Partner told me to stop making a scene .....aibu?

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We went away for the bank holiday weekend.
It was £250 for two nights room only in the city centre of Manchester.
Anyway get to the hotel (we have stayed before ) and checked in
Got to the room and was met with the loudest outdoor air con units right outside our window.
Our view was literally air con units.
The air con was off in the room but the noise from them sounded like a plane taking off.
It was a tiny room right at the end of corridor and you couldn't even get into both sides of the bed.
There was no way I could sleep with that noise.
So I rang reception and the said straight away "oh yeah we get lots of people wanting to switch rooms "and to go down to reception and speak with manager.
Get off the phone to be met by my partner saying "I was making a scene and he was too embarrassed to go down to reception "
I don't understand I wasn't shouting,I was so polite
I said "hi we are on room 207 and just checked in ,explained the noise and the fact we were light sleepers and asked if anything could be done to move us to another room "

So partner wouldn't come to reception he literally hid on the landing whilst I went in
Manager was lovely and switched us rooms and apologised -no issue
Was I wrong to do this?
Should I just have stayed in that room and not slept ?

What a useless spineless twit.

My kids think I make a scene when I do things like this, but I wouldn’t expect a grown adult to agree with them.

Your partner is a total wimp. You did nothing wrong whatsoever! I also don't like how he told you that you were making a scene. Pipe down little woman, because I'm not manly enough to handle this.

Ick!

You did nothing wrong. My DP used to be a bit like this too at first, but he learned to get over it. There’s nothing wrong with a polite enquiry to change rooms - you weren’t making a scene, so why not? If I don’t like a room at a hotel, or a table at a restaurant, I always ask to change if possible… after all I’m paying good money for it!

I would have done exactly the same as you, in fact I've done it a few times.

Who want's a room at next to the aircon when there's a perfectly lovely room across the corridor that's exactly the same rate.

It's a standing joke in my family that no one unpacks until 'mum' has checked out the rooms.

It would be great if all hotel rooms were equal but unfortunately they are not. On our very first holidays abroad as a young family, we spent a miserable 2 weeks with a sick toddler in a room at the back with a view of the bins.

From that day on I have always researched and requested the best rooms or upgraded when ever possible.

Your partner is being very unreasonable.

Sorry OP but your partner is an asshole. My dear departed dad was exactly the samewhen I was a kid I had the temerity to ask politely for something in a restaurant that wasn't precisely on the menuwaiter said fine and they did it, no problem--but my dad blew up at me for "embarrassing him" and I didn't live it down for years in his view. This was very much his problem, not mine.

Bottom line: people in the hospitality industry would much prefer you ask nicely for them to change something rather than you keep silent and never come back, or bitch about them in a bad online review.

No idea why that bit of my post is crossed out, I didn't type that.

Looks like you used double dashes to create an aside; that causes strikethrough.

I had this once when I travelled with an now ex-boyfriend. Room was dreadful, but he didn't want to be 'that hotel guest'. I got us switched to a much nicer room ... and quickly went off him.

No, you weren’t making a scene and handled the situation marvellously.
Is your husband on the shy side and often afraid of any social confrontations? The type to never send a meal back to the kitchen?

He’s lucky to have you.

Tell him to go on an assertiveness training course. He is a wet wipe.

I'm someone who absolutely hates 'making a scene' but in this situation even I think your partner was being absolutely ridiculous. Assuming you were polite to the staff when you asked if they could move you, you didn't do anything remotely weird or embarrassing. Your request was totally reasonable and they were able to move, so there was no 'scene' being made at all!

Hotel staff are completely used to requests/complaints like yours - they won't have thought anything of it, honestly! it's not an issue for them to move you or apologise for something like a noisy room or whatever.

I am a bit of a wuss with things like this as I find it a bit cringy, but there's no way I would not say anything and suffer a terrible night's sleep as a result! Years ago I may have just put up and shut up, but as I've got older I've realised life is too short to not get what you paid for!

DH and I now have a good cop/bad copy system with things like this. I go down your route of being really nice and saying "I'm really sorry to be a pain, but that room really isn't going to work for us. We're really light sleepers and the A/C units outside the window are just too loud. Do you have anything else that we can swap to?".

If they say no, then DH goes in with a bit of a stronger tone. That said, we've never had to resort to DH saying anything yet! I'd let him go first, but he's Mr Tactless, so would come across as rude and probably not get us anywhere!

More than reasonable!
He sounds like a wet lettuce IMO

Me too.

Wouldn't have an ounce of respect for him and would find it SO unattractive.

Total ICK.

Not the trait you want in a life partner....hiding behind your skirt.

Is your partner a Mumsnetter by any chance, who 'doesn't like confrontation'? 🙄

Bloody hell, does he jump at his own shadow? He sounds ridiculous.

Me neither

Oh ffs, I'd be really put off if my husband was like that. Of course you shouldn't put up with not being able to sleep in a hotel for goodness sake, it's one of the main reasons for booking one! YANBU.

You seem surprised by his attitude, OP. Is he a new partner?

Not really the point but I'd like to ask anyone who works in the industry, why do they put people in shitty rooms if they know they have nicer ones free? It doesn't cost them anything (I mean if they're similar rooms just better positioned) and they'll likely get a good review or repeat booking? What's the logic?

Some English people are strange about what they see as complaining. Your DH sounds like one of those people. For me, if a meal/ coffee/ hotel room etc isn’t fit for purpose, I’m gonna mention it politely and see that I get what I paid for. You did the right thing.

If you are paying your (probably hard-earned, net of taxes) money for a service you should expect to get that level of service. Over the years I've become much better at complaining politely but clearly if what I'm getting is not what I've paid for. Conversely I also have no problem giving praise where it's due. Thats life, no? 🌹

I had the same scenario elsewhere, we were not the only ones, and our rooms were changed. You were definitely not being unreasonable.