DH leaves the house without saying goodbye

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I've NC as I am embarrassed that this bothers me so much.

Basically DH sometimes leaves for work without saying good bye in the morning and it upsets me. Not in floods of tears or anything just like 'oh fine bye to you too'

He will say he thought we were asleep and didn't want to wake us. But baby DS was winging/ chatting in his cot. I was awake in our bedroom. By the time I heard him getting in his car I was up battling with a wiggly DS who was screaming that he didn't want his nappy changed.

I wouldn't want him to wake us but if he had a quick check to see by opening the kitchen door it'd be nice!

I've phoned him before to say why didn't he say good bye and he knows it bothers me.

I do more often than I don’t. It depends on the circumstances, but he always knows when I am going out and roughly what time.

I am an early bird and will often get up a six to go to the gym. I don’t wake my husband to say goodbye even if I’m going in to work from the gym and won’t be until the evening. He wouldn’t thank me if I did.

I see posts about wives should not have to know their husbands fiancés etc

Same sex bigamy in the offing?

I try to but sometimes I’m in a hurry; likewise dh does it too when he leaves before me. Not a biggie to me.

We're a say goodbye and a say hello family. To me it's rude not to. It doesn't take long to say goodbye before leaving.

It's important to me to say goodbye and be said goodbye to, by DH. 8 years ago my partner at the time was killed in a RTA on his way home from work. You never ever know when that could happen and it's the little things, the niceties and acknowledgments that can mean so much.

We always say goodbye when someone (anyone) leaves tho horse. It's just good manners IMO

This makes me a little sad for you OP. I get a lot of people wouldn't be bothered, but you are, and you've told your DH. It's such a minor quick thing for him to add in to leaving the house

We always say goodbye in the mornings (I WFH so it's always DH leaving), if we are together in the same room he will give me a quick kiss, if I'm upstairs he'll yell that he's leaving, and we always say to have a good day. It's just nice.

Then, and I’m talking from experience, whether you’d said ‘goodbye’ or not would be the least of your worries.

I always give my partner a kiss and a love you before I leave

My DH is the opposite and will say goodbye to us all around 4/5 times over the course of 15 mins. I ignore the last goodbye and pretend I can’t hear him. Just go already!!

Very rude not to at least say a basic 'Goodbye'

I thought it'd just be standard to say goodbye.

I reminded him I don't like him not to say goodbye. He said he will check in future to see if I'm awake. I know in the grand scheme of things it's not that important, but it is to me.

@RubiesandRose I'm sorry to hear about your partner 😥

@jux that gave me a giggle. No the 1 good bye is enough for me. Do the servants line up as well 😂

In saying that, my family growing up would all stand at the front door until the car went around the corner if someone was going away for a while.

I would not want to be woken up when my partner goes out but if awake then, to me, it would be weird not to say they are going and also to give each other a kiss.

I'm with you. My dad went out to work one day and died, and it's left me with a desire to always say goodbye to my loved ones- It's an easy way of making sure that if one of us did die, you have a firm final memory that's of love, not left wondering what the last thing you said was, or regretting that it was arguing over who stacked the dishwasher wrong. It's such a small easy thing to do, I don't know why it would be a big deal to do, even if it didn't come naturally.