For my daughter to wear this to a funeral?

[milkshake05]

My Nana has recently passed away and the funeral is next week. Originally I'd said my children (dd6 ds11) were not going to come but my grandad wanted them to be there (not specifically at the service if they didn't feel comfortable but afterwards). It won't be a big funeral and I think he's hoping it will be a real family gathering.

Would it be unreasonable for my daughter to wear this tartan dress with black tights, shoes and hair bow? Or do you think I should buy a new plain black dress for her.

I think that looks perfect for a 6 year old. Your Grandad is the only one who would mind what people are wearing, and he’ll just be glad your kids are there.

It's absolutely fine, she's 6 nobody is expecting a 6 year old to wear black.

Sorry for your loss, i think the dress is fine.

I think that's absolutely fine.

That's lovely.no need for plain black

Personally I think this is fine. It might depend on any cultural or religious background though.
sorry for your loss.

The dress is fine

I think that is a lovely, smart outfit and I’m sure your Nana would love her in it.

Sorry for your loss @milkshake05 💐

I'm sorry for your loss.

As PPs have said, I think that dress is perfectly fine for a six year old to wear (the only sort of people who would expect a child of that age to be dressed like a grieving Victorian widow are, well, a bit odd), but if it makes you feel better and you feel like he has the headspace to give you an honest answer, you could ask your grandfather?

That’s entirely suitable OP.

My daughter wore her school uniform to my Grandad’s funeral. Admittedly it was a private school and winter uniform included a beautiful dark navy wool voluminous cape, but nobody expected a 12yr old to wear black.

As long as there's not likely to be any cultural issues with the red, it's a lovely outfit.

No-one will expect a child of six to be in plain black, even for the most formal funeral.

Very smart. She will look great in it.
My gran's funeral was 2 weeks ago - we specifically asked people NOT to wear black. She loved bright colours. She would have really approved of this dress. :)

It’s fine for a child. You’re not meant to buy new for a funeral anyway. So yes, let her wear that.

It's fine.

I work in a church, we have 2-3 funerals a week. Young children hardly ever wear black (apart from anything else, babies' and toddlers' outfitters sell very little in black). A 6 year old is old enough that you'd often see them in black, but young enough that you often would see them in another colour as well. It's only when you get to around 9 or 10 that you'll see the vast majority wearing black. The exception is when there's a particular colour scheme for the whole funeral, then even young children tend to wear it.

I think it's perfect.

Absolutely fine. No one would expect a 6 year old to be all in black.

If I could afford it I’d buy a black dress. If I couldn’t afford it I’d think the red will be fine, but generally you wear black or dark colours to funerals.

Thanks all - I will go with this outfit. I thought it would be fine but in the back of my mind she has worn this dress to parties before so didn't know if it was appropriate.

When I was younger my Nana used to make me dresses and made me a tartan dress at a similar age which I loved, so coincidentally it has some sentimental significance too 🥺.

Her dress is lovely and absolutely appropriate for a funeral. I'm sorry for your loss.

Oh that's beautiful.what a lovely gesture.

Yes that’s lovely for a child to wear. Sorry for your loss.

For a 6yr old?

Tbh I think that that outfit is dark overall.

That will be lovely. A bit of joy on a very sad day.

I'm sorry for your loss
I think that is perfect for her
Really smart

Personally I'd allow a 6 year old to wear anything. The last few funerals I've attended have had a "no black" policy - to celebrate the life more than mourn the death.