DH working in a paranoid schizophrenics house

jammidodger1 · 2023-05-09T21:37:28+00:00

I've name changed for this as could potentially be outing. My DH works in a trade and went to complete a quote for somebody for a large job in their house. They accepted quote and DH started the work 2 weeks ago. When he came home from completing the quote, we were chatting about his work as I'm now 38 weeks pregnant and this job is expected to take 4 weeks to complete and DH said that there were Nazi flags and symbols all over the house, posters and books on Hitler and the satanic symbol hanging in places. (Also, DH did tell customer that I was due right about when the job was expected to end but he might have to take a week or two out if baby is born a bit early which was fine). DH came home yesterday to tell me that he was chatting to the customers wife and she told him that he is a paranoid schizophrenic who doesn't like to take his medication. DH told me last night and then today he came home and said that he was in today whilst DH was working and was following him around watching him work from the door and DH had to do something in their bedroom and there is 2 axes by the side of the bed on the floor. Am I being unfair to feel a bit uneasy about all of this? I actually have an uncle who has schizophrenia and he is very unpredictable. He lives in a secure unit because of this.

jc12689 · 11/05/2023 07:39

I think all the Nazi paraphernalia would have put me off taking the job in the first place.

Testina · 11/05/2023 07:40

jc12689 · 11/05/2023 07:39

I think all the Nazi paraphernalia would have put me off taking the job in the first place.

Yeah, this. Is your husband desperate for work?

UndercoverCop · 11/05/2023 07:40

The paranoid schizophrenia itself wouldn't concern me, the paraphernalia, axes by the bed and aversion to medication would.

Arewehumanorarewecupboards · 11/05/2023 07:42

As above, it would be the nazi paraphernalia that would put me off rather than the schizophrenia.

maranella · 11/05/2023 07:42

Very worrying indeed! Why did your DH take the job FGS????

Trixiedrum · 11/05/2023 07:44

Schizophrenia wouldn’t worry me particularly. Nazi paraphernalia and axes would, and I would probably risk the bad review and refuse to go back. Or set some other boundary - ie the owner has to be away from the house but can monitor by video if he wants to keep an eye on the work.

Weapons in the house are an absolute no for me, I do home visits as part of my job and I wouldn’t go into this house without a police escort.

MajesticWhine · 11/05/2023 07:48

That all sounds very unsettling. The axes are a step too far.

OrigamiOwls · 11/05/2023 07:48

As others have said, the nazi memorabilia would have put me off right at the start.

SquashAndPineapple · 11/05/2023 07:49

I hate threads like this that link a diagnosis of schizophrenia to evil and badness like the Nazis.

My brother has a diagnosis of paranoid schizophrenia. He is the loveliest, sweetest, kindest man you could ever meet. You'd be safer working in his house than possibly anyone else's!

There is no issue whatsoever in working in someone's home when they have mental health difficulties. A diagnosis of schizophrenia just means the person is struggling and has symptoms to deal with.

The issue here is that the home owners support the Nazis. That is horrendous and I couldn't work there.

Please don't propogate this awful notion on social media that being a "paranoid schizophrenia" (which is a horrible way to describe someone by the way. They are not a "schizophrenic", they just happen to have schizophrenia) means you are evil and a nazi supporter. I understand in this case that the person both has a diagnosis and is a nazi supporter, but there are millions of people out there that are lovely lovely people who have a diagnosis.

If you have titled your thread 'DH working in a gay persons house...' or 'Dh working in a black persons house', noone would think that was acceptable. Why is it ok to evilise mental health but not other characteristics? It's not. Don't do it.

TooMuchStuffArghhh · 11/05/2023 07:51

He needs to report that to the police and adult safeguarding. A week or two after he finishes work there. They can let his community team know. He sounds very unwell.

Im not sure I'd stay working there, not if he's obviously paranoid about your husband and is following him around.

determinedtomakethiswork · 11/05/2023 07:51

@SquashAndPineapple presumably your brother takes his medication? That's what would be concerning me. All the weapons and Nazi symbols would mean that I wouldn't go back in the house.

Goodread1 · 11/05/2023 07:52

Your husband safety is paramount importance essential .!

