally we do get on but she does get a bit irritating at times with her antics.

Does she teach 5 year olds, because she's actimg like one & has the deisuon making of one!

Multiple easy solutions to this without and drama at all.

1. Window & close afterwards
2. Get the key taxied to him
3. Even cheaper, but it in an envelope & pay for emergency corder
4. Or the most sensible option - Hubbie sends a WhatsApp to friends saying wife accidentally locked me in house & can't leave work, any chae nce of you can swing by the school and collect the key
5. He waits 3 hours - it won't kill him & the wife locked me in story will more than compensate whe he arrives

The only other thing to explain her behaviour is that she is afraid of him and his reaction.

Yep, same.

Being locked in for several hours (especially if I had a nice day planned, but in any instance tbh!) Would make me freak out tbh. Couldn't stand it

She wants you to waste an hour of your day (which quite frankly if you're lugging around 2 under 2 probably feels like at least half a day) so that her boyfriend doesn't waster a couple of hours of his day because she locked him in the house??

Madness.

There were other options as mentioned here that would have been a lot less disruptive for you all, but would have cost her money (taxis, etc), but of course that would be inconveniencing her, not you.

Please use this as the perfect example of why there needs to be a set of spare keys in the house though and encourage your parents to have a thumb turn lock put on instead.

Even with a set of spare keys nearby, in the event of an emergency I wouldn't want to be fumbling with a set of keys to get out!

Don’t even need the taxi driver to push the key through if worried about that happening correctly - taxi from whichever relative is closest, he waits outside (from window) and collects key from them, goes back in to re-close window.

Agree with PP that he could have asked a friend to do the key pick up.

I think given that it’s rubbish on him and not his fault, it would be a nice thing to do, to help out - but not by bloody bus!

Obviously your sister is nuts for blaming everyone for not resolving the issue she has caused.

Please do sort out the lack of escape routes from the house though, it's making me nervous.

Hi all- sorry for delay in responding. He did end up waiting til BIL came in at 2. The partner himself didn’t seem up or down about it all despite my sisters histrionics. Someone asked about the lack of back door- none of the houses on the street do- in unsure why but I think it’s because there is a mix of houses with porches and 4 in a block type houses? I never knew anyone with a back door/kitchen door growing up now I sit and think about it but my own house has one now 😂 he could have absolutely used the window on the ground floor. I can actually remember my dad doing this years and years when he was locked in.

thanks all for replies- it’s reassuring that we aren’t the shower of selfish b**tarfds she claims we are!

generally we do get on

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So sorry @ItsNotRocketSalad I thought I was responding to OP 🙈

we do get on though. She can be a bit much with things like this but this isn’t day to day.

She’s not talking to any of you!

She called you “incredibly selfish”
she said her job was “more important” that her other sister
she “ranted” at you all

seriously… you say this person is otherwise someone you get on with?

which I think is ludicrous on her part but generally we aren’t all not speaking or anything. This is her being over the top and I don’t think it’s the end of her relationship with us all. Normally we all get along.

I agree- she is being an entitled arse. And there have been other issues here and there with her being a bit difficult over certain things but I promise- I normally am close to her and I do like her 😂 I dunno- I’ve never considered not getting along with her or a long term fall out as I’ve always just seen her as the youngest sister and bit of a princess.