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Original poster

to expect that when I go to see a fucking practice nurse concerning my loss of voice

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colditz · 19/02/2008 11:49

she should refrain from harping on about the depression I finished dealing with over a year old and not bring up my young single mother status and "coping mechanisms" with my children?

And perhaps assuming that the reason I am tired and quiet is because I have fucking laryngitis and it hurts me to talk, not because I am "Down and depressed".

I am sick of this bloody ancient history following me around.

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doggiesayswoof · 19/02/2008 12:57

Oh just saw your last post

You poor thing. Nobody with any sense will think you are a bad mother. And you said yourself this is an irrational fear.

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colditz · 19/02/2008 12:57

and I have lost 1.5lb this week and she has spoilt it. Or rather, instead of laughing it off like a normal person, I have over-reacted and become upset.

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Sycamoretree · 19/02/2008 12:57

x-posts Colditz - glad call went well.

doggiesayswoof · 19/02/2008 12:58

Argh x-post

Good - practice manager sounds great.

StealthPolarBear · 19/02/2008 12:59

you have not over reacted.
If you went to see them with depression, should they bring up the sore throat you had a year ago??

StealthPolarBear · 19/02/2008 12:59

didn't see that last post. Glad you are getting somewhere

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colditz · 19/02/2008 13:00

She made me want to cry, to be honest, and scrweam that i am NOT a child batterer.

Except I can't scream anything.

I wish people would look past the bloody pram face and credit me with some intelligence. My single mother status should have no bearing on a bloody sore throat.

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girlfrommars · 19/02/2008 13:02

Hope it goes ok for you.

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colditz · 19/02/2008 13:02

It was (and I am aware that I am ranting now) as if she had a script in her head, and it didn't matter what I tried to tell her to the contrary, I was, to her, a Struggling Single Mother, Possibly Depressed.

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YouKnowNothingOfTheCrunch · 19/02/2008 13:04

YANBU

She's an idiot, pure and simple, plenty of 'em out there. Very unprofessional of her and I'm very impressed you're doing something about it.

Can't believe what a dick she was

islandofsodor · 19/02/2008 13:08

Re your sore throat. Do lots of steaming, you can never get enough steam (obviously make sure you don't scald yourself)

try and avoid shouting, whispering or doing anything else which my dh (vocal teacher) considers to be vocal abuse!!!!!

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colditz · 19/02/2008 13:13

Ok. Does tea count?

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StealthPolarBear · 19/02/2008 13:14

I just looked at your profile (wanted to see a 'pram' face) and I get the impression you like tea!

StealthPolarBear · 19/02/2008 13:15

Your DCs are very cute

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colditz · 19/02/2008 13:16

Thanks

Lovely creatures.

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girlfrommars · 19/02/2008 13:19

Sometimes health care professionals have a tendency to want to fit you into a particular box.
The trouble is that with a 'depression' label on you, when you get angry/upset about them not listening, they can take it as further evidence of depression!
I try to remember the idiot female doctor who, when I went in to get treatment for a UTI, insisted on treating it as cystitis, and actually gave me instruction as to which sexual positions would cause less irritation!
The fact that I had had both in the past, knew the difference, and had kidney pains and a temperature didn't deter her.The pain + fever, the antibiotics I was prescribed the next day by a different doctor and the positive urine test were obviously a figment of my imagination.

girlfrommars · 19/02/2008 13:22

Sometimes it's not about what's in your notes, it's just that they're crap and they have no listening skills.
Try not to take the nurse's idiocy as a slight on you. She might just be that bad.

Upwind · 19/02/2008 13:26

YANBU, but you are ill and understandably by alarmed by an unprofessional nurse.

You have done the right thing in requesting your file. Try not to distract yourself until you get it.

VictorianSqualor · 19/02/2008 13:27

I used to get the same colditz, I'm pg with no3, havent suffered with depression since my first yet as soon as I get uptight or stressed out it's apparently related .
Thankfully all I've had so far this time round is numerous questions from every doctor/cons/midwife I've seen about my OD in 2000, that's eight fucking years ago!

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colditz · 19/02/2008 13:32

I know VS, it's as if I will never shake it off.

I smoked for 10 years and I am actually worried that my sore throat is something sinister.

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colditz · 19/02/2008 17:00

Do youthink I should say anything to the practice manager about why I want to look at my records?

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HonoriaGlossop · 19/02/2008 17:06

aw colditz - what a silly, discriminatory woman. You didn't over-react BTW - she was very odd by the sounds of it.

Young Single Mother Possibly Depressed absolutely sums up what seems to have been the only thought running through her brain cell

Good for you for getting the records. Don't feel you need to explain yourself to the practice manager - you have the right to request this, you don't need a reason.

And please don't worry about your throat being anything sinister; I think like that when I'm ill and run down....it's just your virus talking. You'll soon be on the mend

Tortington · 19/02/2008 17:18

what has your marital status got to do with the price of eggs?

i think you should ask for your records to be changed to reflect a change in circumstances marital status ..to [withheld]

refer to yourself as Ms. colditz

and if anyone should ask in future, please tell them you don't want to discuss it.

dilbertina · 19/02/2008 17:26

sympathies to you colditz, she sounds like a mare. Do you think she thought you'd lost your voice because of too much shouting at dc?!

Chin up, she was guilty of reading too much into everything, BUT it is quite common for people who are suffering from depression to visit under a pretext....she could have ensured this was not the case a lot more tactfully though I'm sure.

smurfgirl · 19/02/2008 17:27

Oh its pants isn't it.

I had to endure a dr in a&e grilling me about overdosing when i went in even though it was 4 years ago, and i had no desire to overdose and said this repeatdely. And then when he gave me my antibiotics he joked that I should not overdose on them.

Oh so funny.