Why is he feeling a need to compromise this...@jammidodger1

My advice is your husband should look else where for work

Too many massive red flag Banners waving about here...

If I was your husband I would hot foot so fast out there..

It would look to passers bys, this weird freaks guy house,
that I was a serious contender for next times world Olympics...

OllytheCollie · 11/05/2023 07:54

Absolutely agree with @SquashAndPineapple. However I also think I would not work in a house with Nazi symbols on display. And even in a professional capacity (I am a healthcare professional) if I visited a client at home with stuff like that out I would explain it would have to ho away before I could work with them. I work with adults with MHN and have never come across this though. I don't think there's any link btw schizophrenia and nazi sympathies. This is just a weird coincidence.

SilentHedges · 11/05/2023 07:55

Having grown up with a Paranoid Schizophrenic, my father, who didn't like taking his medication, I can tell you first hand, his behaviour was unpredictable and violent. He pulled a knife on someone and was arrested, thankfully it wasn't worse. I personally cut all ties after several incidents, as I feared for my life.

It's the fact that your DHs client isn't taking medication that's the problem. Why he took the job with all the Nazi gear around the house, is a mystery, but I'd suggest if he can't excuse himself from it, he finishes up asap.

SilentHedges · 11/05/2023 07:59

SquashAndPineapple · 11/05/2023 07:49

I hate threads like this that link a diagnosis of schizophrenia to evil and badness like the Nazis.

My brother has a diagnosis of paranoid schizophrenia. He is the loveliest, sweetest, kindest man you could ever meet. You'd be safer working in his house than possibly anyone else's!

There is no issue whatsoever in working in someone's home when they have mental health difficulties. A diagnosis of schizophrenia just means the person is struggling and has symptoms to deal with.

The issue here is that the home owners support the Nazis. That is horrendous and I couldn't work there.

Please don't propogate this awful notion on social media that being a "paranoid schizophrenia" (which is a horrible way to describe someone by the way. They are not a "schizophrenic", they just happen to have schizophrenia) means you are evil and a nazi supporter. I understand in this case that the person both has a diagnosis and is a nazi supporter, but there are millions of people out there that are lovely lovely people who have a diagnosis.

If you have titled your thread 'DH working in a gay persons house...' or 'Dh working in a black persons house', noone would think that was acceptable. Why is it ok to evilise mental health but not other characteristics? It's not. Don't do it.

Have you understood what the OP is saying here? The client with Paranoid Schizophrenia is NOT taking there medication, has disturbing imagery in the house and 2 axes under the bed. Does that not strike you as alarming? Instead you try and fluff up a dangerous mental health situation and then link it to comparing it to someone being gay or black? Wow.

See my post above, this is potentially not a safe situation.

Nobbies · 11/05/2023 08:00

I think he should walk away and notify the police even just to check his wife is OK
No job is worth that

SilentHedges · 11/05/2023 08:00

*their

Mummymn · 11/05/2023 08:01

SquashAndPineapple · 11/05/2023 07:49

I hate threads like this that link a diagnosis of schizophrenia to evil and badness like the Nazis.

My brother has a diagnosis of paranoid schizophrenia. He is the loveliest, sweetest, kindest man you could ever meet. You'd be safer working in his house than possibly anyone else's!

There is no issue whatsoever in working in someone's home when they have mental health difficulties. A diagnosis of schizophrenia just means the person is struggling and has symptoms to deal with.

The issue here is that the home owners support the Nazis. That is horrendous and I couldn't work there.

Please don't propogate this awful notion on social media that being a "paranoid schizophrenia" (which is a horrible way to describe someone by the way. They are not a "schizophrenic", they just happen to have schizophrenia) means you are evil and a nazi supporter. I understand in this case that the person both has a diagnosis and is a nazi supporter, but there are millions of people out there that are lovely lovely people who have a diagnosis.

If you have titled your thread 'DH working in a gay persons house...' or 'Dh working in a black persons house', noone would think that was acceptable. Why is it ok to evilise mental health but not other characteristics? It's not. Don't do it.

To be fair I think I can read between the lines and assume she means the fact they are off their meds and into nazi and weapons is making them uneasy not that the two are linked. I wouldn't work their either..

