I’m not furious, just irked. Maybe even just strongly miffed. But I’ve been thinking about it since yesterday and am now wondering if I’m being OTT for how much I keep coming back to it.
Hosted a family party for a big birthday yesterday. My sister came along but her DP wasn’t able to make it.
Once the food had been eaten, the kids were playing in the garden with water pistols and there ended up being a bit of ‘taking on the grown ups’ team thing with my sister, BIL and DH basically being set upon my DC and various cousins. All really lovely, lots of laughter, good natured fun.
I largely kept out of it but took some pictures at various points including a couple of photos of my sister with her water pistol.
She asked me to send them to her so she could send them to DP and I said I would but the game was ongoing so I didn’t do it immediately. A few minutes later she asked if she could see them, I opened my photo reel and showed her, she started scrolling through them and we were laughing at them.
DS fell over and scraped his arm, so I nipped over to pick him up and check he was ok while she was still looking at the phone. It took basically a minute, he was fine, she gave me my phone back afterwards.
A while later once we’d all sat down / dried off / had cake she mentioned in passing her DP thought he needed to buy her a water pistol as she was having so much fun. I said ‘oh, I’ll send those photos over so you can send them to him’ and she matter-of-factly said ‘oh no it’s fine I sent them all to myself from your phone on WhatsApp and sent them on.’
Checking WhatsApp later she had indeed sent herself all the photos I'd taken - not just of her but also the kids/everyone else.
I didn’t say anything about it at the time (and even after the fact I’ll not mention it to her because she has a tendency in the family to (a) push boundaries and (b) cause drama that I just can’t be arsed to get involved in or kickstart by mentioning it to her.
But AIBU to find it an invasion of privacy? DH and I know each other’s phone codes but I wouldn’t even do that with his phone without asking first.
To be clear, we have a locked family photo stream thing and I'd have added most of them to it anyway a bit later, we were just wrangling kids/hosting etc so I didn't do it immediately.
Posting on mobile so I can’t enable a poll sadly but I’m intrigued to know other people’s perspectives on phone privacy. I definitely won’t be passing her my phone again any time soon.