Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Elderly neighbour v house renovation

195 replies

shazwee · 30/05/2023 15:21

I've inherited a house which had tons of damage, needed new roof, re wire, concrete base new ceilings etc..basically almost has to rebuild, semi detached dormer bungalow. House has been empty for many years. Some things have been done since March, new roof etc..elderly single lady next door is not coping well with the noise of the workmen. It's been difficult as I don't have a massive pot of money to put it right so relying on family and friends etc trying to keep noise to minimum at weekends ( although this is really only the time hubby and I can spare to do bits) I have sent flowers to neighbour, kept her informed etc..gave her some doors etc she wanted , basically I have tried to be as accommodating as possible. Yesterday the plasterer was in and she came round complaining its was a holiday and didn't want to noise ( she is round every time a trade is there complaining about noise) I dont know what else I can do. There is possibility months more of noise to come, plumbers, patio to be laid, new kitchen the list is endless...Yesterday she asked us to tell her everytime noise is going to be made...impossible for us as we're not always there and cannot ask workmen to do so...what can I do, I don't want to fall out but I can't see a way forward..she has had silence from the house for years. I didn't think a plasterer would make any noise 🤔 please help MN friends x

OP posts:
Thread gallery
7
shazwee · 30/05/2023 20:59

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

2bazookas · 30/05/2023 21:14

Reroofing is a noisy job. Concrete mixers are noisy.

But what " noise" does a plasterer make? Or a plumber?

MayBlossom23 · 30/05/2023 21:23

TenoringBehind · 30/05/2023 18:36

It is miserable living next to building work. It was incredibly inconsiderate to do work on Sundays and Bank Holidays. The only thing that keeps one sane when neighbours are doing building work is the knowledge that there will be these handful of days when there will be peace and quiet.

Her age is irrelevant.

Yes, I currently depend on Sundays as the only day I can invite friends and relations over and not be disturbed by next door's incessant building noise.

justgettingthroughtheday · 30/05/2023 21:34

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

If the rude and obnoxious way your treating me is anything to go by I really really feel for your neighbour!!!

If you were being reasonable and considerate then your neighbour wouldn't be complaining! So you clearly are not being!

PatAndMat · 30/05/2023 21:35

AllyCart · 30/05/2023 20:02

@PatAndMat

I know exactly what I am talking about after over 35 years working in the industry…..Thankyou

So why are various councils saying you can't do noisy DIY at all hours, then?

Thankyou. [sic]

Attached is a standard handout that some Local Councils provide.
( Some provide nothing but are prepared to take decibel levels from the highway if there are complaints late at night.).

Elderly neighbour v house renovation
Elderly neighbour v house renovation
Elderly neighbour v house renovation
Elderly neighbour v house renovation
Elderly neighbour v house renovation
UnNiddeRides · 30/05/2023 21:35

But you did have the plasterer in on a bank holiday. You don’t think it would be noisy but you weren’t there so you don’t know.

CloudlessSunnyDays · 30/05/2023 21:36

Soontobe60 · 30/05/2023 17:53

By assuming that someone who’s older might not work, might not bother with weekend, therefore should just put up and shut up about antisocial noise at those times.

She said 'elderly' not 'older' and as this woman is there every timer a contractor turns up, I don't think it's ageist to assume she's retired.

she lives alone & doesn't have family or friends popping in & out. So it's hard to see why one Monday (bank holiday) isn't much like another. I don't think that's ageist just factual.

she was complaining about OP's DH using a domestic power tool at 3pm on a FRIDAY.

Yes, noise is annoying, yes she's elderly and it appears she can't easily take herself out for the day, BUT that still doesn't entitle her to absolute silence 24/7, she's got used to while it's been empty, but the house needs work done, so it is what it is

PatAndMat · 30/05/2023 21:39

Please note OP
As the noise is not constant for your renovation. ie non stop, high levels for many days / weeks at a time late into the night you cannot be accused by the police of causing a nuisance.

justgettingthroughtheday · 30/05/2023 21:43

UnNiddeRides · 30/05/2023 21:35

But you did have the plasterer in on a bank holiday. You don’t think it would be noisy but you weren’t there so you don’t know.

Exactly having work being carried out in weekends and bank holidays is really unfair!

The neighbour needs to know when then noisy work is being carried out and this should only ever be done between 9-5 on working weekdays. Or else how can the neighbours get any respite. I imagine there has been at least some noise on the weekends even without power tools being used. It's easy to not realise how much noise you are making.
Frankly even having people working on site on the weekend would have you on edge anticipating noise if it's been noisy in the week.

But the key to all of it is communication. If you popped round on a Sunday afternoon with some flowers and a list of the times in the week there was going to be noise and work going on and were seen to be being proactive about reducing the disruption then she would stop complaining.

EsmeSusanOgg · 30/05/2023 21:46

Freshair1 · 30/05/2023 15:28

Working on a bank holiday is inconsiderate. I feel sorry for her.

In most parts of the UK, unless it is emergency work, you are not allowed to do household construction on a bank holiday - because it is disruptive.

I hope OP is otherwise keeping to appropriate quiet hours for building (between 8am and 6pm weekdays, 9am and 1pm Saturdays. Only emergency works on Sundays and bank holidays). Otherwise her neighbour is 1) entitled to be upset and angry and 2) well within her rights to raise with environmental health and have a noise abatement order slapped on the site -- a breach of which results in a very hefty fine.

