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Left over chinese

107 replies

Sophie89j · 29/04/2023 07:26

Light hearted(ish), I’m completely expecting people to say IABU however I think I’m not and I am slightly devastated by this.

So I went to bed early last night after we had a Chinese take away, I’d left my leftover plate in the microwave in the dream of being able to pick at a bit of chow mein when I indefinitely get up several times throughout the night with the baby.

I was up with baby at 1ish, I was so exhausted but I noticed my plate had been moved, didn’t think anything of it in a zombie state.

Got up at 5 with baby for the day, realised what I’d noticed at 1 then the penny dropped, my plate had been cleared or eaten or something, whatever, the leftover Chinese food I had been savouring in the hopes of a pick me up had vanished.

DH must have eaten it, AIBU to be boiling inside at the shear audacity that he’s eaten my leftovers?! He had his own food but no, he’s also decided to eat my leftovers?!

I’ve checked the food bin, he hasn’t scrapped my plate as there was quite a bit left. I highly doubt our 11, nearly 12 year old ate it as I don’t think he would have had the balls.

I’ve WhatsApp’d DH, accusing of eating my plate. Is this grounds for divorce?!

OP posts:
CurlewKate · 29/04/2023 08:26

"Do you normally message each other in the same house?"

We do-doesn't everyone? How else do people get cups of tea?

gingercat02 · 29/04/2023 08:29

Leftovers is almost entirely the point of ordering takeaway. I have pizza from last night and I had Chinese for lunch on Tuesday from last Friday's takeaway. (I'm now expecting some people to faint from shock)

Microwave storage is perfectly reasonable for a few hours btw, it stops cats eating things but it's not fridge cold so can be eaten straight away!

Deadpalm · 29/04/2023 08:31

QueSyrahSyrah · 29/04/2023 07:59

And to think the human race survived for thousands of years before fridges! 🙄

I'm always a bit stunned by the high level food poisoning paranoia on this site that I just don't encounter in real life. It's one thing to be cautious yourself, it's a new level to randomly attack someone else for their extremely low risk choices.

OP can you start packing his things? This is a true LTB situation.

I need to find these irl somewhere. Long time ago a friend had a colleague who was stuk up on dates on EVERYTHING and never eat her fruit and veg she got for meals before date passed. Friend had free supply😂
I need to find me one like that and eill happily take care of unrefrigerated leftovers too😂
#savingstips

Hadjab · 29/04/2023 08:32

Sophie89j · 29/04/2023 07:37

Also want to point out as a family we don’t eat through the night, I was in bed by 8pm but with the whole leaving it in the microwave over night thing, it’s only me who does this for whatever is left on my plate after only having Chinese, which is a once in a blue moon scenario.

I’ve never had food poisoning before and considering this is supposed to me a bit lighthearted I do love the jumping the food poisoning conclusion.

I often leave food in the microwave or the oven. I’ve only had food poisoning twice, both times it was from eating food outside of my home. If you and your family want to eat through the night, then go ahead - it’s nobody’s business but your own.

KezzaMucklowe · 29/04/2023 08:37

I knew as soon as I saw the food in the microwave comment that it would become a thing.
OP yabu.
Ltb.

KezzaMucklowe · 29/04/2023 08:38

Sorry.
Fat fingers.
Op. Yanbu.
Ltb

Bobbybobbins · 29/04/2023 08:39

He needs to get his lazy arse out of bed, apologise for eating your food then cook you a lovely meal today!

FixTheBone · 29/04/2023 08:40

Reading this. Glad this sort of thing doesn't happen in our house....

Come downstairs.

Salt and pepper chips have gone. 😬

Lcb123 · 29/04/2023 08:42

I would have told him. If you’d told him, and then he’d eaten it, fair enough. And I can’t see any issue with leaving it in the microwave. Surprised how obsessed people are with this!

ScottBakula · 29/04/2023 08:42

@Sophie89j ooooh you have woken up all the food police!

I love @SinnerBoy idea , evil genius 😀

I no longer have a microwave but I often put leftover food in the oven when I am on night call shifts so I can snack on it when I fancy.
It's better than putting warm food in the fridge ( food police will jump on you for this too ) I also don't like my food very cold , esp things like spring rolls , samosas, onion bargi , and anything noodly ( and no I am not going to put the oven on to warm up a small snack)

Heronwatcher · 29/04/2023 08:43

Did you tell him that you were planning on eating it? Do you normally leave food in the microwave which you intend to go back to? If either of these is true YANBU, but if you didn’t mention it and you’ve never done it before then YABU- I think he just assumed you didn’t want it.

