Ask you to help with these bitchy comments?

[eyesoftheocean]

It’s a friend of a friend and I’ve been out for dinner with her twice - with my friend.

The first time it was a set menu and she laughed at my food when it arrived (you had to preorder) and said “oh my god is that what you ordered”

The other time we just ordered a small snack whilst having a drink and I had nachos and she said “so you just ordered crisps and you’re only eating the sour cream” - when I was eating all the dips. For reference all she had were chips.

It’s frankly bizarre how much she focuses on what I eat. I’m out for lunch later and I know something will be said.

That’s offensive to 10 year olds! My 10 year old child knows not to comment on other people’s food. Because it’s rude.

This is micro aggressive and feels a bit bullying. She’s been obviously not used to dining out, otherwise she wouldn’t make such crass comments. Bin her off, and the nice friend too if she can’t see the problem.

I would have to stare straight her, just say ‘yes’ and then start spooning sour cream directly into my mouth.

Rude cow. Wtf has what you eat got to do with her?

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Someone I used to work with couldn’t stop picking over who was eating what. It was an embarrassing lack of social skills and self awareness.

The person was also a bullying cunt by the way…

This^^ Def would not be going with her involved again.

She wants to embarrass you and she can only do that if you let her - so be loud and proud about it.

It that what you ordered?

Yes! It totally is! I bloody love nachos. Want one?

Maybe while ordering say you were reading an article about how people with low self esteem / repressed sexuality/ food addiction issues (insert issue of choice here) always comment on what their companion is eating and see if she does it anyway. Then you could just look at her really concerned if she does. She might get the hint!

Sounds like she is just bad mannered. I would be quite taken aback if someone passed a comment like this, it just isn't acceptable, like asking about your bowel movements.

Bet you go down a storm at parties. 😂

Yes but a man in that situation might say "it's my lunch why don't you F off and let me eat it" but if OP does this the other girl will be picking apart this highly offensive verbal assault. Or the mutual friend would have told her to shut up before now. I don't understand why people can't just have manners at least until they know each other well enough to slag each other off. She needs to learn to read the room

Sounds like she's picking on you to draw attention away from herself, very school-like behaviour!

The interested and engaged coaching conversation approach may do the trick.

'Interesting question! Where does that come from?

Oh I see (repeat her answer) - so what leads you to that conclusion?

Ok. And how does it make you feel when you see people enjoying their food choice?

So what might lie beneath that feeling?

Is everything ok for you with food? …'

Brightly engaged enquiry with the faint suggestion that you're a little bit concerned about her.

Polite, friendly, so your nice friend can see what she's doing and how your're choosing to deal with the other one.

I just usually laugh and say I was just thinking the same about what they were having. I do that with everything I think somebody is being snidey about. Act not bothered, laugh and throw it back at them. They either turn matey or ignore you, but they rarely try to make you feel crap again.

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If someone commented on my food in such a nasty way they'd be wearing it !

@eyesoftheocean - how did the lunch go?

Why use so many words? Fuck off would do it.

“Ha. I wondered how long it would take you…”

Laugh at her. Take the power back.

@TeaParty4Me I find it rude when someone comments negatively on my food and would find this off-putting