For my daughter to wear this to a funeral?

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My Nana has recently passed away and the funeral is next week. Originally I'd said my children (dd6 ds11) were not going to come but my grandad wanted them to be there (not specifically at the service if they didn't feel comfortable but afterwards). It won't be a big funeral and I think he's hoping it will be a real family gathering.

Would it be unreasonable for my daughter to wear this tartan dress with black tights, shoes and hair bow? Or do you think I should buy a new plain black dress for her.

I think the dress is lovely and will be perfect. My grandchildren were age 6 and 4 when they attended my Dad’s funeral. It never entered anyone’s head to dress them in dark colours. They wore the same lovely bright colours he enjoyed seeing them wear when they came to visit.

Well for anyone, yeah. As I said I would probably use the red dress if I couldn’t afford a black one, but if I could afford it I would buy a dark dress.

I’ve been to more funerals than I care to remember and I’ve never once seen a child dressed in black

Sorry for your loss OP and yes, that looks lovely. People wear a pretty wide range of things to funerals these days

I'm sorry for your loss.

Yes, the dress is absolutely fine. Especially if combined with black socks or tights (depends on the weather) and dark shoes.

You could choose a black bow for her hair as well.

Oh, possibly a cultural thing then. At every funeral I’ve attended (except for one) all those attending wore black or dark colours.

I am sorry about your Nana. I think that dress is lovely. It's perfectly respectful and appropriate.

Best wishes to you and your family; I hope the service goes OK. x

OP. Beautiful dress, very appropriate, your Nana would be very proud and I'm sure your Grandpa will be too.

That's appropriate for a six year old. There's no need for a small child to dress all in black.

It's perfect. It is dark toned. I would be cautious about her wearing something pink or yellow or similar unless specifically requested but this looks sombre.

looks perfect :) Xx

I think it's fine - she'll look smart in it and it will remind you of happier memories with your grandmother. Sorry for your loss

It's fine - and you do not need to ask your grandfather. It is good that your DD will be there.

That's a lovely dress and perfect for the occasion. I'm sure your grandad will appreciate her being there.

I'm sure your Nana would be happy with the tartan dress, and your Grandad will be glad to see your DD there. So sorry for your loss.

It's very similar to the dress my (then) 6 year old DD wore to her grandma's funeral. It's perfectly appropriate.

All the more reason for your daughter to wear the tartan dress ❤️ very appropriate and condolences on your loss.

A cape with a winter uniform, that sounds lovely. Condolences on the loss of your grandfather too.

Sorry for your loss OP but I would not be putting my dd in red for a funeral. I'd pick a plain dark coloured dress.

Sorry for your loss. Yes it's fine and appropriate.

Sorry but I’d find a black or dark grey outfit for her. School skirt and tights or trousers with a black top would be better.

I think the dress is lovely and will be perfect.

My MIL died recently and we didn't buy anything new for the DC. DD6 wore a grey jumper dress, purple tights and navy boots. DS9 wore black trousers, a navy jumper and tan boots. Both looked very smart and not out of place.

That’s a lovely outfit and totally suitable. It’s dark toned and smart. I’m sorry for your loss.

It's lovely, my ds wore his burgundy velvet jacket to his father's funeral, no need for an all black outfit.

"if I could afford it I would buy a dark dress."

Good luck trying to find a dark dress for a 6 year old in May. I just about managed to find a navy dress and suitable shoes for myself for dad's funeral (he died on Friday and was buried on Sunday) in early summer. My two year old had two dresses. The blue was the most suitable. Tried it on Saturday morning, fine. Half an hour before people arriving to the house for family service + removal- nope she was having none of it. You can't really take an angry naked 2 year old into church (her other choice would have likely been a reindeer jumper and leggings with the knees worn out of them) so I let her wear the other one- a massive, buttercup yellow summery affair with a huge bouffy skirt thing and puffy frilly sleeves. Oh well. Nobody minded.