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Just saw another S&B post and I'm concerned.

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NewAnon · 15/05/2023 23:15

The post was "is this suitable for a wedding" (classic), but one of the reasons the dress was unsuitable was that it was too 'sparkly'.

I've bought a sparkly outfit to wear as a guest for a wedding, and now I've got The Fear that it's too much.

It's this top, with a similar colour (blush/gold) midi length gauze skirt (ballerina style). And I plan to wear it with a box navy jacket for the service (and navy suede shoes): https://www.phase-eight.com/product/dhara-sequin-blouse-502166453.html#navAjax=true&imageType=model&is=true&sz=60&start=60&q=sequin&isSecondPage=false&pid=502166453&pos=69

The bride will be wearing Ivory, and the bridesmaids are in terracotta. Have I misjudged it?

Dhara Sequin Blouse |

For a more relaxed take on party dressing, our Dhara blouse is the answer. Embellished with sparkling sequins, this piece is a easy, standout separate with plenty of style impact.

https://www.phase-eight.com/product/dhara-sequin-blouse-502166453.html#navAjax=true&imageType=model&is=true&sz=60&start=60&q=sequin&isSecondPage=false&pid=502166453&pos=69

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Womencanlift · 16/05/2023 00:02

Personally I think a guest wearing sequins is a bit try too hard but that’s a preference thing rather than etiquette

However bigger issue is that I can’t see the top and the Reiss skirt going well together from the links you have uploaded. And adding a navy jacket seems an odd choice but I may be wrong and in real life it all goes together

BlackSwan · 16/05/2023 00:15

Jacket sounds like an odd choice for the skirt /top combo & let’s face it, it’s coming off after the service (the jacket that is 😉). Then it’s going to look too bridal party…

OnlyFins · 16/05/2023 00:15

I think it sounds fine but wonder if the navy will look a bit harsh. I think you’d want something more neutral in terms of colour.

Love the idea of someone wearing sequins liberally though! Grin

bd67thSaysReinstateLangCleg · 16/05/2023 00:17

I don't think a boxy navy blazer will work with a tulle skirt of any colour. Do you have navy trousers (ideally palazzos) to match the blazer? With flats and a small bag to match the top or the trousers.

bd67thSaysReinstateLangCleg · 16/05/2023 00:21

Also I reckon jacket and trousers in burgundy or aubergine would go better with the top. There's no getting around the Royal Navy/officewear/school uniform feel of a navy blue blazer.

MrsClatterbuck · 16/05/2023 00:25

Was at an evening do recently and it was sparkle central. One woman had a full on dress covered in sequins. Lots of sparkly sandals and headbands. These were day guests.

Sparkles are not just for Christmas.
Saw recently a wedding photo of a relative from the sixties. The MOTB who would have been only 59 was dressed like the Queen Mother in her nineties. We have come a long way.

mellicauli · 16/05/2023 00:59

The thing about sequins is that they are plastic and if it is a nice sunny day (and I think it's polite to assume it will be and everyone just needs to act surprised if it's bucketing down), you are going to be hot and uncomfortable in a long sleeved sequin top. Even if the weather is not that nice you'll be regretting it by the time the dancing starts.

tolerable · 16/05/2023 01:03

want the truth??(am shit at sugar coat)i voiced my(no/dont)opinion on that. youve poosted a blouse.bout 3inches shorter than the dress.....it WASNT the sparkles that was problem.not really.....more the fannie exposure\dressed for a club \tho no age range//relevance to bride -groom supplied.it was...too short n not in line with even 2023 lush version of conformity. TRUTH is...wear what makes you happy...THE BRIDE iis the dress wearer to be noticed...IF you want talkt about-do it with class.i like blouse/tutu skirt require you be small/10 tops...probli.said it

VonThorn · 16/05/2023 01:21

I'm a fan of a daytime sequin. It's got to be worn right though - the skirt idea is a bit flouncy for me.

The model in the top (it's a gorgeous top btw) is styled well - plain pants and very simple, slick hair.

Bouffy hair or flouncy anything, and the sequins might be a bit much. I'd wear the top, but rethink the bottom half.

howdoesatoastermaketoast · 16/05/2023 01:38

I have no taste but can say that as a bride it wouldn't have bothered or upset me.

