Partner told me to stop making a scene .....aibu?

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We went away for the bank holiday weekend.
It was £250 for two nights room only in the city centre of Manchester.
Anyway get to the hotel (we have stayed before ) and checked in
Got to the room and was met with the loudest outdoor air con units right outside our window.
Our view was literally air con units.
The air con was off in the room but the noise from them sounded like a plane taking off.
It was a tiny room right at the end of corridor and you couldn't even get into both sides of the bed.
There was no way I could sleep with that noise.
So I rang reception and the said straight away "oh yeah we get lots of people wanting to switch rooms "and to go down to reception and speak with manager.
Get off the phone to be met by my partner saying "I was making a scene and he was too embarrassed to go down to reception "
I don't understand I wasn't shouting,I was so polite
I said "hi we are on room 207 and just checked in ,explained the noise and the fact we were light sleepers and asked if anything could be done to move us to another room "

So partner wouldn't come to reception he literally hid on the landing whilst I went in
Manager was lovely and switched us rooms and apologised -no issue
Was I wrong to do this?
Should I just have stayed in that room and not slept ?

I hate people who "make a scene". What you were doing though is asserting yourself politely which is fine.

My boss rejects the first room offered as a principle.

Does H generally act like people are doing him a favour when they provide services he is entitled to?

He sounds like a right doormat.

My DH hates complaining about stuff or taking things back - even in a completely polite and professional way. It just makes in cringe inside. He also hates doing stuff in person - he'd rather arrange things over the phone or via email, and dislikes walking in somewhere first. I haven't really got to the bottom of why - he's a completely functional adult! I think he feels like he'll be made to look silly and he's not quick at thinking on his feet (me neither!). He has a very low tolerance for social awkwardness. However, he is EVER so grateful when I do these things and would never undermine me.

You obviously did the right thing. It's the least you can expect from a hotel. Has anything like this happened before? I'd have to have a chat with him about it.

He is ridiculous. It’s a perfectly reasonable request and you are not making a scene. I’d seriously find it off putting. I also wouldn’t want him in a scenario where he needed to advocate for you eg if you were giving birth and unable to do so - you need someone who will speak up when appropriate.

What a pansy! You didn't make a scene at all, it was a perfectly reasonable request and you got moved to a better room, what's the issue?

I have a friend like this. Bet he'll never walk into a restaurant first either? Natural born shadows.

A have a friend with a partner like yours, it drives me absolutely nuts- he’s so wet. You didn’t nothing wrong op, I’d have done exactly the same.

I'd doubt someone's knowledge of the English language if they referred to what you did as making a scene.

You spoke calmly and promptly.

Fearing confrontation and wanting to stay out of it? Fair enough. It's a bit OTT imo but many people have unusual hang-ups, sources of anxiety.

Trying to shame you for perfectly reasonable and sensible behaviour and telling you that he's too embarrassed to be in your presence? no. That's not okay.

He needs to grow a backbone.

Yes, I had one of those. I can't believe I put up with his behaviour for so long. You will feel such a relief when he's out of your life

No...he's happy to complain to OP if she displeases him.

I get this with my teenagers. I remember going to a hotel during a heatwave and we'd specifically booked one with aircon. On arrival the aircon didn't work. I insisted on moving rooms, and the kids were absolutely mortified, begging me not to complain etc. I was polite, and we got a different room, twice the size, with working aircon.

The crazy thing is it's the kids who'd moan the most if it was too hot to sleep!

I often wonder - in this situation and the OP's - why hotels allocate shit rooms if they have decent ones available. What do they gain from putting you in a crappy room when they're not full. At best they have the hassle of moving you if you complain, and at worst they might get a bad review.

My OH was like this. Polite assertiveness was not in his repertoire and he would cringe if I had to employ it.

I think the hotel were very unreasonable to let that room like a normal room when they know there is a problem. Did they move you, if they did then they obviously didn't need to use that room. I would be furious with them.

My OH is very similar in reactions as the OP's OH @MrsTerryPratchett .

a) I don't consider he is shaming me for starters. Different points of view because he is very unconfident that's all

b) I don't let it bother me at all, because I understand he is underconfident

c) I never said he congratulated me. I said he was happy - but that requires dragging it out of him every time and mostly nowadays I don't bother. As I said, we've been married almost 30 years and I KNOW him

d) My post was in agreement with a few others who say that people are being especially nasty about the OP's OH, when there is no need - the original post asked whether she was being unreasonable to have asked for a room change

e) I also said no-one is perfect. This would not be a hill for me to die on and all marriages need a bit of give and take (I'm not perfect either)

Oh dear

You do realise if you stay with him that any future issues (landlords/sellers/parents/teachers/ANYTHING will be down to you to sort?

You weren't rude or confrontational, he was an idiot

And it's not a problem that her partner didn't want to do it, it was him telling her that she was wrong that's the bigger problem

Making a scene is banging a fist on the reception desk and demanding to be MOVED, RIGHT NOW! Not this.
Making a scene is four rude Geordie women kicking off at reception after being presented with a bar bill from the night before. Not this.

The hotel probably banks on people like your dp not complaining so they can use their dud room at least some of the time.
You sorted it out - there was no reason for him to go to reception, too. Was he pleased you got a new room?

Eh? “Geordie women”?

Why not just women, or people?

Or are you one of those ignorant people who thinks all northerners are uncouth?

Nobody takes any notice of me otherwise I would do it but please, can someone popular start a thread about decent, manly, normal husbands who are lovely, thoughtful, kind and also have testicles? It's so depressing reading endless tales about weedy whiney little testosterone lacking babies 😀

Making a scene? What's wrong with that if its needed. Making a scene at Heathrow when Qatar Airways bumped my £3k qsuite down to economy with no compensation "because they can". Fuck that, that scene meant I slept flat for 6 hours thank very much. (Although some constraint is required in airports!)

We can't. You don't talk about good things on MN