Is this acceptable? Should I ring child services?

[JasonMomoasnextgirlfriend]

I’ve just found out that next weekend when he has our kids that my ex is planning on paying my 14 year old son to babysit his 11 year old sister whilst he buggers off to participate in a pole dancing competition (of all things)! I’m furious but I don’t know about whether other people would find this acceptable, or whether this is classed as neglect? Can anyone help?

*wont

Plenty of 14 year olds babysit. I doubt they could care less at a responsible 14yo watching an 11yo. Many families would expect a 14yo to watch a younger sibling for a few hours as a one off - and many wouldn't pay them! If it was a new baby thats one thing but an 11yo should be sensible enough and largely look after themselves.

It's not neglect. You sound neurotic.

A few hours is normal/fine - acceptable to most parents and families.

Overnight - maybe more borderline.

The whole weekend - not sure if would really be neglect, but not ok.

Yes this is acceptable.
No it is not neglect.
No you should not ring child services.

Well I had my very own baby at 14 years old, yes, that I birthed myself. I think most 14 year olds are quite capable of watching an independent 11 year old sibling, so unless there is SEN YABU

Don’t be ridiculous, it’s a 14 year old watching an 11 year old, not a 4 year old watching a 1 year old

I wouldnt because they are siblings.

A 14 year old babysitting other kids creates a different dynamic. The older child is in charge.

But siblings, especially at that age, can be proper arseholes to each other. Are they the same sex? Two boys of that age could end up in carnage and genuine injuries. If the younger one is a girl then there is a more than average chance of her simply ignoring him and pissing him off. Had to do it a couple of times with mine due to emergencies and it invariably ended up with both parties moaning about how the other one was completely unreasonable.

I was happy for my teens to babysit but not for each other, only for other families.

That said, it probably wouldnt be considered SS worthy and wouldnt be taken seriously. The only thing you can do is offer to have them that night at home yourself.

Wow you are unhinged. You'd rather ting vhild services than offer yo have the kids.

That's meant to say you'd rather ring child services than offer to have the kids.

I was baby sitting toddlers at 14. It's fine.

Nspcc say there is no legal age for children/siblings to babysit, HTH op.