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To ask why nobody mentions how much love there is?

127 replies

Furbfurbfurb · 12/05/2023 13:40

In families. The joy on your kids faces, the days out, the laughter, the closeness and love?

The little joys and challenges and fun. I know it can be hard as well but here’s a thread to celebrate all the lovely buts.

What lovely things happened to you today?

OP posts:
Olivida98 · 12/05/2023 16:17

When my daughter (3) is proud of herself she does this adorable face where she’s trying so hard not to smile because she’s so happy about how good she’s doing but wants to be cool about it. Today she asked me to watch her kindergarten dance practice and when she looked at me while doing their little dance she was doing that little face and my heart nearly burst. She was sooo proud of herself and so pleased that I was watching her 🥹🥹🥹 it makes me want to cry just thinking about it. Yesterday my husband had surgery and was feeling rotten and my son (5) left his most precious toy (these little blocks that he had built into a creature) with his dad to make him feel better. To him, this is the biggest sacrifice he could make and he told me so bravely - he is a really shy boy and this little toy is like his comfort thing but he sacrificed it for his dad. I also want to cry thinking about that ❤️❤️❤️ I love them SO much I can hardly cope

HelpIcantfindaname · 12/05/2023 16:19

This is a lovely thread. It's so lovely to hear about happy moments.

DS 32 called in last night & brought me chocolate. When I had nausea last year with chemo he often popped down with a gingerbread man for me.

I took DD36 & my mam, who has alzheimers, out for a coffee at the garden centre today. Sharing news with them & laughing lots brightened my day. Mam is in a home now, she loves it there, but she beams when we go to take her out.

DD14 tells me she loves me every day. I'm no longer working so every day after school she tells me about her day, & her friends. Today she got a high mark in a chemistry test, & its usually her worst subject. She was so proud of herself, I'm very proud of her too. She makes me laugh every day.

My husband also makes me laugh every day. He is looking after me so well through my illness, & makes me feel so cherished & loved.

I have my down days, but I'm lucky to have my amazing family surrounding me & making me happy.

Turqky · 12/05/2023 16:19

Last night my 19yo bought me a pint and said “get that down your neck girl”. He’s a cracking fella, such great company.

JMSA · 12/05/2023 16:20

Nothing so far. My teenage girls can be a selfish pain in the arse, but I do love them.

A teen at work did tell me he wanted me as his mum though 🥰

Asparagus1 · 12/05/2023 16:21

My 6 year old son just told me that I was the most beautiful mummy in the whole world. I currently look like Miss Trunchbull but it was cute 🥰

alittlequinnie · 12/05/2023 16:44

Dweetfidilove · 12/05/2023 16:01

Just beautiful! Your daughter must be so made up each time you do.
You're a lucky / lovely bunch 💕

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Oh yes - I know I am super lucky. Daughter in a wheelchair so can't really hug/link arms like we used to - hand on hair is my alternative!

hereiamagainn · 12/05/2023 16:49

People don’t mention those because when you have lovely times, you just enjoy them. No need to go shouting it from the rooftops, it can come across as gloating.

When you’re having a hard time though, you need support, advice and comfort from other people. We reach out when in need.

mumandahalf87 · 12/05/2023 16:58

@HowDoYouDoWhatYouDoToMeIWishIKnew

I was thinking the same thing about healing your inner child as I was reading your post, they saw you comment the same thing. Hug that little child tight inside, especially in those moments.

You sound like you have been a tremendous parent. The proof is in the pudding.

MackenCheese · 12/05/2023 16:58

My 14 y DD gave me a loving hug this evening. She's had a stinking cold and dreadful couple of days, not wanting to go to school and slamming the car door as she got out this morning. Tough love, but now all is well!

89redballoons · 12/05/2023 16:59

I have had a challenging day with my 3 year old, who has just been in a mood all day. Not joining in at all at the toddler group we went to, was rude to a stranger on a bus, not sharing toys with his baby brother. Normally he is much better at this stuff but he's just been off today. Yes I did discipline him as appropriate but it's been a long old slog.

However at the weekend he told me "I love you really very much mummy" and that makes it worth it.

Also I'm currently in a taxi to get my hair done and my husband has taken over with the children, and later we'll have a glass of wine and grown-up dinner when the kids are in bed, so - lots of love for my husband, too.

WinchSparkle80 · 12/05/2023 17:01

My DS has done his sats this week, I asked him yesterday how they went as I have done every day. Infront of all his friends he gave me a huge hug and told me they went great, but don’t worry about me Mummy how was your day?

I might have grinned and inside been ridiculously chuffed.

Phos · 12/05/2023 17:05

My kid has been nothing but bloody awful today both before and after school. I'll have to come back on a better day.

