Drunk dial shame

[Arleybarls]

I'm seeing a man and it's going really well. On Sunday, I went to the pub and came home and had a few joints with the neighbour in the garden. I didn't think I was very drunk but the weed went to my head. Anyway, I drunk dialled the guy I'm seeing and sent a few messages - nothing particularly bad, just a bit cringey. I can't remember whether he answered the phone though. I've been worrying all week and he hasn't contacted me. I haven't contacted him because I'm too ashamed. We'd planned to go on a hike on Saturday and I'm wondering what to do? Any advice?

Please don't tell me what a dickhead I am - I know that already!

Can't you tell from the amount of minutes spent on the phone call?
Other than that don't worry about it!

At this point, I don't think there's anything to lose by messaging/calling. At least you'll know one way or the other.

Does the call log show the duration of the call? That should show whether he answered/it went to answerphone or not.

😂😂

We’ve all been there.

If he really likes you he'll be chilled and laugh with you about it.

If he kicks off about it and makes out its a big deal then it probably means he's not that interested in you anyway.

How to break the uncomfortable silence though when you both know what happened is more of the issue. I would just deal with it at time zero. Spending a whole day hiking with will he/won't he bring it up would be too tedious for me.

Enjoy the hike !

No shame, but I would be the one to follow it up. I'm guessing the messages just were a bit over familiar for the stage you're at? Is it clear you were tipsy from them? If I got such a message from someone I was newly dating I would be fine (as long as what they were saying was nice!) and not think too much of it but I would expect a sober call or text to say 'sorry, I got a bit carried away after a couple of drinks last night/ whenever, bit embarrassed now! I hope I didn't disturb you'.

The fact that he hasn’t contacted you doesn’t sound promising tbh.

I've got one for you - on radio about 20 years ago, DJ was asking if how listener's their day is going 'any regrets, anything to confess'.

Poor woman rings. She had been dumped by her boyfriend the previous day and to cheer her up her friends suggested going out for a few drinks. The morning, she woke up to discover she had drunk dialed her ex boyfriend and sent him the lyrics to Dido's White Flag. The whole song.

Have you heard from yet?

Is this an unusual amount of time to go without any contact? (I assume the answer is yes)

Have you tried to contact him?

I would send a message, light hearted but saying your embarrassed- something like" my phone appears to have got rather tipsy on Sunday night, sober me now has the beer fear. I'm so sorry, are you still up for that hike on Saturday, I promise my rugsack won't be clinking....". I presume he also likes a drink at times, we have all been there, and done worse than a few phone calls lol

On Sunday, I went to the pub and came home and had a few joints with the neighbour in the garden

How common....do you have a sofa abandoned in your front garden to use for this particular past time?

There's at least three houses on a new build posh estate local to me where there's a strong smell of weed as you past. It's not for me but getting high is something the very rich and privileged do too.

Oh for sure...but rocking up pissed after the pub and doing it with your neighbours sounds pretty common to me..

But anyway, even if you didn't say anything embarrassing you've showed yourself in certain light with your behaviour. Unless you're a student, it's a really really unattractive trait

That may be true, but being an arrogant snob is also an extremely unattractive trait.

So not taking drugs makes you a snob....righto.

Anyway, I wouldn't like to live in the vicinity of the op....pissed up in the garden getting high... pretty anti social.

Mmm cocaine would probably be less "common' I suppose .

It's time to take a deep breath and check the phone records. Then contact him and say a few drinks in the sun went to your head, and ask how he is.

I hate all drugs ..but I especially hate people who think it's ok to do outside the confines of their own home...so the neighbourhood stinks of weed and I presume it was late so the op and her neighbour sound like a pain in the arse.

I don't take drugs but I'm not an arse about it. That's not what the thread was about anyway, Hyacinth.

No, referring to people as “common” and looking down your nose at them is though. “Doing drugs” as you term it is far from the pursuit of a particular class of person, it’s not for me regardless of my perceived social class but you’ll find people of any background, wealth, income, career etc “do drugs”.

A bit of weed late at night never hurt anyone. Don't like the smell but it's not actually causing any harm. The world would probably be a nicer place if everyone smoked weed.

I don't take drugs but couldn't give a shit what others do in their gardens at night time.

I can drink too much at times and I'm well aware that it is a drug, albeit a legal one.

Sounds like OP may have talked some jibberish but if he likes her and she apologises it should be OK.

You should totally do this!

Of course they do the scum is rising to the surface all over the place.