For my daughter to wear this to a funeral?

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My Nana has recently passed away and the funeral is next week. Originally I'd said my children (dd6 ds11) were not going to come but my grandad wanted them to be there (not specifically at the service if they didn't feel comfortable but afterwards). It won't be a big funeral and I think he's hoping it will be a real family gathering.

Would it be unreasonable for my daughter to wear this tartan dress with black tights, shoes and hair bow? Or do you think I should buy a new plain black dress for her.

I’m glad nobody minded your child wearing a yellow summer dress to a funeral. I simply said I would prefer to dress my child in dark clothing for a funeral if I was able to. I have never struggled to find appropriate clothing in a variety of colours, especially now that online shopping is so accessible.

We recently had a funeral for a close family member and although everyone was wearing muted colours, there was no wall to wall black. Lots of people in grey/black/navy or even a really dark green with lighter tops.

The dress is PERFECT for your daughter. Hope it all goes smoothly.

Your child has got life. People will be happy she's there's and happy,

Also agree that shopping for funeral wear at this time of year is impossible.

I scoured the shops in early April looking for a black dress for Dad's funeral and it was all floaty floral numbers and summery prints. Thank goodness for online shopping.

Dress likes cute and it's fine for a child.

I work for a church, plenty don't wear black and that's the adults. Purple or navy is very common and muted floral dresses common in summer. I think it's fine but it depends on your family tradition. It used to be said that children wore purple traditionally

Perfectly respectful. I'm sorry for your loss.

That frock is perfect. Sorry for your loss.

At least you are in control of what she wears. My teen wore a very glamorous skin tight black dress to a funeral last summer she looked super glamorous but as if she was at an entirely different event to everyone else. Dh aunt was very appreciative that we went though and dd made nice small talk with extended family so think she got away with it.

I wore something very similar to my grandma's funeral. Admittedly that was the early 80s but I think it's a good funeral outfit for a little girl

The red might be a bit much for a funeral. Depending on the fabric, you could try overdyeing the dress with a blue dye to turn it purple?

I think it is fine. Perfectly respectful.

The traditional black for funerals is fading out a lot now. My MIL had requested no black to be worn at her funeral so people came in a variety of colours. It was nice to see.

Another family funeral we went to had the dress code casual. The family and many of their friends wore football strips of their team and jeans. The rest of us wore casual stuff too like jeans, t-shirts, sweatshirts and trainers.

Funeral dress codes are much less strict now than years ago.

I think it will look lovely. I'm so sorry for your loss.

I can't remember the last funeral I went to where there wasn't a 'please wear bright colours' request! I think somber black-clothed affairs aren't very common these days.

Sorry for your loss.
I think the dress will be just fine
But...you will iron it won't you (sorry Mumsnetters worldwide)

Yes that is perfectly acceptable.Many adults don't wear black to funerals now, there is no reason for a child to

It's a neat, smart dress that's perfectly appropriate.

And the link to the tartan dress which your granny made for you is a lovely extra point in its favour.