To say it goes downhill in your late thirties?

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Almost 38 and over the past year or so noticed-
Thinning hair to the point where even my hairdresser asked why it was like that.
Some grey pubes.
A stomach that is starting to resemble a beer belly despite me being teetotal and eating sensibly.
A double chin. See the above.
Fine lines around the eyes.
Feel like my best days are over and there's no point in even trying to look good now. Aibu to say if anyone else noticed a real decline in their looks from late thirties?

Wait until you're in your 50s!
Sounds like you're on a bit of a downer. Maybe try a change of skincare / haircare routine? I bet you look just fine.

Nope 48 was the year for me

No 🤷🏻‍♀️

This is hilarious! I'm 20 years older..... still trying to fight the grey, but failing 🤣

Not at all. I'm 43 and feel very happy with how I look.

I'm 39, and Ive massively aged in the last 2 years. Until 35 or so I noticed a few lines and greys but nothing huge.

Now I feel like I'm getting a saggy jowly face, I look exhausted, and my whole body is wobblier.

I embraced the grey at 40 and haven't looked back -my hair is in much better condition and suits me much more. But, I've also found that turning 50 give me much more of a "fuck it" attitude to life, and actually, that has helped to make me feel (and therefore look) better

It’s having kids that finished me off…🥹

I was diagnosed with lupus 3 years back and am on methotrexate so maybe that explains it but I do feel sad that I don't have what used to be my lovely hair, nice figure and fresh faced look. I feel and look exhausted all the time and it shows.

But, I do do more stuff to my skin these days (love my Foreo Bear for keeping on top of jowls), plus exercise, not enjoying the reduced metabolism mind

It ebbs and flows. I was fine till 42, then looked gradually worse to the point of terrible until I was 50. Since then I've looked my best ever. It depends on my weight hormones, and how much time and money I'm investing in my appearance at the time. Hanging on by my finger tips now though and no doubt got another decline coming up soon, which will probably be permanent.

There's a woman at my strength training class who is in her 50s. Looked in her late thirties/early 40s I was genuinely amazed. Thick hair, great skin, slim and toned. I reckon exercise must be the fountain of youth or something. Never too late to start. It helps blood circulation which helps the skin. All that protein you'll need to eat will be good for your hair etc.

Yes late 30s early 40s Its downhill. Most of the ambitions or milestones have been reached.
DW and I had travelled, India, Mid East Done. Kids? Yes. Decent house, career on a good path. DW back to studying nearly qualified in New Profession. All good
So now what do we aim for?
We need new ambitions probably joint ones.
NOT renovating an old car or learning to ride a motorbike.

REMEMBER an ambition achieved no longer motivates. Think on. You need new ambitions.

I'd say it's a combination of ageing and lupus - but you can get a new haircut, try some new makeup, wear different colours/styles to life the way you look, and lift your mood.

I have an autoimmune condition and the meds - and/or menopause- have thinned my hair a bit. Keeping on top of the greys helps me to cope with my disappointing hair.

I felt like this last year, since then I've lost over 4 stone go to the gym/gym class 4 times a week, eat healthier and drink a lot of water, my hair and skin look great, I feel so much better, I sleep better. Still got a few fine lines but that's from all the laughter. I'm 38. If you feel that way take control and do something, you'll feel better about things.

No, it's not all downhill - even though my body might have had it's best days, my mind has not. I enjoyed life when I was younger and I enjoy it even more now.

Certainly downhill body and looks wise but uphill on other ways. Depends what you value.

Im late 30s but I still like the way I look despite the aging!

My hair is thin, so I have hair extensions.
I’ve changed my skin routine and makeup to suit my older skin.
Im grey AF (started mid 20s) but that’s why hair dye exists.
I gain weight easily so I diet when I need to and find flattering clothes that look good despite my wobbly bits.
Fine lines - yes we all have them, it doesn’t mean you are unattractive.
Grey pubes - I shave them all off and ignore the grey ones whilst doing it 🤣

Plus there are trade offs - better financial security, kids are more independent so I have some of my life back, and life just feels good generally. I wouldn’t swap it for the 20 something, duck pout instagram generation.

And aging is better than the alternative OP…

I don't feel that way. Am 56, 9 stone, lift weights, eat well and dress well. Also had a few fillers for volume which I absolutely love!

It all happened to me after the menopause. At 64 my hair is noticeably thinner than it was even when I was in my fifties.

It might be worth getting a blood test to check for thyroid issues.

Mid 40’s after surgical menopause for me.

I previously looked as if I was still in my 30’s then suddenly I looked my age overnight.
I’m also weaker than I was -despite having more defined muscles due to working out more. I used to be able to dig out trees, hump the tumble drier around etc and now I feel so feeble. I struggled to manhandle the garden recliner back into the shed the other day. Ridiculous!

no no down hill at all. 30s and 40s were great, but 50s were the best yet! and 60s look like shaping up really well too

You reach an age where you have the confidence to totally be yourself, not feel you have to conform in any way, and not care one iota what anyone else thinks

I hear that. I'm 37 this year and looking in the mirror makes me feel so utterly depressed. It's like I don't recognise myself. I look like a corpse unless I'm wearing mascara, I have crows feet whenever I smile or talk. My mental state isn't great either as a result. I know I should exercise and move about but I can't summon the will to. I used to be so fit and active and now I feel terrible.

No, visit yr GP that doesn’t sound normal.

I found that to be the case around mid-forties.