to expect that when I go to see a fucking practice nurse concerning my loss of voice

[colditz]

she should refrain from harping on about the depression I finished dealing with over a year old and not bring up my young single mother status and "coping mechanisms" with my children?

And perhaps assuming that the reason I am tired and quiet is because I have fucking laryngitis and it hurts me to talk, not because I am "Down and depressed".

I am sick of this bloody ancient history following me around.

ha ha yes

my mother's history used to follow me around

when I had cystitis following my stepfather's death my doctor tried to give me ADs because of my mother's depression ffs

thank the lord we moved away from that practice

Poor you. It's just this sort of thing that puts some people off seeing a GP about depression in the first place, isn't it?

how patrronising of her.

I've had laryngitis several times, be careful as it turned into croup with me and that really was a horrible experience (and unusual in an adult)

maybe laryngitis and cystitis are all depression related

maybe also broken legs

no, YANBU - I'll go to the HV about a baby-related problem, and she'll spend the whole appt talking about my suspected PND.. which we only just talked about last week.

YANBU.

I remember, as a smoker in my student days, going to the doctor after hurting my foot in a fall and his first question was "Do you smoke?"

I don't go anywhere near my HV, because although I never say this to anyone concerned with my medical care, I think she is a dangerous and egotistic lunatic who touts her own opinions as medical fact and is far too concerned about getting people to 'admit' to depression.

I told the nurse today that when I am depressed, I go to see the doctor, I don't pretend to lose my voice to get attention. Neither will I batter my children because I have lost my voice, and i don't see why my coping mechanisms should change.

She repeatedly referred to me as a "Young mum" (and I am nearly fucking twenty eight, and eventually I told her this) and misinterpreted my barely suppressed fury at being judged as me being 'upset'.

I do NOT like people raising my previous depression. I will raise me depression as and when I feel fit. I do not see the need to fucking pester me with it whenever I go to the god-damn fucking doctor.

YANBU

hee hee at smoking

I once went to elderly doc when I was a student; I had a virus that had hung around for ages

'do you do lots of sport?' he said

I told him I cycled 6 miles a day

but that wasn't enough apparently I had to be doing a team sport; football or netball or something, which as we all know are excellent for fending off viruses

The nurse at my school used to deal with every situation with either,to girls aged 11-14, "Are you on your period?" Or to girls aged 15-18 ,"Do you think you might be pregnant?" You could slice a finger open in home economics or twist your ankle playing netball and you got the same response.

I am concerned now, I am frightened actually, that she has judged me as a bad mother. This woman who saw only a snapshot of my (ill) personality and has the ability to add to my medical records.

I am being paranoid. I tend to be.

If you really get stressed about it you are entitled to see your records.

I really would suggest trying to find a good GP and seeing him/her when you can. If you then have to see this nurse for an urgent appointment, you can always smile sweetly and say that your doctor deals with any other health issues you may have and you are here to get -in this case- your throat seen to.

did she even look at your throat?

(and 28 isn't young - sorry, you're an old hag )

yanbu and yanb paranoid.
you need to be telling them this isn't on (when you have your voice back ) fine for them to be concerned but this is intrusive.
didn't realise i was a young mum though, that's good to know

oh ta squonk

oops

where was that magic £1.89 wrinkle cream from again?

hmm, wrinkle cream - got it here somewhere

wow that stuff works miracles! and to think she's really 180 years old!

YANBU. I feel really angry on your behalf. If this sort of thing happens to me, I can spontaneously, from absolutely NOWHERE burst into tears and rage at the same time and have absolutely NO control over my temper. People would assume I was a lunatic, but really, I just have this awful, awful intolerance for people taking the piss and treading where they just have no right.

Vent on here -get it all out and then make yourself a nice cup of tea. Shrink the hag in your mind, put her in a glass jam jar, and screw the lid on tight. The point at her and laugh at her - the miserable little Mrs Pepper Pot.

Ahhhhhh, that's better.

I have just phoned up and asked for a copy of my records.

I want to know what the hell is on there to make a nurse recat like that to a sore thoat.

I am incredibly stressed now, I find that having my depression dragged up by people in qauthority sets off an almost phobic reponse in me.

And this sounds ridiculous, but ds1 hurt himself this morning, pitching off the sofa while i was trying to put his Tshirt on - I was holding his wrist (to draw his arm through) and he dropped like a stone. It hurt him and he blames me! And now I am scared this will snowball, and ds1, when asked will say something like "Mummy hurt my wrist" or something.

I have a real, irrational fear of the SS, instilled in me by my loving parents who used to tell me that if I didn't behave they (the SS) would come and take me away. And as an adolescent, i was told that teenage mothers whose families wouldn't care for the baby had the baby taken away. And my dad was a policeman, and I believed his every word until I was about 26, and about 76% of me still does.

YANBU

I remember going to GP when I was 19 with horrible persistent headaches and he talked for the whole appt about badminton and how much he enjoyed it and how good it would be for me.

I can't stand HCPs who think their position makes it ok to judge you.

I have just spoken to the practice manager on the phone, and she was very very good - I explained that I had just gone in to talk about my sore throat, and that the nurse kept on about things that I consider to be child protection issues, and I wish to see my records to see why she has had such an extreme reaction to a sore throat!

The manager was very good.

That's good- you have a right to read your records, but try and calm yourself down for a moment now. Everything is tumbling together and overlapping in your mind, and it sounds like you are starting to panic. Take a step back - chances are this woman has completely forgotten about what happened, and that what you said has put her in her place. The fall with your son is completely coincidental, so give him a biscuit and a juice, tell him you love him and he'll be your best mate again. Try not to get it mixed up in your mind with what was just a really ANNOYING visit to the docs. Is there a doc at your practice you think it ok? Might be worth talking to them about how annoyed you get when this happens, and that it's not healthy for you to have it brought up all the time. Maybe then they can put something in your notes to this effect, so sticky beaks keep their sticky beaks out. Good luck.

good for yuo, but I would complain as well