Kids screaming in garden next door!

[WorkHardPlayHard1]

So for the 5th time this Spring/Summer, the kids next door are playing happily and very loudly in the garden next door directly into the open door of my kitchen.

I really like the adult neighbours (their parents) and really don't want to fall out with then.

Any suggestions of how to approach this as can't bear the idea of a full Summer of screeching kids! They are 10 and 7! 😬

I don't mind kids being a bit shouty and giggly. It's the continuous high pitched screaming that gets on my tits.

I guess it depends a little - an occasional water fight with some screaming and giggling - fine, screaming non stop not fine. You can't expect silence from children playing but I guess if they are screaming non stop for no reason that is different and I'd possibly politely ask if the screaming could be kept to a minimum.

If it is however just giggling, using a paddling pool, laughing and playing then I think they should just be left to carry on

Why do the kids needs trump everyone else's though? It's been a long winter for everyone.

" if they were excessively screaming I would tell them to tone it down a bit." You obviously take responsibility for your kids and have respect for your neighbours. It's the ones who don't give a shit that's the problem.

@aperolspritzbasicbitch I assume you live near me.

The DC in the garden behind me are out anytime in the morning from 6:30 onwards. I get the impression the parents open the back door and just let them out.

They argue, scream, cry and shout constantly.
It is not the happy sound of children playing at all. (and they are not ND)
One child's name being constantly shouted by parents.

I would def rather have DC out playing than inside in the nice weather but we all have to rumble along together and some consideration goes a long way.

Exactly or my mum used to say exactly what I say to mine- scream again and you are in.

If they were overly loud then yes I would tell them to be quiet. I parent my kids very well thank you. They’re polite and not a nightmare like many kids I see. I never said they could scream, but laughing loudly is fine. It’s their safe environment. My neighbours are very young and have no kids. They also enjoy doing their extension work at 7:30 on a Sunday which I’ve never moaned about. I also have neighbours directly at the back and on the other side and they’re quite elderly and they love hear my kids laugh. So keep your judgy opinions to yourself.

That is what wise parents would say.

Exactly. Mine are adult and mid teen and survived undamaged being made to come in if they started screaming. There is no excuse for screaming or screeching.

Every year it's the same 🙄

oh I know how you feel - we have neighbours whose children wake me up on sunny weekend mornings from about 7.30am - pisses me off - but they re kids and they are playing so I have never said anything...

until...

they mentioned hearing our dog barking in the evening sometimes when I let him out for a wee (never very long, he just needs to say hello to the foxes/squirrels/cats that have dared to stray into our garden) in a slightly passive aggressive way.

it was only then I mentioned their kids (as well as pointing out that it isn't always my dog, there are others who bark too)

it is urban living, we hear each other we all should be considerate but also accepting that others are at different stages of life, live different ways and have different priorities. I hear their kids, they hear my dog - they both annoy the other at times - but what is the option? kids don't play? I put a muzzle on the dog every tome he pops out for a wee?

The kids are playing in their garden and having fun. Kids are also loud, it’s just the way it is. As long as it’s not early morning or late at night I have no issue with it. I bet their not constantly screaming and screeching either.

I’d approach this by not being so ridiculous and letting the kids play and have their fun.

I dunno. Screaming is unnecessary. Screeching is unnecessary. The garden isn’t massive so no need to shout particularly loudly. They play football and move the goal away from the fence so it doesn’t bang continuously, or they make up games together. None of that requires screeching. Kids should be kids but not to the detriment of everyone around them; same as I’m allowed to do what I want within the parameters of being a decent, considerate citizen!

It really, isn't the way it is. It's the way you parent, many cba to tell them to turn it down a bit.

Kids very able to play happily without disturbing neighbours. Try it, go on.

Welcome to terraced living!!

I live on a family housing estate so there are always kids out. It doesn't bother me, they're just kids having fun. What does bother me is next door's dog whining and squealing to be let in, constantly.

I do parent my kids thank you, get off your high horse. When they’ve got the slip and slide or paddling pool out they’re louder. Of course we tell them to keep the noise down but noisy plays makes noise. Kids can play in their own garden and make noise.

We have neighbours children on both sides of us. On One side are three brothers who play out all day long, when they are not at school. They play together quite happily the majority of the time. I love to hear their happy voices and laughter. Even the thump of footballs is preferable to what we hear from the other neighbours!
On the other side are two children who scream and cry all day long. The screaming is intolerable and incessant. I can’t imagine why they are such difficult children. Their parents are lovely neighbours but seem clueless when it comes to helping their children play happily. The children are very pleasant when they aren’t at home. They come and bake cakes with me and are no problem when I baby sit occasionally.
We are thinking of moving.

One can always spot the parent-type who allows this to happen.

@theemmadilemma I haven't made any stupid assumptions unlike you.

The poster specifically said absolutely no screaming is allowed in their house and that talking loudly 'at times' is fine. 'Talking loudly' is alright now & again? Each to their own but IME that sounds harsh, especially when they're in the own house/garden, hence my 'poor kids' response.

@thelinkisdead there's being considerate and allowing your kids to talk loudly 'at times'

Bit harsh my in my opinion but as I've said, each to their own. You do you.

Time to play something rude on your outdoor speakers-WAP? Je t’aime? only joking!

After years of MN and RL hyperbole I don't especially trust people's descriptions of childrens' noise any more. I have heard everything from conversation to laughter and singing described as 'screaming' and 'screeching'.

It is half term. On Monday they will be back in school. It is a good thing that the children are outside and not in front of screens. As long as the noise is restricted to sociable hours then YABU.

Grand children next door...little one about 3 is screeching away and they're singing their little hearts out.
It's quiet where we live so I love the noise and am happy that the weather is good enough for them to play out.

This is a miserable comment. Close your door or move!

Mumsnet is honestly crackers. People moaning about kids playing and making noise in their own garden and its height of bad manners, terrible parenting etc. Yet start a thread about children and babies in pubs and restaurants and its all 'they are just children, entitled to eat out, of course they make noise they are children, you don't see this in the med, children are welcome everywhere etc etc'. 😂

Move away from other people then

I completely understand where you are coming from OP.
We have really really loud kids next door too. 3 of them ages 6 4 and 3 , and all they do it scream, fight, cry, kill each other, shout etc. I work from home and I dread the summer months.
Someone mentioned close your door. In the heat of summer I have leave my windows closed and I can STILL hear them.

I get that kids are kids but I believe it is really bad parenting as the kids on the other side of me play normally and yes they make noise but normal kid noise. The noisy kids are an another level altogether. Their father is really loud too and kicks the football against the wall for hours.

So much so that we have decided to put our house on the marker or rent it out and buy somewhere smaller with no neighbours.

This is prob very outing now that I think about it but feck it, maybe they should know how bloody loud their kids are and how they have zero self awareness.