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I gave up waiting in A&E

206 replies

Saltandpepperchipss · 05/05/2023 23:00

Been in terrible pain for 2 days I’m pretty sure it’s an ectopic pregnancy by going of my symptoms. Excruciating pain on one side, headaches and light bleeding.My local hospital is one of the worst and try not to use it if possible. I sat in A&E for 5 hours and eventually gave in. Tons of people coughing, rock hard chair when I’m in tons of pain isn’t nice. I couldn’t get up to go to the toilet because my seat would be taken.

I’m terrified something will happen to me over night. But at least I’m comfortable at home.

AIBU? Would you have waited? Some people had been there since 1 in the afternoon. I arrived at 5:30.

OP posts:
QuestionableMouse · 06/05/2023 10:19

TeaKitten · 06/05/2023 09:37

Read her actual post, and the correction of her typo before having a go at someone would you. How can you call it the most stupid thing you’ve ever read when you clearly have not read it?

I have read it. I also have personal experience of there just not being any ambulances and having to drive my mum (with o2 sats in the high 80s eue to respiratory failure) to my local a&e. She walked in. And then spent several weeks in hospital, including a day where her condition was so bad they rang me and asked what my wishes were if she didn't start improving.

So yes, i stand by my statement that you can be severely unwell and still "walk in" to a&e and to say otherwise is both stupid and wrong.

Nocutenamesleft · 06/05/2023 10:26

You need to go to an early pregnancy unit. I take it you told the triage nurse you thought it was ectopic???

Natsku · 06/05/2023 10:40

Glad you went to a different hospital and got seen OP. What's unreasonable here is the state of the NHS, it shouldn't be this bad.

PinkLemonadee · 06/05/2023 10:43

Nocutenamesleft · 06/05/2023 10:26

You need to go to an early pregnancy unit. I take it you told the triage nurse you thought it was ectopic???

You need to read the full thread.

Imatot · 06/05/2023 11:00

@Saltandpepperchipss im glad you got seen. I'm sorry it hasn't turned out the way you hoped. Hope you have a good support network in real life 💕

MrsSkylerWhite · 06/05/2023 11:03

Honestly, in your circumstances I think 999 is appropriate.

Tereseta · 06/05/2023 11:07

I'm so sorry it is an eptopic, so glad you made that drive, thinking of you x

Strawberrydelight78 · 06/05/2023 11:23

Couldn't you get a GP appointment? A friend of mine got an urgent appointment that day. She had a pregnancy test to confirm and was told to go home pack a bag and get to the hospital. She was admitted within an hour. Had op early next morning.

LynetteScavo · 06/05/2023 11:40

I hope you recover well, OP.

I know this is AIBU, but this thread well and truly brought out the nasty posters and dick heads.

Lying of the floor of a waiting room for hours shouldn't be something we expect to do to access medical care.

TeaKitten · 06/05/2023 11:50

QuestionableMouse · 06/05/2023 10:19

I have read it. I also have personal experience of there just not being any ambulances and having to drive my mum (with o2 sats in the high 80s eue to respiratory failure) to my local a&e. She walked in. And then spent several weeks in hospital, including a day where her condition was so bad they rang me and asked what my wishes were if she didn't start improving.

So yes, i stand by my statement that you can be severely unwell and still "walk in" to a&e and to say otherwise is both stupid and wrong.

So you haven’t read it then, because she was saying the exact same thing as you.

WiddlinDiddlin · 06/05/2023 13:06

Why do so many PP say “their dietary needs were not met”, “no food or drink was provided”. Unless you have gone in from the street unconscious by ambulance, most people can fill a bottle with water and grab some food...

I'm not talking about not being offered food, or not being offered my favourite food...

In my case I was ambulanced in at 3am, the crew did not have time to wait whilst a picnic to last 12 hours was packed, my partner was busy ensuring I had the info I needed, meds, charged phone etc.

Providing a days worth of food for a diabetic, out of hand-bag ready snacks, is not quite as easy as you appear to think. A hospital should be able to cater for medical dietary requirements.

Yesterday I was offered:

Rice Krispies, Cornflakes, Toast or Muller Yoghurt. All of which are inappropriate for a type 2 insulin dependent.

When I asked for diabetic appropriate I was told 'well we could just not put sugar on the cereal'.

