To hate summer because...

[winterbaby777]

Of the constant peer pressure to be outside in the sun, the pressure to get a bikini body and to lose weight in order to wear certain clothes, the pressure to be constantly doing outdoors activities and living life to the full.

I want to sit indoors with my cats, watch television and eat my favourite food. I don't want to go and sit in the sun. I don't want to wear a bikini and prance around pretending I love my body.

I'm a teacher and I've just finished a hard day of work but I feel that it's socially unacceptable to go and chill indoors for the rest of the evening as it's so 'beautiful' outside, and I live in a coastal town so the pressure to get out and onto the beach and into the sea is hard. I also suffer from depression which doesn't help.

Give me rain any day!

Anyone else or am I a grumpy nob?

You can do what you want. No one is forcing you to go outside.

Who exactly is putting all this pressure on you to go to the beach???

Stay in if you want to. I don't see how you're being forced to do any of the things you mention.

I know what you mean.

Pressure from who? I've never felt like this.

No one is forcing you to prance about in a bikini or go outside. Stay in and watch TV , the summer police won't arrest you.

I love the summer..I like being indoors on a summers day with windows open and sun beaming in, reading a book

Just try to see it as another option. Rainy day, what can I do? Sit in. Sunny day, what can I do? Sit in or go out. Basically like a chicken drumstick on a buffet, it's there if you want it, but if you want to stick to a sandwich, all good.

The only thing I don't like is getting woken up even earlier by my kids. Despite black outs and every trick in the book!

I think the bikini thing must be very specific to your apparently very warm coastal town because nobody is wearing bikinis here on the outskirts of Bath!

I was never a summer fan until I had a child. Now it means there is always the park when desperate.

I’m a night worker and hate summer!!

I prefer being indoors in the summer as our house keeps cool for most of the day.

Such a strange post. Don't do any if those things if you don't want to, I don't get it....is anyone forcing you? What's the point if this thread?

To a degree maybe you’re being unreasonable because vitamin D is super important, so going out for a little walk in the daylight is really beneficial for you.

But like, no you don’t need to be out in a bikini or sweating your tits off in the hot sun.

I actually do not like sitting out in the sun in this country, I agree. I’d rather be sat indoors.

I do however enjoy a walk, I like activity and I feel much better getting daily boost of vitamin D.
if I lived at the coast id definitely go for a walk but I wouldn’t feel obliged to have to spend hours outside just because it’s nice weather! Quick 30 mins trot about listening to a podcast to get some steps in :)

Yabu. Firstly, there is no point in hating it because there is nothing you can do to change it. Secondly, ignore the peer pressure. Thirdly, find the positives eg you don't have to wrap up warm, you don't need the heating on.

Personally it's my favourite time of year because I like being outdoors and it is easier to do with the warmer weather and many hours of daylight.

I always get summer blues too! I enjoy outdoor activities but definitely have the constant feeling of missing out in summer, like any night not spent drinking rosé on a rooftop is a wasted evening. Whereas in the winter, at home all cosy is exactly where you are meant to be and where most other people are too, so there is no FOMO.

Where's the pressure coming from OP? It would make sense to make peace with "summer" in whatever way you can, because it's coming for you every year, and you can either hate it or get your head round it.

People expect you to go to the beach on a May evening just because the sun has appeared? Sod that! Who are they? Just say no. I also live in a lovely costal place and no chance of even dipping a toe except on the hottest of days and certainly not after a long day at work.

Nah, normal

Enforced fun isn't much, er, fun

Who is expecting you to prance about in a bikini when it’s barely been hitting 20 degrees?

Do what you like in warm weather, sit at home in the dark if you fancy it.

But there’s also nothing wrong with people who spend time outside or enjoy sunny weather.

Oh and same goes for bikinis - I think I wore one once last year. Rarely warm enough in the days I'm free to get to the beach

Nobody has ever pressured me to wear a bikini and I don't think anyone ever will.

Big nope to bikinis over here too. My favourite things to wear in the summer are enormous kaftans, really big full length ones, with gladiator sandals and sunglasses and one of those plastic picnic glasses full of mojito, and I can waft around like a faerie. Try it, you'll love it. If you don't love it you haven't had enough mojito. 😄

OP, I hibernate most of summer! Outside of having to do the school run etc etc that I HAVE to do, I am inside with the windows and curtains closed. There is nothing wrong with that as long as you are feeling ok mentally, getting enough vit d and moving enough. I do agree with pp above who said there has to be a level of acceptance. Just do what you want to and don't worry about what is 'normal'

Come move to the North West - it’s pretty muggy and cloudy here, definitely not bikini weather!

I feel guilty hating warm/hot weather but I have a health condition that makes it utterly intolerable. In winter I don’t feel I’m missing anything if I’m indoors but I hate that I don’t enjoy being outside and doing summery outdoor things. I dread the summer months and can’t wait for autumn. Plus in winter you can put more clothes on, cover yourself in throws and keep warm. There’s only so much you can do to keep cool unless you invest in aircon. Thin clothes, fans, blackout blinds only do so much if it’s 34 degrees.