Original poster
Sophie89j · 29/04/2023 08:45

@FixTheBone oh my goodness! It feels like a betrayal doesn’t it?!

My DH doesn’t even like the spicy salted chips but he freaking managed to eat mine last night!!

Adding onto how others say leftovers are fair game, surely if it’s your plate that you dished up this isn’t the case?

Microwaves also prevent those pesky house flies which are starting to spawn again this time
of year? 🙄😂 Maybe I’m wrong and microwaves are an evil appliance…

OP posts:
Mumof4alsoabonus · 29/04/2023 08:50

Stealing food is never ok! Stealing it from a mum doing night feeds, definitely grounds for divorce. I may give him one more chance if he replaces it asap. Has to be said though, please, please don’t leave the replacement in the microwave for hours. Just because you haven’t had food poisoning doesn’t mean you won’t.

TheoriginalMrsDarcy · 29/04/2023 08:50

It's soooo annoying ... Its defcon 1 in my house. I had leftovers in the fridge, all day long at work I was relishing about eating my leftovers for dinner. When I got home, husband had eaten it all!!!! He ate all his the night b4. I went berserk! Erupted, like a volcano at him. You have grounds for a divorce.

LuckySantangelo35 · 29/04/2023 08:51

Some super greedy and entitled men on her

their needs and wants come first in their eyes clearly

strawberryfluff · 29/04/2023 08:51

QueSyrahSyrah · 29/04/2023 07:59

And to think the human race survived for thousands of years before fridges! 🙄

I'm always a bit stunned by the high level food poisoning paranoia on this site that I just don't encounter in real life. It's one thing to be cautious yourself, it's a new level to randomly attack someone else for their extremely low risk choices.

OP can you start packing his things? This is a true LTB situation.

They might have survived but still got the shits

FeltedDogs · 29/04/2023 08:53

I have 9 cats. Anything I value lives in the microwave. And if food is still warm, I put it there to cool rather than put it in the fridge which isn't great either. I'm still alive even though I keep food in the micro, have 9 cats and share ice creams with my dog (she gets 2 licks to 5 of mine) mind you, I also smoke and have a big car so I guess I'm not your average poster

IClaudine · 29/04/2023 08:53

Yanbu. There os nothing worse than anticipating a tasty treat only to find a greedy husband has hoovered it up.

But maybe you will get your revenge if the food police are proved right and he is struck down by food poisoning.

Did you check the fridge?

strawberryfluff · 29/04/2023 08:53

Sophie89j · 29/04/2023 08:11

Also he hasn’t submerged yet however he has been active on WhatsApp with no reply as of yet! He must be absolutely petrified!

To the MNer’s who are bound to call me some
sort of stalker for checking his WhatsApp status, I am currently in sleeping baby jail on the sofa with little else to do other than stalk and potentially plan his disastrous demise.

No I think that's fair enough. If he makes a habit of lolling about in bed on his phone while you're dealing with the tough shit I'd want to know if he was actually sleeping or if he was just watching porn or something.

daffodilandtulip · 29/04/2023 08:57

LTB. Leftovers are sacred.

Flokibeard · 29/04/2023 09:01

I might start a new thread entitled "Is it unreasonable to be obsessed with giving an opinion on something when it's not been asked for? Or is it a bit sad?"

Yes you are unreasonable being obsessed with a stranger's eating habits when they've not been asked for. Go get a sodding life or go clean your fridge again.

As for you OP. YADNBU and your DH needs to buy you a replacement Chinese just for you ASAP or something else suitably grovelling like offering you tear-stained 'I owe you anything you like' vouchers.

whoruntheworldgirls · 29/04/2023 09:20

I would be so pissed at that! He had his meal! He owes you another chinese. Thankfully my husband wouldn't eat my leftovers as i have a dish he hates Grin
My 6yr old on the other hand would inhale it given half a chance!

LuckySantangelo35 · 29/04/2023 09:21

FeltedDogs · 29/04/2023 08:53

I have 9 cats. Anything I value lives in the microwave. And if food is still warm, I put it there to cool rather than put it in the fridge which isn't great either. I'm still alive even though I keep food in the micro, have 9 cats and share ice creams with my dog (she gets 2 licks to 5 of mine) mind you, I also smoke and have a big car so I guess I'm not your average poster

@FeltedDogs

you do know your dog will lick her own arse don’t you

ItsCalledAConversation · 29/04/2023 09:22

YANBU OP, LTB. This is unforgivable. I’m so sorry for your loss Flowers

cocoloco117 · 29/04/2023 09:46

Come for the lighthearted posts about leftovers, stay to be interrogated about food hygiene and
Whasapping instead of “using your words”.