I went for the yoghurt as at least I could calculate the sugar and carbs in that.

At lunch I was given the only vegetarian option - 'cheese potato bake' which turned out to contain very little cheese, and in fact be partly cooked diced potato, peas and a scoop of mash (yes, I haven't made a mistake. Potatoes served with more potatoes). I ate some of the peas.

There was no fruit, I was offered icecream or jelly (not sugar free). All of this came with no nutritional info so again impossible to calculate carbs/sugars.

Then I ended up having a hypo having been on the verge of one all day (I had mentioned this multiple times and they had charted my BG dropping from 7ish on admission to low 4's late morning... so they were aware.

On finding someone to tell them I was hypo-ing, I was told 'oh the sandwich trolly will be round in a bit'... 'in a bit' in a&e speak means 'anywhere from 5 minutes to 5 hours'.

I had my own glucose tabs but you can't fix a hypo with just that, I was just REALLY lucky that by this point my OH had arrived with my chair, or the outcome could have been very different! He had to walk half way round the hospital to find the trolly and get a sandwich!

Without him, I was stuck in a bed I cannot get out of, can barely change position in, in a side room with no alert bell to press, no view of the corridor either so no way to yell at passing people and no one glancing in as they pass.

So yes I think hospitals should be able to meet dietary needs! Sick of being told 'oh its easy to manage a sensible diet with your medical issues' and then told a hospital cannot manage it!

justasking111 · 06/05/2023 14:09

It's wise to presume there's no allowance made for dietary requirements and organise family to feed you. Yes it's that bad

Natsku · 06/05/2023 14:16

It is really bad if a hospital can't provide appropriate food for a diabetic, or anyone other medical dietary requirement.

justasking111 · 06/05/2023 14:19

Natsku · 06/05/2023 14:16

It is really bad if a hospital can't provide appropriate food for a diabetic, or anyone other medical dietary requirement.

So is waiting 36 hours in A&E when you've had a stroke as my neighbour had to Three months ago.

It's like MASH out there

Natsku · 06/05/2023 14:21

justasking111 · 06/05/2023 14:19

So is waiting 36 hours in A&E when you've had a stroke as my neighbour had to Three months ago.

It's like MASH out there

That is beyond bad, that's 'this is no longer a functioning country' bad

LividHouse · 06/05/2023 14:26

So sorry you’re going through this.

As a survivor of two ectopics I know how horrendous it is.

I’m only alive today because my first one ruptured while I was in hospital (unknown at the time).

I hope you find some calm eventually.

Eggseggseverywhere · 06/05/2023 14:29

Going off my previous GP surgery I would have had to make an appointment on cycle day 1 ncase of ectopic at 6 weeks.. Or uploaded pics of my In Pain face..
Hopeful of better care at new practice... Who were horrified previous GP haven't requested my blood pressure be checked since 2015....
Hope you are OK now op.

Whatthediddlyfeck · 06/05/2023 14:35

So sorry to read your update x

Kendodd · 06/05/2023 14:36

I hope you recover well OP.
Honestly, I could cry for the state of our country.
I know Ukrainians go back to a fucking war zone to access healthcare because the UK has been run down so much.
I also feel for the staff.
They must know some people are seriously ill in the waiting room and just can't get to them because they're busy dealing with other seriously ill people.

justasking111 · 06/05/2023 14:45

Whatthediddlyfeck · 06/05/2023 14:35

So sorry to read your update x

Well we don't actually know if it's bad news yet

saxendaqs · 06/05/2023 15:05

@justasking111 she's having an ectopic pregnancy. That is the bad news!

TeaKitten · 06/05/2023 15:05

justasking111 · 06/05/2023 14:45

Well we don't actually know if it's bad news yet

She said it’s ectopic, very insensitive to suggest it wouldn’t be bad news, she’s not going to be happy about it is she.

greenplan · 06/05/2023 16:40

So sorry op, I hope you are receiving good care now

88milesanhour · 06/05/2023 16:52

Really sorry OP but really relieved you're in the right place. All the best x x x

labamba007 · 06/05/2023 18:09

@LadyKenya she didn't rock up there for nothing. And I get what you mean, but I don't understand why people are having a go at OP when the biggest issue is lack of funding and care in the NHS.