Harkonen · 11/05/2023 08:02

SquashAndPineapple · 11/05/2023 07:49

I hate threads like this that link a diagnosis of schizophrenia to evil and badness like the Nazis.

My brother has a diagnosis of paranoid schizophrenia. He is the loveliest, sweetest, kindest man you could ever meet. You'd be safer working in his house than possibly anyone else's!

There is no issue whatsoever in working in someone's home when they have mental health difficulties. A diagnosis of schizophrenia just means the person is struggling and has symptoms to deal with.

The issue here is that the home owners support the Nazis. That is horrendous and I couldn't work there.

Please don't propogate this awful notion on social media that being a "paranoid schizophrenia" (which is a horrible way to describe someone by the way. They are not a "schizophrenic", they just happen to have schizophrenia) means you are evil and a nazi supporter. I understand in this case that the person both has a diagnosis and is a nazi supporter, but there are millions of people out there that are lovely lovely people who have a diagnosis.

If you have titled your thread 'DH working in a gay persons house...' or 'Dh working in a black persons house', noone would think that was acceptable. Why is it ok to evilise mental health but not other characteristics? It's not. Don't do it.

This.

Only your dh can decide if he's happy taking the job OP.

CantFindTheBeat · 11/05/2023 08:09

@SquashAndPineapple is absolutely right.

The OP has titled her post 'working in a paranoid schizophrenic's house'... not 'a person with paranoid schizophrenia'.

That's very inappropriate.

However - as OP posted this two days ago, and has not commented since, I think maybe there's more to the post than meets the eye,

x2boys · 11/05/2023 08:46

SquashAndPineapple · 11/05/2023 07:49

I hate threads like this that link a diagnosis of schizophrenia to evil and badness like the Nazis.

My brother has a diagnosis of paranoid schizophrenia. He is the loveliest, sweetest, kindest man you could ever meet. You'd be safer working in his house than possibly anyone else's!

There is no issue whatsoever in working in someone's home when they have mental health difficulties. A diagnosis of schizophrenia just means the person is struggling and has symptoms to deal with.

The issue here is that the home owners support the Nazis. That is horrendous and I couldn't work there.

Please don't propogate this awful notion on social media that being a "paranoid schizophrenia" (which is a horrible way to describe someone by the way. They are not a "schizophrenic", they just happen to have schizophrenia) means you are evil and a nazi supporter. I understand in this case that the person both has a diagnosis and is a nazi supporter, but there are millions of people out there that are lovely lovely people who have a diagnosis.

If you have titled your thread 'DH working in a gay persons house...' or 'Dh working in a black persons house', noone would think that was acceptable. Why is it ok to evilise mental health but not other characteristics? It's not. Don't do it.

With respect that very much depends on how well person is and how their schizophrenia manifests itself ,and how well managed they are as a former mental health nurse I have cared for many patients with schizophrenia and of course it doesn't automatically mean someone is violent and aggressive because of their illness ,but if someone is acutely unwell and lacks insight into their illness it potentially can lead to some extremely challenging behaviour in SOME people , just like any illness anybody without is and individual and can present differently.

SparklyBlackKitten · 11/05/2023 08:49

The fact that your dh took a job for a nazi now that is what baffles me 😐

x2boys · 11/05/2023 08:52

It's also quite probable that the Nazi stuff is part of 'the man's delusional beleif,s

x2boys · 11/05/2023 08:54

SparklyBlackKitten · 11/05/2023 08:49

The fact that your dh took a job for a nazi now that is what baffles me 😐

The man might not actually be an Nazi some people with schizophrenia can all kinds of delusional beliefs if he is unwell ,his illness might be making him psychotic.

MooseBreath · 11/05/2023 08:57

I wouldn't have been put off by schizophrenia per se, but the fact that his wife has said that he doesn't take his medication could be a cry for help on her part. Anyone I know who is married to someone with mental illness doesn't typically disclose that sort of information to random people. I would also not work in a home with Nazi paraphernalia and weaponry that is readily accessible.

I don't know the correct channels, but I would advise your husband to report both to the police (the Nazi stuff could very well link to hate crimes) and to adult social services (his wife and others in the community could be at risk of violent behaviour).