Drunk dial shame

[Arleybarls]

I'm seeing a man and it's going really well. On Sunday, I went to the pub and came home and had a few joints with the neighbour in the garden. I didn't think I was very drunk but the weed went to my head. Anyway, I drunk dialled the guy I'm seeing and sent a few messages - nothing particularly bad, just a bit cringey. I can't remember whether he answered the phone though. I've been worrying all week and he hasn't contacted me. I haven't contacted him because I'm too ashamed. We'd planned to go on a hike on Saturday and I'm wondering what to do? Any advice?

Please don't tell me what a dickhead I am - I know that already!

I have no idea about the phrase in vino veritas, in my opinion it's when you're more likely to talk utter nonsensical rubbish which people can't decipher

Nope.
Thank goodness mobiles didn't exist when I was young, free and single

Lighten up ffs

So you've not even apologised?

Get over yourself. Somebody having a quiet joint is much better than a drunken barbecue next door with music blasting. It'll probs be legalised in our lifetime like in many other countries.

Comes across as OP is very embarrassed. Hopefully she'll check phone records then contact him.

So people who smoke weed are 'scum', in your opinion? Your username is rather ironic if that is the case.

Do you regularly hang your washing out late at night ?

I can't believe this has degenerated into a weed smoking scum thread - OP just contact him, hopefully it will work out and you'll have your hike next weekend.

As have you on this thread.

Yep. Completely derailed. OP just message him. The onus is on you to get in touch, not for him to either reply to drunk messages seriously or to particularly find them funny, I'm afraid.

Well, this calls for you to tell us how refined you are and set out the MN debretts guide to etiquette.

Translation: go back to your pretentious ramblings and stop trying to stereotype and make other people feel bad.

If I had a spare sofa right now I would put it in the garden and flick a V sign at you. Just to see your cat's bum response.

Op, contact him!

If you really like this guy, don't spoil it for yourself. Get in touch. If you leave it much longer, he might assume you're not available and make other plans for the day your hike is booked in. That would be a shame.

He's a grown man. I'm sure he's heard a drunk person say something a bit silly before. Unless you said something nasty- which I honestly doubt you have- I'm sure you'll be able to giggle about it and move on. Don't build it up in your head more than you already have.

If.you are going to patronise someone, spelling 'pastime ' correctly is a good start.

Just saying.

@Comedycook. I hate to disillusion you, but the ultra-posh do drugs, too.

Actually, I have a Debrett's-ish snob anecdote to do with drug use. I have done cocaine precisely twice in my (quite long) life, and the first time was with one of Queen Camilla's offspring. Who was definitely not a beginner...

And yes, OP, I would send a lighthearted feeler message if you like this man.

Honestly, if someone I was in the early days of seeing, drunk texted me, and told me they were smoking weed, I would end the relationship there. I don’t like drugs.

Yes, I am boring.

I'm boring and cautious as well. It would put me off too.

Me too. I hate the smell of joints, as well as of cigarettes and it would just put me off.

Me too.

The no apology would have been enough!

Sounds about right. Just different drugs for different classes usually. Probably about half of the celeb world does cocaine, and people have posted here about doctors and barristers doing it. I dated somebody briefly who was a stockbroker and he said a lot of his colleagues did it to stay awake when they had to work really late.

Common or posh..take drugs, you're scum in my eyes ...even more scum if you smoke outside and inflict it on others. Like I said, if my DC smell of weed because of random scum who smoke outdoors, then we all know what happens.