To want DH to tell me in advance if he's coming home early?

[ThePartyArtist]

DH has got home from work an hour early the last few nights. Obviously great but I'd appreciate notice because then I could cook for the whole family in one sitting at 5.15, rather than son at 5 and DH and me at 6.15. Without notice, I'm obviously preparing for 2 sittings. He doesn't get why I'm asking for notice! He says I should just eat with DS but then I still have to think about leaving his, only to find that was actually unnecessary as he's home shortly after we eat.

Prep for 0ne sitting.

He can warm his up when he gets in or make his own.

Why not all eat together at 6:15 and then it doesn’t matter if he gets home early. It’s really good for children to eat with their parents as a family.

Why on earth would you cook twice?! Just cook once and warm the second serving up later. Talk about making a rod for your own back!

Do you not have a microwave?!

I think this might be one of those things that what ever happens it begins to be annoying. Best idea is cook enough for all in one go and who ever is late they reheat theirs.

I think someone should be able to just rock up home when they want to without announcing it.

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YABU to require someone to give notice to come home.

Your DH is BU to expect you to cook dinner espeically for him when he is home later.

YABU for cooking twice.

Although I do think everyone could just eat at 6:15, I've never understood this idea of feeding children super early. It's not like the two of you want to eat at 8pm.

I put YANBU, as your reason makes sense in the context of your current routine, but i think the actual answer is to cook one meal for one sitting always, and let him warm his up in the microwave if he arrives later.

Why are you making your life unnecessarily hard by cooking twice?

Can't you just cook once and his gets microwaved?

Why on earth are you cooking twice?!

Perfect chance to knock double cooking on head. I’d all eat at 6.15.

Does it take that much more effort to leave his for whenever he comes in?

or just all eat together at 6.15?

I understand it. I used to do this when I cooked something nice but now I just cook it for us and plate his up for him to sort out later.

Flexibility and choice is the key. People should feel free to come home when they want. They should also not be burdened with the expectation of making fresh meals for all at different times.

Cook once, all eat together at 6:30/7pm. Whoever isn’t there on the odd occasion can pop it on the microwave.

Choice, freedom, and understanding that you are all individuals with your own wants and needs. Shoulds and musts are the way to resentment.

Just cook for yourself and DS.

If he doesn’t get why you’re annoyed then he can cook himself.

Why should her child go hungry for 2.5 hours waiting for H to come home?

I had to laugh at the thread title, not much to do with your meal problem but my DH has a trade and if he is rained off/can't get materials comes home in the middle of the day, usually when I'm on a zoom, crashes through the door, shouts 'HELLO' as loud as he can and keeps shouting until he gets a reply and then proceeds to do some very loud DIY usually involving a power tool all while I'm in meetings.

I wish he would warn me he was coming home early 🤣🤣🤣

Just cooking for you and ds and leaving him to it is other option. Where’s mine? Oh we had carbonara it needs to be made fresh.

I can’t believe, in 2023, there are women who cook for their husbands every day.

It’s not like he’s finishing work really late - he gets in early enough to cook his own dinner!

This your making an issue out of nothing

I work at the office and my husband from home so he cooks most meals in the evening. The time I get home varies by up to an hour but I certainly wouldn't expect him to cook a second serving just for me. I just heat up what he's cooked if I'm late. I would hate to have to "check in" with him just because of food!

Snack?