To think this was the most cringe thing to overhear?

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Got a late train home last night and two men sat behind me talking loudly about drugs and were clearly doing coke off the pull down tray.

What was so cringe was how desperate they were for people to know that’s what they were doing:

Ahh! Raging. Lol. 😝

I don't think it's what's being done, but HOW it's being done. Asking your child how much change you might get is fine. Asking your child very loudly how much change you might get, whilst referring to the sessions they've spent with the maths tutor/lord high vizier is performance parenting.

These threads always go the same way when performance parenting is mentioned. All the "why is speaking to my child showing off? Should I just ignore them?" posters are so tiresome. As if someone talking to their child would warrant any comments from anyone.

Also - you choose your moment. Asking your child to pay and work out the change in a quiet little shop with a friendly till assistant on a slow morning - that’s fine and very normal. You’ll get a smile from the friendly till assistant who was a bit bored and everything’s good. Don’t do it in Lidl on a Saturday morning before a bank holiday when there’s ten people with brimming trolleys behind you, in a loud voice, slyly glancing round because you think everyone is going to be so impressed with your little genius.

Everyone chats to their toddlers on little walks round the park - “look, there’s a duck! What does the duck say?” Nobheads talk loudly to children on packed trains along the lines of “what’s duck in French, darling? CANARD! That’s RIGHT! Well DONE! You’ve paid such good attention in your EXTRA CLASSES, no wonder you’re TOP!”

I was thinking much the same. I'd be reporting this.

Not really performance parenting it's called learning life skills and encouraging indepdance. My mum used to work in a college canteen. She used to get students coming in not knowing how to handle money. They also get to use they're manners and show respect for the person serving them.

FFS see what I mean? Learn the difference will you.

Performance parenting is standing in a deli and loudly asking your three year old which of the many cheeses they want, making it clear that they are familiar with them all. Ordinary parenting is quietly telling them to bung a packet of Cheddar in the trolley at Tesco.

Is it not just asking your child which cheese they want and involving them in decisions? You’re only normal if you you only eat cheddar?

And it’s totally normal to involve children in paying etc It’s teaching them how to navigate life. You lot are probably those parents who don’t ever engage with their kids and then wonder why they turn out to be morons that can’t manage in the world….

I think you would get on with my mum. This is exactly the kind of thing she would do 🤣

These threads always go the same way when performance parenting is mentioned. All the "why is speaking to my child showing off? Should I just ignore them?" posters are so tiresome. As if someone talking to their child would warrant any comments from anyone

@Olive19741205 to be fair a previous poster has said she had to leave a shop in a rage because a mum asked her child how much change to expect.

And another poster was horrified that a parent would allow a 3 year old a choice of cheese and declared anything other than cheddar from Tesco is performance parenting

Honestly I think its linked closely to the 'children should be seen and not heard' and 'we prefer our women silent too'

It's just another tool used to beat mums over the head with, especially mums of toddlers. If the mums weren't interacting they would of course be accused of being neglectful parents instead. There literally isn't a single thing a mum can do sometimes without people thinking it's open season for criticising.

You lot are probably those parents who don’t ever engage with their kids and then wonder why they turn out to be morons that can’t manage in the world….

Haha bingo! Always the same.

My car was once stolen on CCTV - you could see their faces and were a well known family.

The police asked me for the CCTV footage after two weeks… and then subsequently didn’t make an arrest as there was ‘no public value’.

So whilst I might have reported him to a conductor, I certainly wouldn’t have expected them to be arrested and at most, kicked off the train.

How did a thread about grimy addicts on a train start dissecting women for the alleged crime of performance parenting? JFC, this is a space to be supportive of families, not bash them.

Haha bingo! Always the same

@Olive19741205 how funny that lots of people always say the same thing to you when in fact you’re the one that’s right!

Was sitting behind a bloke in his Thirties on a bus last week- he was on his phone loudly bragging about “IF YOU LIKED THE LAST LOT I CAN SEND YOU A LITTLE PACKAGE IN A CD CASE”

Very attention seeking and twattish.

What on earth are you talking about? 😂"Lots of people always say the same thing to you" ? What? Who does? You're literally just making up nonsense.

Haha! Brilliant response-
LSD was certainly more potent in 1960’s /70’s according to operation Julie bust.
There is an old clip of a tripping girl on YT - Filmed in1960’s in England she would be in her early Eighties now.

I was on a train not long ago with a very drunk woman loudly telling the stranger next to her about how she had gone to see Rocky Horror Picture Show at a theatre, gotten into a fight with three women in the audience there and punched them all. She ended up getting into an argument with somebody else who was annoyed that she wouldn’t shut up about it on the train.

I was on a rush hour commuter train and the youngish (late 20’s) guy opposite me was talking loudly into his phone about how hard it was with his new gf who was ‘gagging for it’ but he’s still not had the all clear after what he caught from his ex - absolute true story

You can take drugs and not be an addict.

I didn’t feel unsafe or terrified.

Did you not consider that the whole performance was just done for the reaction of the gullible.
Likely that no drugs were involved in the performance. It seems to have had the desired effect.
😉😁😁

Calm down, Peter Hitchins! ;)

Lands End, thought it would be really pretty. Just pretty awful.
statue park in Budapest. Guide book bigged it up, but took ages to get there by public transport and was just a muddy field with a few statues in it. Comedy moment though was when the lady a the ticket office saw us approaching, Soviet style marching music suddenly started blasting from speakers.
can’t remember the name of the place, but was an oasis in Peru that is famous for sand boarding. My husband really wanted to go there on our trip. Took ages to get there on a bus through the desert. There was litter everywhere and our hotel was gross. We slept in our sleeping bags on top of the beds. Husband got in a grump and refused to do all the activities he ‘really wanted to do’. We still laugh about this ‘cutting your nose off to spite your face’ grump 10+ years later.

I’m with you on this. The extreme examples are quite a long way from the original. I’ve literally never seen anything like the extreme examples.