That I should be able to post a thread without it being overtaken by weirdos

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This really why is it impossible to post a thread without people looking back on my older threads and having an opinion. Y can't people answer. My post or scroll by without turning into stalkers

You could change your username?

How do I do that ?

OP, you need to step away from Mumsnet and get help in real life. You're not well.

And I've not AS you, I just recognise your username.

Checking people's other threads can give you an insight into how their mind works before offering advice

And sometimes you do just recognise the same name

Also, that's why there's throwaway names.

I do have help in real life from professionals but it's not the same as advice from real people with real opinions but I would like people to answer questions without bringing up stuff from months ago

I know a lot of people hate posters using AS and MN themselves don't seem to approve either (then why do they offer the function??) but I don't personally see the offence in it. You've written something and made it public, you write something else under the same username even though it couldn't be easier to change it...I honestly don't see what's wrong with looking at the stuff you've willingly put out there to get a fuller picture. How many times does someone post about, say, a shitty partner, who's Lovely Really, but the AS shows he's an incorrigible arsehole who's only getting worse? Should people not be allowed to see that or mention it? Or sometimes it's the AS that shows this post has context, the poster has form and they're not quite who they're pretending to be?

Just name change if you don't want your past posts linked to you. Yes, you'll get people saying "interesting first post" but so what? Most people realise posters can name change and even if you get reported, MN can see how long you've been here.

Of course you shouldn't be abusive to people but you don't need AS to be a dick.

What on earth makes you think this is real life?

But sorry, context matters. Opinions that are based on ALL the facts (which people seem to manage to leave out half the time) are likely to be much better than people telling you what you want to hear.

OP I don't know you or previous threads but occasionally there are threads where someone is posting about X situation and responses go a particular way with people taking time to respond thoughtfully and helpfully. Then it turns out the same poster has either asked the exact same thing not long before or some relevant details don't match previous posts etc. It can be relevant and salient to peoples' replies to know this sort of thing.

How do I name change it won't let me click on username?

In your settings and change username. If the box is greyed out, it might be an old glitch related to users that created their accounts on the mobile app. Email MN for the fix. Also try on desktop.

Some users are blocked from changing usernames, I think. But I don’t know what the thinking is behind that.

Hi OP,
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It's not people being weirdos. Your previous posts are extremely relevant in your situation.

It's people trying to talk some sense into you.

You need to step away from the internet, stop instigating arguments with your ex, and stop drinking alcohol - forever.

Until then you should not be in charge of your young children.

We tell you this on every single one of your posts. Stop drinking alcohol.

I have just realised what this thread about a thread is about (which is also supposed to be against the rules, isn't it?) OP, there are no weirdo's posting on your thread. What is weird is what you think is "weird" and what you think is "normal".

Thankyou 😁

Oh sorry didn't realise it was against the rules 😬

Nail on the head

What's the other thread?

Because its relevant to your situation you make endless threads but dont say what the full picture is and then people cant advise

you randonmly sleep with men you know you shouldnt you have alcohol problems and because of thisit sets out a different picture to your question

Probably this one https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4812081-to-tell-new-lad-this-is-my-room
because people recognised her previous threads

So I can't ask questions or people's opinions because I'm an addict. How does any of my history have anything to do with wanting to sleep in a different room environment to others

I have no idea why some posters feel the need to attack the op.

Thankyou ❤

And this list here, this is why people do it OP. Because context is vital and knowing all this could completely change someone's answer to your questions. They're not being weird, they're trying to answer as best they can, by getting the necessary context.

Nobody is attacking the OP. But they are giving her advice that she would be better off taking (in just about every imaginable way) for her own sake and that of her two young children.