Runningoncoffeealone · 12/05/2023 17:13

We have a small kitchen and no dining room, so everyone usually grabs a plate at dinner and sits wherever.
We recently bought a fold out table and some chairs, and yesterday was the first day we all sat at the table to eat as a family.
Today DD (nearly 5) asked if we could bring the "big table" out for dinner again. When we said yes, she jumped up and down and said "I LOVE eating at the table together!"

StJulian2023 · 12/05/2023 17:26

This wasn’t for Mother’s Day or anything…just because ❤️

I’m into my seventh year of widowed parenting and in many ways it’s got harder rather than easier, but my DC’s love has kept me alive.

To ask why nobody mentions how much love there is?
NotTheMrMenAgain · 12/05/2023 17:48

My DD is 14, a few months back we went together to a parents evening and meeting about GCSE options. After going around the classrooms and chatting to the staff we were sitting in the hall, waiting for the Head to give a talk and DD looked around then very quietly said “This is making me think what really good friends we are. Other kids are just sitting next to their Mom and not talking or laughing or anything…….”

My heart completely melted. And whenever her normal teen mess or attitude irritates me, I remind myself of what she said and get over it. She played a blinder there!

Darkandstormynite · 12/05/2023 17:48

My 9 year old son crawled into bed with me this morning. I watched him sleeping, feeling so much love for him it made me simultaneously overwhelmed with joy and sad I couldn't hold on to the moment.

My 6 year old daughter reminds me everyday how fun life can be and that having a sense of wonder is amazing. She also loves a good cup of tea already and I'm smiling thinking of all the endless cups of tea laughing, crying and chatting we will share as she grows into a woman and beyond.

Honestly they are the centre of my universe ❤

organisedbrood · 12/05/2023 17:53

My 4 year old wished me good luck with the hoovering (totally sincerely) and then told me he was going to go and relax in the other room. He also referred to DH as 'that dude, DH'. He's hilarious but he doesn't even mean to be and it brightens all my days.

Binningtonianrose · 12/05/2023 17:54

My daughter was 18 yesterday. She's been angry and distant with me for a year.
But yesterday we ate pizza, watched funny crappy Barbie videos on Netflix, and she was so HAPPY with the cake I made her.
Just for one day, I remembered how beautiful and loving she was, and how much fun we have together. Those times'll come round again, I know. But yesterday her birthday was priceless.

SeasonFinale · 12/05/2023 17:55

Mine called me at 1.30 am last night to tell me his exam grade. It wasn't lovely at the time but feels like it is now, that he wanted to share it.

Nothingisblackandwhite · 12/05/2023 17:57

You are right , I’m having a bad week emotionally . I just found out I’m pregnant at 41 , I have been in shock all week . After discussing options with hubby we decided we cannot go through with an abortion ,it then followed by 2 days of panic because we have no extra bedrooms and he /she will need to share with the youngest ( now 15 months ) , we might need to change holiday plans next year and I’m silly probably but I worry about all the negativeness we will probably get due to my age and to make it worse I suffer from HG and sickness has arrived .
Then my 15 month old said “ I lobeee you “ copied from her 7 year old sister saying I love you mum when I dropped her in school but still cutest thing ever .

I decided then that I could find a million negatives about being a mum again but I was being a idiot because my children are the most positive thing in my life and this one will be the same for sure . Yes they are hard work but they bring me great joy and are worth all my hours of work and more .

MaMisled · 12/05/2023 18:00

DH cuddled in bed first thing x said " I'm so glad I'm married to you". DD messaged just to say " I love you". Other DD has text three times that she's so looking forward to coming for tea x sleepover tonight. DS announced he's turned down a paid for Christmas in India because " YOU are Christmas Mum". Today is a good day.

KaleFairy · 12/05/2023 18:01

These posts are so lovely. Thanks to all for sharing. When my little woke up this morning she gave me a silly smile and I said "do you want mumma kisses?" And she said "yeah mumma kisses" and I kissed her face all over and she laughed then looked for our dog under the blanket to get "puppa kisses"

WhyDoesItAlways · 12/05/2023 18:15

Last weekend in the garden centre DS6 found a BBQ recipe book and decided he wanted to learn to BBQ. So we sat looking at the recipes in the book. Then he looked at me intensely for what felt like ages (but probably only a few seconds really) and then told me he loved me. He has suspected ASD and doesn't make much eye contact so I've never really noticed him look at me but in that moment he properly saw me and I'm 100% sure he absolutely meant what he was saying, no agenda, no saying it because I've said it to him, totally random and out of the blue.

NurseryNurse10 · 12/05/2023 18:32

I don't have any kids of my own but one of the kids at work said to me the other day 'I love you so much I'm going to buy you a toy.'

5128gap · 12/05/2023 18:43

DD 20s has just asked me if I want to come out tonight with her and her work mates! If that's not enough, DS also 20s "Oh, where are you going to be? I'm out tonight (with mates) we'll come and meet you for one". Next month we're going on holiday together. Their treat for my birthday. Cup runneth over.