If you're planning to wear the boxy navy jacket could you wear a smart pair of navy trousers with the sparkly top (or would be breaking other rules?)

not going to google too long but so it was a bit like this https://www.johnlewis.com/gina-bacconi-marigot-sequin-tank-top-and-cascade-jersey-jacket-set-dark-navy/p109238227

PollyPeptide · 16/05/2023 01:43

I love that top and that skirt. I don't know for a daytime wedding though. Could you wear a different top for the ceremony and then put on your sparkles for the evening do?

porridgeisbae · 16/05/2023 01:58

I was googling what are the trends of 2023 the other day @NewAnon , and as you presumably know, pastel sequins and sheer stuff are very fashionable.

So while it might seem a bit odd to the less trendy amongst us, it's the current 'look.'

I think it will look a bit odd with navy smart stuff, like you wanted to wear a fashion look but then felt you should wear something more classic/smart as well.
Like, you weren't sure about outfit A so are trying to hide/tone it down a bit.

I think you could pull off outfit A without hiding it under different-looking stuff.

But what do I know, you sound like you know what you're doing with clothes/fashion.

Marchintospring · 16/05/2023 04:17

I love the look. I think the navy blazer will work well. Good contrast. Formalise the outfit without taking away from the theatre of tulle.

greyhairnomore · 16/05/2023 04:28

I love the skirt. Not sure if the top goes ?

StripedBlue · 16/05/2023 04:44

It’s fine. Not bridal. I wear sequins all year round. Some people are too precious.

WeAreTheHeroes · 16/05/2023 04:47

On MN there is always someone offended by a wedding guest's choice of outfit for some reason. I love the sound of your outfit. It'll look suitably celebratory and you won't look like one of the bridal party.

PumpkinsAndCoconuts · 16/05/2023 05:25

bd67thSaysReinstateLangCleg · 16/05/2023 00:17

I don't think a boxy navy blazer will work with a tulle skirt of any colour. Do you have navy trousers (ideally palazzos) to match the blazer? With flats and a small bag to match the top or the trousers.

I like that suggestion!
I would pair this top with a less bridal party-like skirt or trousers.

The current outfit: It just doesn't seem p

PumpkinsAndCoconuts · 16/05/2023 05:26

*particularly daytime, summer wedding appropriate.

It is a nice outfit but I probably wouldn't wear it for that occasion.

EnoBaby · 16/05/2023 05:57

PLEASE wear this outfit if you look and feel good in it. There are no rules to follow as long as an outfit suits you.
An up-staging of the bride via a sartorial choice has never happened and you won't be the one to do it either.
Feel good and have fun!

NameChangeSorryNotSorry · 16/05/2023 06:08

I think it sounds like a lovely outfit and very suitable!

PuddlesPityParty · 16/05/2023 06:08

BlackSwan · 16/05/2023 00:15

Jacket sounds like an odd choice for the skirt /top combo & let’s face it, it’s coming off after the service (the jacket that is 😉). Then it’s going to look too bridal party…

This ^
The jacket the top and the skirt are 3 different styles, I wouldn’t be wearing them together. And yes, the skirt and top will look bridal party once the jacket is removed.

YouHeardTheRumoursFromInes · 16/05/2023 06:09

Love this look! I think it will look fab. I have a similar skirt and would definitely wear it to a wedding.

Gandalfsthong · 16/05/2023 06:15

I’ve never heard of a bride giving out the colours of the bridesmaid dresses. My bridesmaids wore taupe, I couldn’t have cared less if any guests wore that colour. Think it’s a great outfit OP, particularly with the blazer for daytime.

babyproblems · 16/05/2023 06:16

I think it’s fine I’d have no issues with someone wearing that to my wedding! Top looks gorgeous. You could easily remove any feeling of bridal if you wore a different skirt or even nice trousers. I think it’s the shape or fabric of the skirt which hints at bride but I think it’s ok and love the colour xo

VioletPickles · 16/05/2023 06:17

I think it will look fine! Sparkles can be for any time.