EsmeSusanOgg · 30/05/2023 21:47

EsmeSusanOgg · 30/05/2023 21:46

In most parts of the UK, unless it is emergency work, you are not allowed to do household construction on a bank holiday - because it is disruptive.

I hope OP is otherwise keeping to appropriate quiet hours for building (between 8am and 6pm weekdays, 9am and 1pm Saturdays. Only emergency works on Sundays and bank holidays). Otherwise her neighbour is 1) entitled to be upset and angry and 2) well within her rights to raise with environmental health and have a noise abatement order slapped on the site -- a breach of which results in a very hefty fine.

To clarify, those are the house building work is allowed to be conducted. Earlier/ later, or any time Sundays and Bank holidays is not permitted unless there is an emergency (usually related to plumbing/ electrics).

AngeloMysterioso · 30/05/2023 21:52

She has my sympathy- my next door neighbours got a loft conversion done and then built a yoga studio in their back garden. Two summers in a row of constant banging and drilling to the point where I didn’t want to open the windows, when I was pregnant and then had a young baby- it was a bloody nightmare. They dropped all sorts of shit from the loft conversion into our garden too which we’re still finding a year later!

Trinity65 · 30/05/2023 22:12

NowZeusHasLainWithLeda · 30/05/2023 16:30

God the ageism on MN is repugnant.

There was no need to even mention the neighbour's age, it would suffice to whinge that the neighbour was pissed off that you're having work done on a bank holiday.

She was right to be pissed off. As has been said.

It truly is

PatAndMat · 30/05/2023 22:28

EsmeSusanOgg · 30/05/2023 21:47

To clarify, those are the house building work is allowed to be conducted. Earlier/ later, or any time Sundays and Bank holidays is not permitted unless there is an emergency (usually related to plumbing/ electrics).

This is a code,
not the law and
almost impossible to enforce unless the noise level exceeds 80db and is constant.
plasterers don’t make that level of noise or anywhere near it.

caringcarer · 30/05/2023 23:06

Provided there is not noise before 8am or after 5-6pm I don't think she should be complaining. Plastering does not make a noise. She probably sees a tradesman arrive and thinks she will complain. A lot of DIY is done at weekends and bank holidays. My dh finished tiling a floor for me yesterday. It did not make a lot of noise but it had to be done.

EsmeSusanOgg · 31/05/2023 08:18

PatAndMat · 30/05/2023 22:28

This is a code,
not the law and
almost impossible to enforce unless the noise level exceeds 80db and is constant.
plasterers don’t make that level of noise or anywhere near it.

It does not harm the neighbour to report, as I am sure that other actions described do meet that level of noise.

Also, not sure where you are, but it is absolutely enforced where we live.

Obviously if OP is following the code, then there is no issue.

PatAndMat · 31/05/2023 08:44

EsmeSusanOgg · 31/05/2023 08:18

It does not harm the neighbour to report, as I am sure that other actions described do meet that level of noise.

Also, not sure where you are, but it is absolutely enforced where we live.

Obviously if OP is following the code, then there is no issue.

Like I said it needs to be fairly constant.
If a builder is using a circular saw or a large set of drums outside in the garden for a few days then yes the Council would send someone round to check on it.

Or if it was late etc then the police might pop round and ask for it to stop but only if they are satisfied that it is a nuisance or / and a health hazard. Again it needs to be fairly constant, noxious, above db rates etc.

Doesn't sound like they are doing anything like that sort of work though.
Plastering, electrics, fitting kitchen etc. No.

Also it doesn’t really matter where I am it’s where I’ve worked.

PatAndMat · 31/05/2023 08:53

Ps.
I did a scheme next to a Recording studio on Greek st in London ( planning required ) and we had to have the noise levels for every activity checked constantly.
Demolishing entire floors and solid walls and playing Bat out of Hell on full blast with the windows open tipped the bar.

Keep the heavy machinery to daytime hours OP and get the job done as quickly as you can OP, that’s the best you can do to help your neighbour.

bussteward · 31/05/2023 08:59

2bazookas · 30/05/2023 21:14

Reroofing is a noisy job. Concrete mixers are noisy.

But what " noise" does a plasterer make? Or a plumber?

Plaster: nail gunning on boards, hacking off old plaster, mixing adhesive, sealant, filler and plaster with a drill, plus work in an empty unfurnished room increases the noise.

Plumber: lifting floorboards for access and reinstating them, cutting pipes, drilling walls for fixings eg for radiator brackets. Ditto the empty room echo.

About the only non-noisy trade is painting. And possibly having a seamstress round to hang your curtains.

Abracadabra12345 · 31/05/2023 10:49

Hairpinleg · 30/05/2023 17:21

She needs to know when exactly there will be no noise so she knows she'll have a break from it at some point. So if you're working there at weekends, you need to be able to guarantee that no work takes place on Mondays and Tuesdays, for example. She can't live thinking it's non stop every day.

That's the thing, isn't it? And to know that there's a reasonable end date. If we know when the noisy work will take place, it's easier to cope.

I feel so sorry for her. 86 years old, no family, doesn't drive or go out so no escape which the OP has as she's not there. What a way to live her last years.

The "it could go on for months, years even" is what made my stomach drop. Does she know this?

New posts on this thread. Refresh page