very outing but whatever. i am really quite upset by this.
family member bought tickets to a big event a few hours away as a gift. i am broke - 2 under 2 and currently on mat leave (smp) i have a 0 hour contract and have been told there’s probably no hours to go back to so god knows what my life looks like in july onward. family member knows this. regardless the event is something i absolutely love and know she spent a lot on tickets for so i said ok screw it i’ll find a way to slot it into the budget since the main ticket was a gift.
booked coach for a fiver, and found a cheap hotel. family member then last minute got all funny about the coach and how we’d be late etc etc (we wouldn’t) and how it made it less fun. i didn’t want to argue so agreed we’d change journey there to a train. 30 quid extra out of pocket.
got there and had a great time but then the public transport was insane and blocked off for ages on the way back to the hotel. checked uber and it said it would be a tenner so i said ok let’s just split it i can work with that. by the time we’d walked to somewhere the uber could access we checked again and it said £30. family member started arguing with me saying we should have stayed at the train stop and just waited. we had a huge falling out last year so i didn’t want to risk arguing and just said ok split the taxi whatever. by the time she booked it it went to £40. i said actually no i can’t afford/justify that let’s leave it so we went to nearby bar to warm up before planning to walk back to the train stop. family member booked the taxi anyway and basically just said it’s here get in.
said to me on the way home remember to transfer the taxi money. then texted me earlier saying send me £20. i haven’t replied because i am actually quite upset. this is a close family member who is well aware that her one wage (not including her husbands) is almost double my entire household income and she has no kids or nursery fees etc to worry about. i panic when the formula tub starts to get low. i literally don’t have £20 to my name i genuinely have £1.04 in my bank right now and my mat pay stops next month.
i just don’t even know what to say i just feel hurt that she has no idea how big a deal £20 is in my position. i went to the event with intentions to budget and now i’m £30 down from the train and she wants £20 for a taxi i agreed to cancel. wibu to just ignore her.