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Just saw another S&B post and I'm concerned.

153 replies

NewAnon · 15/05/2023 23:15

The post was "is this suitable for a wedding" (classic), but one of the reasons the dress was unsuitable was that it was too 'sparkly'.

I've bought a sparkly outfit to wear as a guest for a wedding, and now I've got The Fear that it's too much.

It's this top, with a similar colour (blush/gold) midi length gauze skirt (ballerina style). And I plan to wear it with a box navy jacket for the service (and navy suede shoes): https://www.phase-eight.com/product/dhara-sequin-blouse-502166453.html#navAjax=true&imageType=model&is=true&sz=60&start=60&q=sequin&isSecondPage=false&pid=502166453&pos=69

The bride will be wearing Ivory, and the bridesmaids are in terracotta. Have I misjudged it?

Dhara Sequin Blouse |

For a more relaxed take on party dressing, our Dhara blouse is the answer. Embellished with sparkling sequins, this piece is a easy, standout separate with plenty of style impact.

https://www.phase-eight.com/product/dhara-sequin-blouse-502166453.html#navAjax=true&imageType=model&is=true&sz=60&start=60&q=sequin&isSecondPage=false&pid=502166453&pos=69

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Doingmybest12 · 16/05/2023 06:19

Surely many people will have seen skirts like this and realise it is a fashion not bridal party. I think it sounds like a lovely choice and you'll look like you've made an effort to dress for the day. Have a lovely time.

Mummadeze · 16/05/2023 06:23

I think you have very good taste and it is absolutely fine.

Ducatifan · 16/05/2023 06:24

I think you wear what you want. I mean full on white bridal is a no but beyond that, wear what makes you happy and comfortable. Posts like these blow my mind with some responses. It’s an invitation, not a summoning.

MRex · 16/05/2023 06:53

It's fine, stop fretting. All white or all black are an issue, but the proportion of people who get judgemental about the detail of style choices is far smaller than mumsnet might have you believe.

sukiwh · 16/05/2023 06:57

I think your outfit sounds incredibly chic! And contrary to PPs, I think it’s definitely dressy enough for a day time wedding. I was at a wedding last year where a guest wore a sparkly top similar to yours and a pair of navy palazzo pants. She looked great, I felt old fashioned in my floral dress. Go for it with this outfit!

user1477391263 · 16/05/2023 06:59

Getting a bit weirded out by the ever-expanding number of items, styles etc. which are supposedly not OK for a wedding. Any smart-ish outfit that is not white from top to toe is fine, surely?

Belmondo · 16/05/2023 06:59

I totally get what you're going for, OP, and I think it'll look gorgeous. (But I do think you might be a bit warm!)

DeflatedAgain · 16/05/2023 07:02

You're fine.

It's going to look lovely! Enjoy 🍾

MyDogStoodOnABee · 16/05/2023 07:02

I go to 20+ weddings a month, this is a current ‘look’ for female guests. Someone in the dress equivalent yesterday, I wouldn’t bother with a jacket, you’ll be boiling with the insulating effect of sequins!

SundaeLove · 16/05/2023 07:10

Marzipananne · 15/05/2023 23:34

I like it. I wouldn't mind you wearing it to my wedding. I'd be pleased you made a stylish effort and picked something so nice

Same, it’s a gorgeous outfit.

GaelicSky · 16/05/2023 07:10

I love the top and the skirt but I can’t quite picture them together. The top also has a feel of winter about it, if it’s a summer wedding, you’re going to be very warm?

Imabitbusyatthemoment · 16/05/2023 07:11

Totally fine. I’d lose the jacket though.

Alwaystheplusone · 16/05/2023 07:12

Totally fine for a daytime wedding as you’re wearing a navy jacket over the top which you can whip off for the evening. Ignore the doubters OP.

Aslanplustwo · 16/05/2023 07:14

It's fine. What is it with all these weird rules you have in the UK about clothes you can't wear to weddings (and funerals)? I feel like I've been transported back several decades.

FlatWhiteExtraHot · 16/05/2023 07:18

Aslanplustwo · 16/05/2023 07:14

It's fine. What is it with all these weird rules you have in the UK about clothes you can't wear to weddings (and funerals)? I feel like I've been transported back several decades.

I agree with this. I’ve never known anyone be as uptight as posters on here about what you can wear to a wedding.

I was in the industry for 20 years and in the real world literally no one gives a shit about what other guests wear. Nobody is ever going to confuse a guest with the bride or the bridesmaids.

CinnamonJellyBeans · 16/05/2023 07:23

I say no

maddening · 16/05/2023 07:23

I think that the whole outfit is perfectly lovely and fine for a wedding - particularly with the jacket for the day.

wildfirewonder · 16/05/2023 07:24

It is absolutely fine. The people posting about 'rules' have made them up in their heads.

You can't wear white to a wedding and you have to be a bit cautious with black, unless it is your own normal style to always wear black. It is also better not to model your outfit on a pole dancer.

Everything else is fine.

Your sequin outfit is pretty.

pokabubble · 16/05/2023 07:24

Looks fine but you need that jacket during the day or you'll look too casual

RandyMiceDavies · 16/05/2023 07:25

I think your outfit sounds great- perfectly appropriate and very chic. The problem with asking for views is that you get everyone’s personal preferences thrown in and if you listened to them all, you wouldn’t be able to wear anything ever.

That said, please don’t replace your skirt with navy trousers to match the jacket, much too much like a work outfit (or, with the sparkly top, like someone who’s adapted a work outfit for the office party and is now appearing in a Here Come the Girls advertisement for Boots).

FancyFanny · 16/05/2023 07:29

There's no such thing as TOO SPARKLY!

It doesn't look in the slightest bit bridal either! IDK what kind of weddings everyone goes to but in all my years I've never been to a wedding where the bride wore a skirt and top, or sequins, or pink.

Crunchymum · 16/05/2023 07:33

Are you up for a pic of you in the outfit? Face obscured obviously.

I can't quite put it together but I do like the skirt and the top. I think it will be fine 🙂

Cazelet · 16/05/2023 07:36

It's nice OP! Have a lovely day.

Isthisexpected · 16/05/2023 07:36

Datingpuzzle101 · 15/05/2023 23:45

The top? To me sparkles says winter/Christmas. I think that's a personal thing though

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I think it looks like it's for a Christmas party. It's lovely. Just not suitable for a daytime wedding where you may want to take off the jacket if it's warm.

BarrelOfOtters · 16/05/2023 07:37

It’s lovely. Perfect for a wedding.