to expect that when I go to see a fucking practice nurse concerning my loss of voice

[colditz]

she should refrain from harping on about the depression I finished dealing with over a year old and not bring up my young single mother status and "coping mechanisms" with my children?

And perhaps assuming that the reason I am tired and quiet is because I have fucking laryngitis and it hurts me to talk, not because I am "Down and depressed".

I am sick of this bloody ancient history following me around.

How annoying. That is one of the reasons I never mentioned my past depression when I was pregnant with any of my three. I wasn't depressed anymore and didn't find it necessary to tell them.

Colditz - don't know if this helps, but this may be just that the GP's are at the end of their Financial Year and they get paid by points - which are gained by "ticking boxes" for Patients.

Any Patient who has been taking Anti Depressants within a certain timeframe should have been asked "are you feeling depressed?" within the last say 15months.

Some GP's have been known to phone Patients up just to ask "are you feeling depressed"!! They can then tick the box and claim the points.

This is all due to the ludicrous way the Government monitors the GP's, and with budgets being cut they sometimes resort to this. At this time of year, unanswered "boxes" flag on every patient record so anyone seeing them can ask the question / do the test etc etc.

Maybe she was being insensitive but was prompted to ask these questions for that reason.

Hope your throat improves soon

The other thing to bear in mind is that it is not unknown for people to go to their GP about one thing when it is actually another issue that is on their mind. HCP's have a very difficult job to do - drawing someone out so they can bring up what they really need help with - sometimes it can go wrong - as it did today for the op. Colditz - sorry you had such an infuriating experience

It's holistic care dontcha know

We treat the whole person not just the symptom.

(But she was shockingly tactless and misdirected, so no YANBU).

At least you are not overweight - even when I went into get antibiotics, for , wait for it, laryngitis - I was told that my loss of voice was down to the fact that I was/am overweight, stroke obese!. Had I forgotten to put my wedding ring on, no doubt I too would have been labelled as Fat and Depressed,and in Need of a Good Lecture, to Pull Myself Together.
Sympathies Colditz ( or ColdTits as I keep wanting to write ), its not just you.

Dear colditz
have found best medicine for sore throat laryngitis difflam spray, make it go nice and numb get better soon
hth

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Can I just say very quietly and respectfully that voice problems (psychogenic voice disorders) are very common in people with depression or stress.

Not my specialist field but i am a salt.

Just a thoguht.

Ok. I have come down off the ceiling - moondog, I didn't know that, thank you for saying that as I can now see what she was possibly getting at - she really could have put it better, but then I really shouldn't have over-reacted the way I did.

The worst, the very worst thing about losing my voice is that I am usually in fairly good control of my voice, and am nevert afraid to use it - and now I am finding people talk over me all the time. I really don't think the stress has led to the voice loss, I think the voice loss has led to the stress.

One VERY interesting side effect is that I am learning a great deal about other people and their lives because I am making an extra effort to look attentive as I cannot answer - and people respond to it! It's rather amazing

YANBU.

But it happens all the time. I had to see a locum doctor over Chrismas, for antihistamines to try and stop the allergic reaction to scabies I was having. He looked at me, and then told me you can't be allergic to scabies (it is an allergic reaction ffs), and had I "been taking any drugs that could have caused it?"

Yeah, like I was going to be out on the razz looking like a plague victim with my eyes swollen shut.

Hi colditz, just wanted to add my sympathy on the insensitivity. (I remember being asked "why did you leave your husband?" when I went to GP when understandably depressed. The only correct answer would have been "none of your fucking business") Single mothers, young or not, don't half face a lot of discrimination. It's rubbish.

My record with no voice at all with laryngitus is 9 days - with croaky before and afterwards. If I go to the Doctor with this, I say (or whisper)(rather pointlessly really) that I've got laryngitus - they agree and say don't speak and that's it... So I can sympathise.

One thing I have discovered is that people often start talking very quietly if they are in a conversation with you - obviously this is only possible in a quiet location though.

I think that the worst thing is trying to cope with ds at the same time, and this doesn't help with getting your voice back. I do find, though, that, in an emergency, I can still sing - so I can make quite a loud noise if necessary. I'm sure that this is no good for you either, but better than ds running where he shouldn't.

Hope you're feeling better soon

ooo Colditz - if she thought you were a "young mum" at nearly 28.......that must mean me at almost 29 is young too

I had a similar kind of problem when I was expecting ds.
When I was 18 I had to have an abortion as my baby hadn't formed properly and it wouldn't have been able to survive once I had given birth.
The doctor and midwife both said to me that "I should have been more careful, too many teenagers have drunken 1 night stands and then have abortions"
I did lose my temper and shouted at both of them that I didnt have a drunken 1 night stand and that I was on the pill and it didnt work for some reason and why I had to have the abortion.
Luckily they were very sorry and refered me to a consultant and I got extra scans with ds.

Sorry for the ramble and I hope your sore throat gets better soon.

kay . That's absolutely awful that 2 of the health professionals were so careless and insensitive.

colditz - glad you are coming down off the ceiling, hope your voice is better soon.

colditz how is your voice today?

i have taken a third day off to rest mine. feel so stupid, but want it to clear up!

haven't been to gp yet they usually tell me to voice rest.

steam also helps but cant face it yet.

It's gone from whispering to 'honking'. And ds1 is off school again, with a cough.

i hate sending him if he is even slightly chesty, because he doesn't ask for his inhalers.