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Just saw another S&B post and I'm concerned.

153 replies

NewAnon · 15/05/2023 23:15

The post was "is this suitable for a wedding" (classic), but one of the reasons the dress was unsuitable was that it was too 'sparkly'.

I've bought a sparkly outfit to wear as a guest for a wedding, and now I've got The Fear that it's too much.

It's this top, with a similar colour (blush/gold) midi length gauze skirt (ballerina style). And I plan to wear it with a box navy jacket for the service (and navy suede shoes): https://www.phase-eight.com/product/dhara-sequin-blouse-502166453.html#navAjax=true&imageType=model&is=true&sz=60&start=60&q=sequin&isSecondPage=false&pid=502166453&pos=69

The bride will be wearing Ivory, and the bridesmaids are in terracotta. Have I misjudged it?

Dhara Sequin Blouse |

For a more relaxed take on party dressing, our Dhara blouse is the answer. Embellished with sparkling sequins, this piece is a easy, standout separate with plenty of style impact.

https://www.phase-eight.com/product/dhara-sequin-blouse-502166453.html#navAjax=true&imageType=model&is=true&sz=60&start=60&q=sequin&isSecondPage=false&pid=502166453&pos=69

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Floraltears · 16/05/2023 07:39

It looks lovely, I also think most brides don’t mind what colour the guests wear! I certainly didn’t 😄

The last wedding I went to, the bride wore pale pink and bridesmaids were in white, none if the guests in pale pink felt that they were stealing the show!

WittynotPretty · 16/05/2023 07:41

Your outfit is absolutely fine. Looks celebratory and pulled together; not at all ‘bridal’. Sequins aren’t just for Christmas! In fact, it’s the one time I wouldn’t wear them- because everyone else is!!
I’d go with a nude strappy heel, navy clutch and navy headband.

Beautiful3 · 16/05/2023 07:43

I think its beautiful and perfect for a wedding guest.

Bugbabe1970 · 16/05/2023 07:47

Are you lot for real?
There's nothing 'bridal' about this outfit at all!
It's lovely OP!
Why do brides care so much what other people wear to their weddings!

GoneTillNovember · 16/05/2023 07:50

It's completely fine! Totally love it.

Honestly MN has odd rules about S&B that dont exist in reality

ThatFraggle · 16/05/2023 07:51

You're going to be too hot. A long sleeved sequin top is hot because of the plastic sequins. Then a Jacket on top.
That's part of why people generally wear sequins in winter/night-time only.

BillyNighysWife · 16/05/2023 07:55

Some of the earlier posts on this thread are weird. Only in a Jane Austen novel would anybody concern themselves so much with occasion dressing etiquette. Such rules simply don’t exist nowadays.

Also, are brides really that sensitive about what their guests wear? I certainly wasn’t and I have never heard of any bride in RL who was.

I also think that some people on here have a very dated idea of fashion. What the OP suggests is totally on trend.

The outfit sounds great OP !

User14528564 · 16/05/2023 07:55

The top is nice but I would wear it with a plainer skirt

BillyNighysWife · 16/05/2023 08:00

And another thing!

How can anyone assert that the OP will be too hot? How can any of us possibly conclude that? The OP hasn’t said exactly when or where the wedding is or what kind of venue.

Doingmybest12 · 16/05/2023 08:03

I don't understand the plainer skirt comments. It is a pretty skirt and plain in colour.

Rightnowstraightaway · 16/05/2023 08:13

I wouldn't have thought twice if someone had worn that to my wedding. Looks fine to me. As long as it's not white and full length I don't see the problem.

CindersAgain · 16/05/2023 08:16

Looks lovely to me. I think the sparkles being for evening only is a bit last millennium.

User14528564 · 16/05/2023 08:19

In the OPs picture of the top it is styled with plain trousers and looks really nice, the skirt is too flouncy and would not look as good as the OPs picture of the top. Sequins and flounce is too much, one or the other is much better

lieselotte · 16/05/2023 08:32

Are you in the close wedding party? If not, nobody will notice what you wear anyway and you could wear jeans for the attention you won't receive.

I have never been told what colour the bridesmaids are wearing at any wedding I attended, and as a bride I didn't care what anyone wore.

Dedodee · 16/05/2023 08:32

I’ve been to many weddings.
I can remember two dresses worn by guests.
One was my niece’s dress because coincidentally it looked similar to the bridesmaids dresses. Nobody minded and she looked lovely.
Two was my nephew’s gf who had a dress perfect for her youth and figure which my dm commented on because it was quite short. I told dm off as the gf looked lovely and was new to the family so didn’t want her feeling unwanted.

I used to sing in a church choir and we often sang at weddings. We had a bird’s eye view of guests and some outfits were truly surprising. Especially mob/mog.

Wear what your comfortable in and enjoy the day. The worst thing is to fiddle with your clothes. If you feel the need to constantly adjust an outfit then don’t wear it.

bunnybunnybunnybunny · 16/05/2023 08:38

This top is absolutely fine for a wedding. The dress you're referring to is not unless the wedding is in Las Vegas.

Lindy2 · 16/05/2023 08:39

Your outfit sounds lovely. The navy jacket tones the sparkles down for the ceremony. It works well for the day and the evening in my opinion.

I get a bit bemused about all the over analysing of colours, sparkles etc. As long as a guest has made an effort and isn't wearing a wedding dress then all is fine.

Cazelet · 16/05/2023 08:43

I absolutely wouldn't want to tone it down 😅 I'd ditch the navy jacket , they instantly make everything look dull imo

Alwayswonderedwhy · 16/05/2023 08:46

I think it looks great. There seems to be so much overthinking on what's acceptable at weddings.

As someone that was happy for people to wear what ever they felt comfortable in at my wedding I'd say just wear what ever you want.

StripedBlue · 16/05/2023 08:57

Wedding guest outfit threads can attract the uptight and the old-fashioned. It’s an eye-opener.

willWillSmithsmith · 16/05/2023 08:57

It’s great for the evening but I personally wouldn’t wear it for the daytime. It’s not daytime attire to me even if it wasn’t a wedding. (Imo).

Cazelet · 16/05/2023 09:02

StripedBlue · 16/05/2023 08:57

Wedding guest outfit threads can attract the uptight and the old-fashioned. It’s an eye-opener.

Yes it is! Of course everyone should just wear what they want to a wedding 🤷‍♀️

Catspyjamas17 · 16/05/2023 09:05

Looks nice but I would worry the sequinned top would be hot on a summer's day.

BTMadmummy · 16/05/2023 09:06

I think it is beautiful. Wear it and enjoy the day x

Catspyjamas17 · 16/05/2023 09:07

I LOVE the skirt though, it's beautiful @NewAnon Maybe a sleeveless silk top in the same colour would be better.

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