My username says it all really. I'm on dialysis while waiting for a new kidney. I do it from home (pd). I went to a street party yesterday and my two neighbours were talking about my dog. They first told me that he was my DPs dog, not mine, because DP takes him for a walk most of the time, mainly because I'm hooked up to a machine you know. They then inferred that I was lazy - I said, I walk him too sometimes, they said, where, just down the road, and were generally having a good laugh at my expense. I tried to laugh it off so as not to create a scene with the rest of our lovely neighbours. But I am dreadfully tired and dizzy all the time at the moment while I wait for a new organ.
But since I've come home, I've though about it a lot. I feel really worthless while waiting for this transplant, and I feel like I've been judged by two complete strangers to me. I don't look ill at all, and they would have no idea I was ill, but tbh, I didn't feel like explaining my medical health with them. On the one hand, maybe I should have explained why I'm not active at the moment but on the other hand, why should I? However, I now feel really uneasy about the whole episode. I feel dreadful and ill at the moment anyway as I can't sleep so my just be sensitive but I really I feel like these two women were tacky. I still don't know whether to explain myself now. My health feels like it should be allowed to be a private matter, but I don't want these women thinking I'm lazy.
YABU = I should have explained myself and my illness.
YANBU = they should have had more class and noy judged a stranger.